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To ask you if you’d date this man?

258 replies

BlueSandals · 29/06/2026 14:39

To ask if you’d date this man if you found him attractive and in your age bracket and you are heterosexual female?

He is 53. Healthcare worker, interesting hobbies, seems very sensitive and caring. Intelligent. Interesting. Funny. Well travelled. Outgoing.

But…

He’s in the middle of a divorce. His ex has moved out of the family home to a smaller rented home and won’t see him face to face. They haven’t had contact in person for over a year. He lives in what was the family home. Has a teenage child that he doesn’t see. He says she has turned the child against him and she is an abusive narcissist. Nothing comes up on Claire’s law about him. The child apparently has behavioural issues due to his ex’s poor parenting in his view.

OP posts:
buymeflowers · 29/06/2026 14:42

Oh no, hell no

FeralWoman · 29/06/2026 14:42

Hell no.

6ate9 · 29/06/2026 14:42

I would never date someone with children.

Itsseweasy · 29/06/2026 14:42

Definitely not

Tablesandchairs23 · 29/06/2026 14:41

Absolutely not.

24Dogcuddler · 29/06/2026 14:41

Run. Quite fast.

LuckyNumberFive · 29/06/2026 14:40

No.

I would never date someone going through a messy divorce but definitely not anyone who uses the "crazy ex" shit.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 29/06/2026 14:40

Fuck, no.