AIBU to raise concerns about screaming from the neighbouring nursing home?

Use of anti psychotic medication or sedation needs to be used with caution in elderly residents, especially those that are a falls risk.

I have strong feelings about this issue. I feel that it is accepted that someone with a dementia will scream. I don't feel that is necessarily the case. There can be various interventions which can alleviate a person's distress. One intervention is additional staff, while another can be occupational interventions, or is the person in pain.The very last resort may be medication. Why should anyone be left in distress for most of the time.
I would certainly speak to the Manager to advise how distressed the person sounds. It may well be fear and loneliness if left alone for long periods.

Becsuse it can be a fine balance between keeeping somone calm and oversedating them

It is awful that we allow people to be tortured like this. Why can't we give them medication? Who would want to be living this this-and I'm sorry it also impacts on you, OP, but it is terrifying to think many of us/the people we love will be in this situation. I was really angry when someone said my relative with dementia wasn't really suffering because she didn't know she was screaming-between bouts, she'd tell us it was like being trapped in a nightmare, in pain and totally aware.
We've moved beyond saying it's ok to do things to newborns without anaesthesia, and are starting to question some gynae things women were supposed to just put up with once, so why are we allowing older people to just suffer like this?
Even if she's not your relative, as a human being, ask if they can do something.

And yet Assisted Dying is the thing touted as inhumane. Who on earth would want to finish their life screaming in a care home for days, weeks, months, potentially years. Just incredibly cruel.

Dementia is awful and many people with dementia scream, a lot.

you can tell the home but honestly, I’m sure they’re aware and there’s probably very little they can do about it.

I’ve worked on hospital wards where people will scream and scream and shout “help me” over and over again, when you go to them they smile and ask for a cup of tea. Once they’ve drunk their tea they go back to screaming.

for some people it’s fear, for others it’s behavioural. It’s not fun for anyone involved but unfortunately it’s often part of the condition and you complaining won’t change a thing. Asking to change her room could potentially make them worse as a change of environment often has a serious detrimental effect on people with dementia.

Sounds like the poor lady has dementia. I would speak to the manager, they may be able to swap her room or make sure windows etc. are closed to dampen the noise.

Speak to the Manager and she'll probably be able to change the room.

Hopefully that will help. If it doesn't, keep a diary and record the noise.

Yes, I would contact them. You can do so sensitively.

Same happened a few years ago to us, lady screaming for her dead sister. It did turn out to be dementia as I called around but it's a difficult one to deal with

I say you are being unreasonable, but at the same time need to say something.
I worked in Dementia nursing and over the years had residents who screamed a lot! Nothing we could do about it really, some don't even know they are doing it. We did have new neighbours move in and complain a lot. They'd knock and tell us to shut them up etc. When we had a "loud" resident we would try to move them to a room that was away from neighbours if possible. So maybe walk round and speak to the manager and see if there's any way the resident can be moved to a room away from your house as it's upsetting the children when they hear it. Please don't them to 'shut that woman up" That'll get you nowhere.

It is awful OP, and it’s one thing if it’s occasional but regularly hearing this is distressing. I’d make them aware of the impact it’s having on your family and young child, maybe they will consider a room move at least so that the noises less impactful.

Dementia is awful. Elderly wards in hospitals have the same problems.

It's awful . You could explain your children are worried and ask the manager if it's possible to move this patient to a room further away from your house. Of course, she will be keeping other patients awake too .

It’s almost certainly a patient with dementia and this might be the dementia wing. I’d ask to see the manager.

I would contact the care home, personally. They may not realise how far the noise carries. It sounds like it's likely a medical issue. I have worked with dementia patients and prolonged screaming isn't uncommon unfortunately.