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AIBU to refuse my 15-year-old a late-night concert trip?

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Bubblehubbles · 29/06/2026 23:02

DD is 15, was at a concert at an outdoor venue, escorted by a friends parents.

Friends parents are very relaxed and allowed them to have a drink or alcohol before the concert. I’m pretty relaxed about alcohol when they hit 16 and I am aware that they may well drink at 15 but I wouldn’t give it to them and I certainly wouldn’t give it to someone else’s child. This is to give some context as to the friends parents boundaries. Friend is a lovely kid and I am generally fond of the parents, but less fond of them doing this.

Apparently last night it was decided that they (2 friends) would go to this venue on wednesday and sit outside the concert and listen to the music with other people who don’t have tickets. This is a train ride away (30 mins or so) and they wouldn’t be home until Midnight.

This seems a bit much for me, somewhere locally I could live with, but a train ride that time of night, with lots of drunk people when you are only 15 seems risky.

Apparently I am absolutely unreasonable, what do others think?

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Bubblehubbles · 29/06/2026 23:21

And it’s a long walk through a park - lots of drunk older teens and adults. Im
fine with that, she’s been to several concerts and one only a couple of days ago , but not on their own with no pick ups etc

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CucumberCool · 29/06/2026 23:19

They will likely be moved on from hanging around outside and are very unlikely to be able to hear anything worth travelling that far for! It will just be a bass rumble/vibrations. I would definitely try to discourage this. Why not offer a small kitchen party with the songs so they don't have to miss out completely and you can keep an eye on them

Bubblehubbles · 29/06/2026 23:18

ConverselyAttired · 29/06/2026 23:16

Still depends where!! If it's a decent walk to a large station and it's going to be rammed with thousands all queueing she may miss the last train. If it's a bit less intense than that I'd be more inclined to say yes.

It’s a station where she very easily could be left stranded. It’s a notoriously difficult venue to get out of as public transport is pretty limited

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ConverselyAttired · 29/06/2026 23:16

Still depends where!! If it's a decent walk to a large station and it's going to be rammed with thousands all queueing she may miss the last train. If it's a bit less intense than that I'd be more inclined to say yes.

Bubblehubbles · 29/06/2026 23:13

It’s in a large park. There will be police around but it’s a train ride away from home

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ConverselyAttired · 29/06/2026 23:12

Depends. Harry Styles at Wembley - it's a no from me.

DallazMajor · 29/06/2026 23:07

Where is the concert?