To love having a girl?

Totally reasonable, normal and lovely. But surely you must have predicted the MN bleatings along the lines of "are you saying boys can't like unicorns" and "what if your daughter wants to be a tattoed bodybuilder?"

It's all very dull, isn't it.

My mum has 3 daughters, she is one of 3 girls, she understandably had only stereotypical perceptions of boys

i am so grateful that my boys have completely changed her perception. She is so proud of them, loves it when they go and see her, takes them for lunch with their girlfriends, visits their baby girl cousin with them, they are always up for long dog walks with their ‘Mama’

this is the reality of decent, well brought up boys

I have one of each and the girl is much closer to my personality and my son closer to his Dad’s. Consequently she and I get on better domestically and, well, she’s a girl, so I automatically have more things in common with her.
My son is very gregarious and outgoing and high energy. After a couple days I find him exhausting. He’s the type who jumps out of bed and goes for a run before work (he’s 22), then does kickboxing after.

Im happy I have one of each, and love them both dearly. If I’d had two girls I’d have been happy. Two boys? I’d miss having a girl for sure.

but the chances are or you'd had a boy your lives would have worked so that a boy fits better. it's too organic a process to be able to say "oh a boy would never have fit" because your lives would be different, you'd be different if your child was different
I have 3 kids, all different in their own ways and yet overlap each other in some ways. They all fit into our family because a family evolves to make people fit.

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This about sums my sons up!

I don’t like to buy into stereotypes but my boys are crazy….. the noise, the chaos, the constant play fighting, the wedgies, the winding each other up, pulling each others trousers down and finding it hilarious, bounding around, the inability to sit still, telling dumb jokes, competing with each other in silly games, constant laughing and silliness, daring each other to do stupid stuff, it is honesty NON-STOP until they go to bed. From the minute they wake up it’s just endless energy and excitement and the need to release it!

Don’t get me wrong, I love it because they make me laugh so much but it’s exhausting 🤣

Sorry but another saying your child can’t change sex and I would hope that you would explain the biological reality to them. They don’t deserve to go through life deluded, it’s wouldn’t be doing them any favours 🤷‍♀️

I have a boy and a girl, or rather now, a man and and a woman, lol. I can’t say I preferred boy or girl as the love I have for them and the joy they have given me, and continue to give me, isn’t in anyway related to what their traditional roles are, they are simply their personalities to me. Both played football and swam and went to activities, sometimes together, sometimes separately. I was as interested in cars as I was dolls and they often played with these things together. Childhood is such a fleeting moment in time, they grow up from being blue and pink and cars and dolls, I think it’s sad that you can’t see thst.

My parents had 2 girls. Years ago my mum asked my dad (both now in their eighties), if he’d missed having a boy and apparently he became quite passionate about his answer, no he didn’t, he felt lucky to have had us girls, with the ballet, the gymnastics as youngsters, and the fact we both competed at the top of level of one sport, which both boys and girls do, he felt he’d had a full and complete life as a father. I was so bloody proud of him!

You mean sex not gender. Particularly in the context of this thread

Not the right board, I was simply illustrating my point.

That is your opinion but in our household I would accept and love my child regardless of how they present themself in the future.

Obviously I know that quiet, sensitive, gentle and kind boys/men exist- I married one, teach them and have a couple in my family.

My answer isn’t clear cut, I posted above more of my feelings on the matter. For the most part though I am talking about more ‘laddish’ boys I guess. We don’t adhere to gender stereotypes in my household however they do exist and outside of the home is out of my control.

All children are different so obviously I am making generalisations saying anything on the subject but for us a girl ‘fits’ better and is what we dreamed of.

Apologies for SPAG on this thread I have been awake for two days!!

perhaps you need to get a job in an all girls school to get away from the ghastly things?

on finding a man with the right flavour sperm? after all, he's the reason op has a girl

You do realise either gender can like those things? My 3 year old has chosen dinosaur theme for her 2nd and 3rd birthday cake. She loves puddles and mud. Goes fishing with her dad, wants to ride fast on motorcycles and quads. She also loves dancing and doing her make up with me. Has a dolls house along side all her dinosaurs.
I personally don’t like a lot of the typical “girl” clothes. Way too pink and frilly and not as practical as I need them.

just hang around the boards and look for gender disappointment. it all seems to be how awful it would be to have a boy, how people would be so disappointed in having one, having got lucky once with a girl would never risk it again in case they got a boy.

Maybe if someone buys her some blue clothes and some lego? Half the thread seems to think that's how it works.

And what do you imagine it’s like living with a boy full time @cannibalfish? My DS is by FAR the quietest, slowest-moving and most sensitive person in our household.

Really? I love having a girl but I love my boy too. They are both truly adored.

Your DD will not ever be able to become your DS @cannibalfish!

I love teaching boys, I enjoy the comedy, but I couldn’t imagine living with one full time. Totally get this perspective.

Congratulations for what? 😂

YABVU. Your daughter is clearly the golden child, which is bad for both of your children.

@truepenguin actually I think you’ll find that the vast majority of “gender disappointment” threads are people saying they wanted a girl and they’re having a boy.

Did you actually read my post? I’m not being funny but I said:

-I struggle to justify it, because it isn’t entirely rational.
-I understand that the way DC turn out is mainly influenced by their socialisation rather than their gender/sex.
-I teach boys and have nephews so clearly I know they have different personalities.
-I would have loved any son of mine just the same if that had happened.

It was just always my preference to raise an only daughter, probably as I am an only daughter myself. It’s not about surface level things or gender stereotypes it’s more about girlhood, shared experiences and what it is to be a girl/woman.

((If in time my DD wanted to become my DS I would love and accept them the same, same if I randomly got pregnant and decided to continue the pregnancy with a boy- it’s just a feeling that I am suited to being the mother of a girl))

@ladybird2024 Buying pink and ‘girly’ things is not a requirement of being a WOMAN (lol @ random capitals). I don’t like pink. I don’t like shopping. I don’t care about clothes. I don’t wear make-up, and I certainly don’t ’flick’ my hair 🤔 The only requirement for being a WOMAN is being female. HTH.

Lmao the comments on here! They do crack me up! Coming from a woman with 4 kids and had 3 boys before she had a girl, yes I get what you mean and completely understand you! I always thought I’d be a boy mum and I didn’t mind if she was a boy and it never bothered me either being a boy mum, but when they told me I was having a girl I was very happy. It was nice to buy pink bits, girly things for her, she’s three now and is into princesses and unicorns, Dollys, dress up and Barbie’s, even down to when she sings and dances and flicks her hair I’m just like awwwww 🥰 where as the boys are and always have been boisterous 😂 wresting each other, play fighting, dinosaurs and cars, jumping off things and climbing everything. No it doesn’t mean you have a favourite at all just means it’s nice to buy pink things and girly things as you’re a WOMAN 😊