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Should I dump my boyfriend because he won't stop eating crisps?

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Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

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MrRighteous · 12/07/2026 18:35

AngryWife, regarding crisp bag popper, saying dont become a nag or he will become sneakier, I say dont become a nag or sensibly he might become an ex through his choice! Please dont forget there are two in th
e relationship.

AmgryWife · 12/07/2026 14:24

He sounds like a typical American guy. He’s probably a lot of fun. You have a choice, a good time guy or prissy partner. If he’s into you, he might be trainable in term of the when and where of these behaviors e.g eat crisps but don’t pop bag. If you become a nag, he won’t stop behaviors, he’ll just become sneakier.

EvieBB · 12/07/2026 00:12

Spicyseniorita7 · 11/07/2026 22:27

It's not a joke when you're having to inhale the dirty fluorescent crisps crumbs...

I think I'm going to have to dump him, the neanderthal behaviour has continued. I asked for a gin and tonic tonight at the pub and he came back with a gin and lemonade!

I know your post was serious OP, but I'm just wondering if StankFunger's post was tongue in cheek or not? (Like mock horror)?

Swiftie1878 · 11/07/2026 23:04

Spicyseniorita7 · 11/07/2026 22:27

It's not a joke when you're having to inhale the dirty fluorescent crisps crumbs...

I think I'm going to have to dump him, the neanderthal behaviour has continued. I asked for a gin and tonic tonight at the pub and he came back with a gin and lemonade!

Now THAT is a dumpable offence! 😂

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ThatCyanCat · 11/07/2026 22:56

I could cope with getting a drink order wrong, but constantly being covered in crisp dust, finding packets wedged behind the bed, drinking the crumbs and popping the packet like he's fucking six years old is just too big a turnoff. Absolutely revolting. I'm surprised by the strength of my feeling on this but the idea of being shackled to that for the rest of my life makes me feel sick.

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Spicyseniorita7 · 11/07/2026 22:27

EvieBB · 11/07/2026 19:33

I hope this is a joke!

It's not a joke when you're having to inhale the dirty fluorescent crisps crumbs...

I think I'm going to have to dump him, the neanderthal behaviour has continued. I asked for a gin and tonic tonight at the pub and he came back with a gin and lemonade!

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EvieBB · 11/07/2026 19:33

STankFunger · 11/07/2026 16:26

Yes you should dump the disgusting pig! WTF I cannot believe he actually does this! Grotesque! My DBD would never do such a thing!
You owe it to yourself more to have some self respect and move away from this relationship! What is he going to do next? Sniff his fingers after dipping into the Dorito bag??

I hope this is a joke!

Illegally18 · 11/07/2026 16:35

Anarchy99 · 07/07/2026 10:50

Ah but did you miss that, by the OP’s admission, he’s well off and she expects him to pay for everything and pick up the domestic stuff if they have a future?

That's a different issue.

STankFunger · 11/07/2026 16:26

Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

Yes you should dump the disgusting pig! WTF I cannot believe he actually does this! Grotesque! My DBD would never do such a thing!
You owe it to yourself more to have some self respect and move away from this relationship! What is he going to do next? Sniff his fingers after dipping into the Dorito bag??

HiEarthlings · 10/07/2026 14:00

Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

So you're a snob and he doesn't meet your "sophisticated" expectations. He needs to dump you.

EvieBB · 09/07/2026 20:12

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 09/07/2026 14:49

What is this reply 😳 and how is it related to this thread? Or am I missing something?!

😂

linc100 · 09/07/2026 17:42

Oh sorry.shoot me.i did not realise I actually put on the wrong thing.lol.lifes very short and I did not mean to put on this.i just was wanting to alert people to my mistake.i won't do again.i promise.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 09/07/2026 14:49

linc100 · 09/07/2026 14:43

ANYONE SEEN OR THINKING ABOUT BUYING THE WISHING WELL PLANTER BY LINEA FOR GARDEN OF HOUSE OF FRASER DONT.AS ITS TOTAL GARBAGE IT REALLY IS.I KNOW THE COMPANY SANK TO NEW LEVELS WHEN THE OWNER BOUGHT THE COMPANY.AND I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER.BEING HOF but I fell for the discount.lol.it really is the worst thing I've ever bought

What is this reply 😳 and how is it related to this thread? Or am I missing something?!

linc100 · 09/07/2026 14:43

ANYONE SEEN OR THINKING ABOUT BUYING THE WISHING WELL PLANTER BY LINEA FOR GARDEN OF HOUSE OF FRASER DONT.AS ITS TOTAL GARBAGE IT REALLY IS.I KNOW THE COMPANY SANK TO NEW LEVELS WHEN THE OWNER BOUGHT THE COMPANY.AND I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER.BEING HOF but I fell for the discount.lol.it really is the worst thing I've ever bought

glaciercherry · 09/07/2026 12:55

When I read the title I thought come on, they’re crisps! Give the man a break!

