“Too self absorbed to be a mum”

I think you’re projecting here actually. She’s said she didn’t use them, I assume because people will ask, and also it’s ok to be proud of herself for doing it with pure willpower alone.

She’s not shamed peope, she’s barely mentioned it other than to say she’s not used them.

I use Mounjaro, it deffo makes it easier for me to lose weight. It’s not easy, it’s still bloody hard, but it’s easier. I don’t know why you felt so triggered by this

Read again, she put ‘.5’ as in half

.5 stone, not 5 stone.

im slightly confused by you saying you still have another 5 stone to go when you started as a size 12/14- is that a typo?

It’s another .5 stone she says she needs to lose - half a stone.
I didn’t get that she was shaming anyone using glp1 from her original post either. All I got was a huge sense of happiness and achievement at how far she’s come and how MIL has tried to slap her down.

You're taking it way too personally.

Do you, work out, get your dream bod if it's important.

I your mil keeps saying it is get your dh to speak to her. There’s lots of reasons couples don’t have children.
Your SIL was just repeating a silly thing you say.
It’s a decision for you as a couple. I’d just say you aren’t discussing children or lack of with her.
She perhaps thought you were losing weight to try and conceive/have a healthy pregnancy but nothing to do with her.

That was a needlessly nasty thing to say. I would want to know if my husband has been talking about with his mum and sister. FWIW I had older 2 kids when I was in my early 20s. Love being their mum but in hindsight I wish I’d had waited a bit longer to grow up a bit and do stuff that was just for me.

I want to write a book about Avery Heroine... she sounds cool.

I think you will look a bit odd bringing this up at a later date. Just be prepared to shut her down next time she mentions something about your body or having children. Something along the lines of “that’s interesting Sue but it’s none of your business really “

If 'a point' means 'a spiteful remark that's complete bollocks', then sure.

Otherwise, no.

I don't think addressing it directly after the fact is going to work. I would 100% be prepared for the next comment and how you'll respond. Think about what you'll say when she says anything about having children and how you're giong to shut it down.

You could also go down the slightly passive aggressive route and make a few "jokey" comments like, "I'm off to the gym now MIL, see you later. I know, I know, SOOOOOO self absorbed of me but you can have lovely mummy son time with DH which will be BRILLIANT for you. You won't get that when the babies come....".

But I don't really recommend it. It's unlikely to help your relationship long term.

I love that you feel confident and happy. That’s ace.
They sound particularly unpleasant. Maybe they’re a bit jealous or can’t bear to see women doing well.
Do you have to see them this weekend? I’d be tempted to not go. If you do see them I think it’s a bit late to address this particular comment but be prepared for future comments and challenge them there and then.

Who pissed on your chips?

how did she shame people who use injections?

Gosh there’s a lot of nasty ones out today!

This, don’t stew on it

Do you feel better after saying that?

How in God's name is stating she lost weight without injections 'shaming' anyone??

Cop yourself on.

There are lots of threads on here from grown adults who are still upset because of how self-absorbed their parents were. There are also daily threads from women moaning about how self-absorbed their husbands are and how difficult they find it.

I would also describe myself as being pretty self-absorbed and selfish which is why I would never become a parent.

Ok, just pause a moment. Are you doing all this because it makes you look good, or because it makes you feel fit and healthy?

When/ if the time comes and you decide to have a child, you will change shape, get wobbly, have stretch marks and probably gain weight and lose those showy muscles.

If feeling fit and healthy is the thing, you’ll embrace those changes and still feel good.
If looking good is what matters, you’ll be unhappy and feel ugly.

I don’t agree it’s self-absorbed, but it does raise an interesting point about where you go from here.

Well done on your new found confidence but is 24 pounds really an unbelievable amount?

Are you jealous?

Well done for losing weight and shaming people who use injections in one post. Nothing wrong with loving the stage you are at in life, if you need injections, just to let you know, it isnt actually harder work not using them, just a different set of challenges. Might need to be a bit nicer before you have children, and if you need to lose 5 stone, a lot fitter and healthier too.

she sounds a delight ! Sadly my mother and sister are like this and would bitch about my partner in the same way. At first he kept quiet, then decided to fight back with sarcasm started saying ‘I am in the room you know!’ to point out their rudeness. They’ve stopped doing it now (after a few comments of ‘so sensitive!’)

They still vollied the odd side swipe about him to me but I would normally have some comeback that referred to their OH shortcomings.

I’ve generally gone low contact with them now as there was a whole host of other stuff going on, that was just tip of a large iceberg. It’s fun when you are part of the gang, not so much when it’s directed at you.
ive come to the conclusion that it’s part jealousy, part ignorance.
they are like the living breathing version of the daily mail, if they don’t understand it , then it must be bad.
I wouldn’t waste the energy of anything too heartfelt with your MIL, it’s likely you will be wasting your time and it will just give her something else to bang on about.
next time she asks about kids just say ‘I’m too absorbed and vain apparently’.

Your SIL sounds like she was just trying to deflect the question, probably her roll growing up, maybe not though, it’s all in the tone.

Also, where is your husband in all this? He should be at the very least on your side and at the best telling her to keep her opinions to herself (but he may understandably not see the problem as he grew up with it).

His attitude towards this is important as it will be crucial going forward once you have had children.
in the meantime, bloody well done you for getting yourself to such a great place. Child carrying, rearing etc is an huge toll on your body so nothing wrong with aiming for the best body you can beforehand as it will help recovery. Go for those abs!
(FWIW I lost a load of weight and 53 and got surprisingly visible abs so it can be done at any age).