Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

You are living in the wrong decade. Your posts read like rage bait. You should pay for yourself.

You have the ick and are not compatible. You would both be better alone or with other people.

The crisp eating wouldnt bother me. The dirty hands and crumb spraying and the not picking up after himself would.

Id try asking him to not be a scruff before I sacked him off

At the end of the day if you're going to be with someone for the long term then you're going to find things that annoy you about the person. It's basically guaranteed. Doesn't matter who you choose

I notice that in your list of his qualities you list them out like a product feature list. I didn't hear anything about what the actual nature of the relationship was. Does it feel like you have some fundamental compatibility..or if not compatibility then a dynamic that makes you want to be together.? What is that other than someone to pay for stuff?

What I hear is product features. And now a fault on the product has emerged and you're wondering whether to return it to the manufacturer.

I have news for you.. the next product you select will also have faults. They may not involve crisps or lack of adventurousness for foreign cuisine. But it will sure enough end up being something else. Possibly something dar more serious that doesn't emerge till later like controlling tendancies.

I'm not saying you should 'settle' for a slob.. but it sounds like he's not in most other respects.

I'm saying that you might want to reflect on what it actually is you're wanting from a long term relationship.

Due to consumer culture I do see more an attitude of treating a partner like a list of product features. I guess it makes sense. But that's isn't going to work . And I think it's why king term relationships are begining to die out.

I would suggest you take the sage advice which is that after the period of infatuation/ limerance which lasts from a few months to a year or two you will be confronted a human being with faults and stuff that annoys you and this will cause conflicts

So it sounds like you've hit your first one. Some of these.. .like the lack of interest in cuisine may be what John gottman calls perpetual problems. They cannot be solved but managed and you ultimately decide you can live with. The crisp eating habit may be a solvable one where you raise it. It may just be a habit he's had from being single and can change.

I was a smoker when I met my partner.i realised ultimately she wasn't keen on it. And I learnt to stop. That was actually a massive trust building thing for us.

Maybe try not attacking him but raising it with a soft start up such as 'hey you're a really great guy in so many ways but I noticed you eat crisps like a wild beast .lol. I know we all have our habits but I was wondering what's that about? I gotta be honest I do find it a tiny bit gross'. Etc

My partner of 17 years rarely reads books and I don't really like that lack of inquisitiveness. But she has many other qualities and we share many other things and I love her. There are plenty of things that annoy her about me. As she once joked near the beginning where I ended up loosing something.. 'you're definitely human and a bit of a weirdo but I love you anyway'.

What are they then?

Are you sure he doesn't have arfid or some kind of eating disorder and these are safe foods?

But eating together is a fundamental part of family life. If you value food, cooking and family meals, it clearly won’t work to be married to someone who only eats crisps, chicken nuggets and frozen pizzas.

I think you just have fundamentally different attitudes and priorities - for a person who values health, fitness and self control/restraint, eating three packets of crisps a day is not acceptable. I would find this revolting as it is greedy and lacks self discipline. It shows no care for the body.
It is greedy. Also not eating the local food on holiday is parochial.

It’s a bit like tattoos, I feel the body is beautiful and there’s something fundamentally wrong with the idea of enduring pain in order to deface it. Someone with lots of tattoos just fundamentally doesn’t share my values and priorities so I wouldn’t go out with them.

When I read this thread yesterday, I thought gosh, the whole tone of her posts is that she despises this poor guy. Wonder why she’s with him?

I come back today and all is clear.

He’s not vile. You, on the other hand…

He's clearly a monster. 👹

If you don't like his eating habits, you are at liberty to dump him.

Oooh, he sounds like a P I G pig but, just imagine how he’ll feel when he discovers you’re a self sabotaging pain in the neck that finds fault in everything in the world. Best of luck.

Blowing up the bag and bursting it is what most 5 year olds would be reprimanded for and not do it again!

But he has been incredibly mollycoddled his entire life, has never really cooked a meal for himself and I had to show him how to use the washing machine. His mum does it for him usually (I didn't realise this until recently).

Big red flag.
Try renting together before you buy a house together, for at least six months. If he does even a tiny smidge less than 50% of the housework, or if he moans, sighs, asks for instructions, or expects you to be the 'manager' of housework, move back out and dump him.

@Spicyseniorita7 Unless this man is literally godlike in other respects, I would recommend moving on. The ultra processed snack habit is horrible, and his holiday behaviour proves it's a deep habit. Marry him and your whole life will be cringe.

He sounds perfect,imagine being married to him and having to have a meal ready for him. just open the cupboard, one packet of wotsits, one of frisps and one onion rings, a three course meal in seconds, with the bonus of no washing up!

It's my dream to eat pickled monster munch all day - the way your tongue tingles afterwards is delicious.

However, the not washing his hands and bag popping is indeed gross.

That would wind me right up as well.. but I have a low tolerance for really strong smells so the pickled onion monster munch would send me over the edge. I think the slobbiness would make me want to dump him. Can’t abide a lazy man.

His age and predeliction for fatty snacks suggest he will be becoming increasing tubby and, more importantly, unhealthy. During the 30s our metabolism begins to slow down and men experience unstable levels of testosterone which results in fatty deposits around the viscera. Men also start to lose muscle which means less calories are burned off. Perhaps you might talk to him about how you'd prefer to have a slimmer BF, and hope that your slimmer BF will be him rather than a someone else. Don't be scared to ditch him if he chooses not to make a few changes for you. Be clear with yourself about what you want and are prepared to tolerate. What is concerning is that at around 7 months in your relationship is stepping out of the honeymoon period and into a more durable set up. That may be why you have posted your question because it is about now that the rose tinted specs come off and you are having to work out if he is someone you want to stay with or not. His habit of eating more packets of crisps than you would like him to. First time away abroad together and you have noticed that unlike you he isn't keen on foreign food. If you find some of his eating habits 'disgusting' now I suggest that as time passes those habits will become wholly unnacceptable to you and you may end up despising him altogether.

Maybe just communicate your feelings regarding hygiene and also food habits, see if he'd be willing to improve as long term you can't be with someone with such different health and eating habits.

He needs to move on. If that was my son I’d want him away from you. Seem happy to let him pay all the time though?
if u have the ick time to split he’s not gonna change. Not a great way to eat but …..

This is what I was looking for. I had hoped it was a play on words for an older lady but it was giving me the ick.. 😂

I certainly don't

"Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything but I don't like how he snacks so I'm asking strangers on the internet if I should dump him"

And you have the audacity to mention your history of 'dating disasters'. What a drama queen. Dump the guy, let him find someone who isn't psychotic and you can enjoy bring single forever. Win-win.

i would cut all contact with him. Nothing worse than a guy eating crisps and you would be better off living on your own for the rest of your life than putting up with it.

I once had to leave a venue because it smelt so overwhelmingly of beef Monster Munch, so YANBU. Unrelated but is your username deliberate @Spicyseniorita7 ? If so I think you're being a bit harsh on yourself, I hardly think 28 counts as senior.