But your description is a lot worse than the title. That is altogether too many crisps. And a lack of desire to eat any other food while aboard, whilst also smelling of crisps - it’s not adding up in his favour.

As soon as someone disgusts you, I think that’s the writing on the wall. It’s hard to come back from disgust. It’s far more likely to develop into contempt than long term love.

Gettingbysomehow · 09/07/2026 12:53

If someone burst crisp packets on my newly cleaned living room they would shortly be meeting their maker.

dozer222 · 09/07/2026 12:52

Hahaha for the first bit it sounded like you were describing my dh, he loves a filthy crisp (so do I if the time is right) but…. we like and eat good food too, especially on holiday and the crisp love is at least a bit tongue in cheek. We don’t burst crisp packets or stash rubbish under our beds. The other behaviour tips it into ick territory.

Grampy60 · 09/07/2026 12:45

Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

Hmmm. Sounds like not-much-of-an-adult-who-knows-how-to-behave-in-public.
I'm a great fan of junk food but I know in what settings and in whose company I should order grilled sea bass and a Sauvignon or a Triple Whopper With Cheese and a pint of lager.
Of course there will be other things that attract you to him but it doesn't really sound like a promising start.

Anarchy99 · 07/07/2026 17:01

Bohema123 · 07/07/2026 14:28

Do you react at the time? Say urrgh please that's disgusting. I think after 7 months you need to have this level of honesty. Like crisp packs down the bed side and so on are just on. That and the pouring down the throat. This should be the first step and then maybe he will start to understand how dislikeable a quality this is? Or just tell him straight that is a smelly habit and off putting. If he likes you enough he will rein it in surely

Why would he? Once he works out she’s after his cash, he will run for the hills anyway.

Bohema123 · 07/07/2026 14:28

Spicyseniorita7 · 29/06/2026 23:26

I'm in a relatively new relationship (7 months) after over 2 years of being single with some dating disasters along the way. Everything seems great on paper, he is kind, has a good job that pays well, not bad looking, treats me well and never allows me to pay for anything. For context, I am 28F and he is 32M- we both live separately at present. I would like to settle down soon.

I'm unsure if I am self-sabotaging, but some of his eating/snacking habits disgust me, to the point that I think I've developed the ick. This came to light properly on our recent 2 week holiday-prior to this, the longest we had spent together was about 3 days. He eats at least 3 packets of crisps per day and not the sophisticated type i.e kettle chips, think more Skips/monster munch/Nik naks/cheesy wotsits/space raiders. He doesn't wash his hands after eating the crisps and requires prompting to do so. This often results in him having disgusting synthetic crisp dust all over his fingers and fingernails.

Even more disgustingly, after he's finished with a packet, he arches back his head and empties the remnants of the crisp crumbs into his mouth. It's almost as though he cannot bear for a single scrap to be wasted. But the most disgusting is sometimes, after finishing a packet, he will blow up the packet like a balloon and pop it. This has resulted in me being sprayed with crumbs. I've also found scrunched up crisp packets wedged behind his bed, almost as though he can't be bothered to walk to the bin.

We recently went on holiday to Spain and it was mortifying-he didn't try any local food and just wanted to eat British food, McDonald's and crisps. We went to the supermarket and he loaded up the trolley with crisps. I haven't said anything yet, he is keen to start looking for a flat to rent together, but I just can't help but thinking I would prefer a man who doesn't eat over 3 packets of crisps a day and doesn't smell like pickled onion Monster Munch or cheesy wotsits. Is eating all of those crisps a dumpable offence?

Do you react at the time? Say urrgh please that's disgusting. I think after 7 months you need to have this level of honesty. Like crisp packs down the bed side and so on are just on. That and the pouring down the throat. This should be the first step and then maybe he will start to understand how dislikeable a quality this is? Or just tell him straight that is a smelly habit and off putting. If he likes you enough he will rein it in surely

Anarchy99 · 07/07/2026 10:50

Gettingbysomehow · 07/07/2026 10:46

No way would I be with a man as disgusting and puerile as this.

Ah but did you miss that, by the OP’s admission, he’s well off and she expects him to pay for everything and pick up the domestic stuff if they have a future?

Gettingbysomehow · 07/07/2026 10:46

Lmnop22 · 01/07/2026 11:59

This isn’t a crisps issue, it’s a maturity and hygiene issue.

Not being clean, shoving crisp packets down the sofa, not washing hands, smelling like crisps, being immature with blowing up and exploding the bags are the real issues.

No way would I be with a man as disgusting and puerile as this.

Anarchy99 · 07/07/2026 08:54

ElsieTannersCoat · 06/07/2026 21:38

I still find it amusing that the OP likes the idea of him paying for everything and being very “traditional”, but is horrified that his mother cooked for him and did his washing. Did she think he was going to pay for everything AND do all this for himself?

That pretty much sums it up I think! She isn’t that into him but he’s got money.

I think she expects not to have to pay for anything and also expects him to do all the domestic stuff.

Unless I have misunderstood, she is not coming out of this well.