Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

No just no, my partner of 23 years does things that I tolerated in my 20's but gross me out now, dont settle, move on before its too late.

It sounds a bit shallow tbh. Especially if he had other good traits
Maybe it’s not really the crisp habit that is putting you off but something you have acknowledged?

I think you need to try an honest conversation about the crisp habit and everything that goes with it as he probably doesnt realise it bothers you. The unwashed smelly hands, breaking the bag and not putting it in the bin are pretty off-putting and bit teenage boy behaviour! The attitude to food abroad also sounds like posturing. How much is this showing off (in a blokey way) and how much is it a sign that he is very resistant to change even to the extent of trying some different food abroad? Can you live with this or will you become increasingly irritated especially if you live together? Not a blame situation except for the crisp bags but you need that honest talk to see where you both are before the moving in happens.

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In my experience people get really weird about people who have a restrictive diet.
I genuinely don’t like food. It’s a source of huge anxiety for me and that is usually due to other people and their judgment or obsession with making me eat things I don’t want.
If people would just leave me alone I’d be fine but they don’t and they judge me harshly.
I won’t try the local food when I travel. But that doesn’t make me less of a person than someone who enjoys trying local cuisine.

I’ve been called childish, boring, uneducated, unsophisticated and I’ve even been told I must be crap in bed ( weird response tbh!). I’ve also been told I shouldn’t have children as they’ll just copy me.

The amount of judgement is just bizarre.

Sounds like a normal person to me ! Let the bloke enjoy his crisps. I can eat exactly that wvery day as I love crisps and I too tip my head back to get the bits out. I just assumed most people did 🤣 i dont do the blow up thing but have done in the past. Might give it a go next time I have a bag

Except it's not really fair to maintain a relationship with this guy if she has reservations. If she's got the ick 7 months in then 10 years down the line the marriage is going to be a train wreck and the impact on him will be immense, he could end up 50% access to his kids. She might be willing to go ahead on that basis but he might not. People are going to have their lives ruined and they both need to make this decision with their eyes open.

it obviously upset(s) you enough to bring it up on here so you need to just ask yourself if you can accept this for the rest of your life. If yes then carry on with the relationship and see where it goes, if no then cut it off now. If he or his habit give you 'the ick' then maybe time to move on.

I wouldn't judge anyone for either, but I would find those traits not compatible with what I was looking for in a partner. I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to be with someone whose tastes and interests align with yours.

One earning all the money, paying "for me", providing "for me", and doing his own housework won't work either. At least his crisp eating isn't exploitative. OP is absolutely in the wrong here, and it's nothing to do with healthy eating or "sophisticated crisps".

On the surface it sounds a silly thing. But if you settle down together you will be eating together so your habits need to align. One into healthy living and one gorging on junk won’t work.

Is this for real?;! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes dump him.... For his sake as if you're this nuts over crisps, god knows how bad you'll be over important stuff, lol

Why do people get so angry about others not eating local food when abroad? These same people get angry when people don’t want to travel to other countries.

I wonder what is worse - not going abroad or going but not eating the local food?

Really weird that people are judged for this.

She’s offended by the idea that she should have to pay for anything- as he’s well off I wonder if that’s why they have been together a while.

She seems to want a traditional set up with full financial support but also someone who will step up and do all the domestic stuff.

I'm not a big crisp eater, but this thread has be putting a dent in a bag. Torres, olive oil, though, so clearly I'm not afraid of Spanish food 😂

Do him a favour and dump him - set him free to find a fellow crisp lover and live his best life

Personally, I would not find this awful. Although inflating and popping the bag makes him sound 15 not 32. Not washing hands, a bit yuk but you decide if this is enough to put the kibosh on the relationship.

Maybe he needs to know that this really, really bothers you

I think I might be your boyfriend

If he ate the savoury snacks ( because I refuse to call them crisps 🤣) binned the packets and then washed his hands that’s fine .
But not eating local food In Spain ?
turn off

Crisps aside, if you were really into this guy I don't think you would be on here asking.

Yes, this is the bit that would give me the ick. Why on earth wouldn't you pay for things? It sets up an imbalance and weird dynamic.

Hm, I fear that if you would like a man who is going to be a traditional provider AND will also be an equal partner with domestic chores, you might be narrowing the field too much.

Shouldn't someone who pays for your meals, provides most of the money etc can expect his laundry to be done for him in return?

(I'm being a bit tongue-in-cheek but I'm just not convinced that we can expect to have it both ways in life - aka the princess treatment from 'traditional' masculine providers without having in turn to take on a traditional 'feminine' role. Sounds like a nightmare to me to be stuck with that. But each to their own...)

The crisp thing sounds horrifying. Eating them... fine if he's not horrifically unhealthy in other ways (and personally I think your association of kettle chips with classiness is a bit silly - monster munch rule!). But the other stuff around it... hmmm. Doesn't sound amazing. Love conquerors all they say but i'd have to be very sure of being in love with someone to accept that.

There's nothing wrong with skips or monster munch, but they're very much UPF and full of crap.

Kettle chips are potato,salt and oil. So in that way, yes they actually are better.

I am off to get some crisps

‘Not bad looking’ you barely fancy the man even before the crisps so throw him back. Men do eat more than women though (or should) so I’m sure lots of them eat crisps - especially on holiday.

To be fair I like crisps more than I like more of most people. The tip head back thing I thought everybody did? How else do you get the very last bit of fatty Salty goodness out ?

However the rest all does sound pretty grim I would not be impressed by someone who went abroad and didn't try the food Or he sprayed me with crisp crumbs 'cause they blew up the bag and popped it like 5 year old. Also I need to point out that Monster Munch aren't crisps they're a corn snack - nor are things like Pringles which are basically made out of mulch space Raiders /quavers /skips I have had to point this out in the past to people who brought me these things when I've asked for crisps.