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Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

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Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

OP posts:
TheUniqueBlueZebra · 04/07/2026 19:16

Your 7 months in and you have the ick from his habits, that won't change by the way just because your with him.

So just imagine when you move in together and you find yourself finding crisp packets not only in the bed but also down the side of the sofa or stashed somewhere else! this habit won't just disappear.

But dear, it's sounds like your just not that into him, so go find someone who can match your standards.

thejennyb · 04/07/2026 18:59

If it upsets you enough to write this post, it won’t stop bothering you and nor should it. Tell him how disgusted you are, especially when you get showered by spitty crisp crumbs. If he changes the habit, great. If he doesn’t, you have a decision to make

AnnoraFoyle · 04/07/2026 18:58

"Sophisticated crisps" - oh ffs!

Stop making up stupid excuses and dump him if you're not into him.

MMUmum · 04/07/2026 18:51

Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

You don't like this habit? Fair enough, but it's not fair of you to ask him to stop, if it gives you the ick then you need to leave him and find someone you are more compatible with, you can't mould someone into how you want them to be

GreyRockChic · 04/07/2026 18:51

My gosh - this man sounds like my spirit animal! When you do dump him, send him my way 🤣

VORA80 · 04/07/2026 18:50

Dumping someone decent, because they eat crisps too often and not the right type?? Coercive control the first thing on ppls minds, with no evidence or reason, other than someone paying for their partner (god forbid!!) And not being adventurous with food?!? Wow...what has happened to ppl and their firat world problems and assumptions...wish this is all i had to worry about in life...just WOW!! Have an actual word with urselfs and remind urselves what "real problems" are and then thank urselves lucky u obviously actually have any!!!

Aspire5253 · 04/07/2026 18:46

2 years in and you never pay for anything but moan when he eats a bag of crisps! You’re lucky he’s not dumping you, I would

PorridgeEater · 04/07/2026 18:46

If this is annoying now it would be even more annoying to live with. It doesn’t sound as though you are compatible.

Defult · 04/07/2026 18:43

Personally I think that you need to grow the hell up maybe you should just stay single

Fivebyfive2 · 04/07/2026 18:37

Spicyseniorita7 · 30/06/2026 22:23

In my opinion, there's nothing wrong with preferring a man to pay for me and having traditional values. I want the man I marry to be able to provide for me and our future family- I don't want to be penny pinching when I'm on maternity leave or begging him for pennies.

So many of my dates have consisted of men expecting that I pay for my own dinner and glass of wine or worse, wanting to go for a walk like I'm some sort of border collie. I don't make loads in my job in the public sector and it is nice to have someone look after me and treat me from time to time. His family are very well off too. But he has been incredibly mollycoddled his entire life, has never really cooked a meal for himself and I had to show him how to use the washing machine. His mum does it for him usually (I didn't realise this until recently).

He sounds a bit immature, but on the other hand you sound incredibly entitled and a bit shallow.

Imagine expecting someone to provide everything for you, but begrudging them a few packets of skips 🤯

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 18:37

TheRhodesian · 04/07/2026 18:33

He's refusing to let her pay for anything. That's a true gent! He's not using her money at all! That's the exact opposite of coercive control.

She expects him to pay for
everything and do all the domestic stuff if they go long term.

It’s interesting they have been together a while and OP doesn’t particularly like him but he’s quite well off, and the OP had made it clear on here that she expects to be financially supported.

CharlieBT · 04/07/2026 18:35

Only if he’s eating them loudly. That’s not a relationship issue — that’s a human rights violation.

Kelticgold · 04/07/2026 18:33

“We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food“

Not even Ruffles Jamón Jamón??? 😱

TheRhodesian · 04/07/2026 18:33

misogynyisbigotry · 29/06/2026 23:43

I would leave him for the bit about not allowing you to pay for anything; that could easily spiral into economic abuse/coercive control if it isn't already.

He's refusing to let her pay for anything. That's a true gent! He's not using her money at all! That's the exact opposite of coercive control.

Anarchy99 · 04/07/2026 18:27

Jumpingoffthefence · 04/07/2026 18:10

It wouldn’t be the crisps for me if it was in isolation but from experience wildly different palates does drive a wedge. Don’t settle if this is important to you. Your ick is valid.

i do agree with that - if someone is such a food snob that other people’s diet matters to them, they are best avoided.

Neilszz · 04/07/2026 18:25

Simples, if you go into a relationship wanting to change the person. You are with the wrong person. A long term relationship means accepting the person for who they are. Not what you want them to be.

boringperson123 · 04/07/2026 18:21

Sounds like you’re just not that into him

Kim00000 · 04/07/2026 18:18

Is this an actual serious post? Seems like a complete joke. If it is serious get a grip OP

Cherrytree86 · 04/07/2026 18:15

@Spicyseniorita7

what is his physique like, Op? Can’t be too great what with eating so many packs of crisps a day I wouldn’t have thought

FloozyMcGee · 04/07/2026 18:14

I think if you are thinking about ending the relationship over this, there's not enough holding it together overall. Though as a person who can't stand hearing a person chewing crisps, it's more than enough reason.

linc100 · 04/07/2026 18:13

Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

Think a bit harsh,none of us in life are perfect,its about compromise in any relationship.talk to him.open up.settling down with someone,is about give and take,and there maybe things you do that he dont like.
Life is to short tend someth8ng good because he OD on crisps.there I've gave my advice for what its worth.

Jumpingoffthefence · 04/07/2026 18:10

It wouldn’t be the crisps for me if it was in isolation but from experience wildly different palates does drive a wedge. Don’t settle if this is important to you. Your ick is valid.

cheekybtch · 04/07/2026 18:06

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 29/06/2026 23:45

I'm not going to lie, the crisp snobbery made me laugh, like Kettle chips are any less crap for you than a pack of skips or monster munch.

But if something this minor is giving you the ick, then you're obviously not that into him.

DP has a good few gross habits, pretty much every human being does. They don't bother me much because I love her.

"Her"? But...but...but....women are perfect. I thought this was a woman writing. Are you a lesbian?

cheekybtch · 04/07/2026 18:04

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 29/06/2026 23:41

I couldn't be with someone who didn't eat Torres

Now you really are a crisps snob - I had never even heard of Torres. I thought Kettle were fancy enough!

EvieBB · 04/07/2026 10:38

DallazMajor · 03/07/2026 15:24

Im imagining being in a solicitors office filing for divorce. Reason : Eating chavvy crisps.

😂