To love having a girl?

Cosmic.

I don’t disagree OP! I have a 5 year old boy and a 3 month old girl. When I had my eldest I wanted a boy and I was thrilled, he’s my world! When I fell pregnant again I wanted a girl to have one of each and genuinely feel so lucky that I have that!!

I think with having a girl I hope that when she grows up we’ll be extremely close, obviously I can’t tell the future and this might not be the case, but I was always close with my mum. Girls tend to go to their parents for childcare for their babies etc. what’s that saying.. a girl is a daughter for life, a boy is a son until they find a wife’ . I’m hoping that isn’t true and I hope my boy grows up always being a mummies boy like he is now.. but again you never know!!

I agree in a sense that I can’t wait to buy Barbie’s and princess dress up outfits… but her dad is a massive football fan so I imagine she will also have a number of football kits too haha! either way I think your feelings are valid :)

Thats becsuse you have a daughter
You dont think boys can possiibly close to their mums🙄🙄
You dont know anything about other mothers relationship with their sons
Im very clise to my 19 year old son.

Just as a postscript, sometimes my son and I get each other better than anyone else in the family. We both feel lucky to have this.

I find it hard to believe that OP loves her children equally. I wonder if she was one of those women who got really upset when she learned her first child was a boy? I have a daughter and a son. Individuals who share common interests, and gift each other experiences they may not have explored on their own. They share these experiences with me too. We never imposed conventional roles on them. If they enjoyed something, we encouraged it. None of this pink or blue, dolls or trucks. Just “yes, and”. I think OP has an inkling that favouring one child over another is a bit off.

I’ve always found daughters much closer with their mums as they get older than boys are .
I know there is always the exception but overall this has been my experience.
The bond I have with my dd I don’t feel I would of had with a son possibly because having a child of the same sex means I can relate and talk to her much easier especially being a single mum which I might of struggled with if I had a son.

🤣🤣🤣 I wanted a little girl, REALLY wanted a little girl. I got one. A beautiful girl, with blonde curly hair that she cuts into a crew cut to go out with her girlfriend. And I couldn't love her anymore than I do now. She is my heart.

No. I meant what I wrote. Either way there are only 2 genders, 2 sexes. It makes no difference.

I'm on the fence as to whether I think YABU. I know people who love having daughters because they treat them like little dolls or extensions of themselves. However if its more the personality traits then I can completely relate. I have an amazing kid who loves books, music and nature. They're kind, loving and really bright and I feel lucky every single day. And this probably makes me sound terrible but when we meet up with other kids I am even more grateful for my child. But its not a gender thing. Just personality and interests.

Good! 😊 sleep well.

As I said in my previous post I’m a mum to 4 children 3 older ones being boys and I was used to the play fighting, shouting, roughness, cars, climbing on things and jumping off things, the colour blue, dark green, mustard yellow etc kind of what you find more with boy things, so my daughter being how she is made a nice change for me and has been different. She likes pink, sparkles, Barbies and unicorns etc, My sons never sang, danced or twirled their hair they were and are just boisterous 🤣 so i see what the OP means by having a girl. When I was younger I wasn’t into make up, dresses and sparkly shoes I was more of a tomboy and preferred my brothers toys but when I turned 16 I just changed wanted to wear make up, do my hair nice and wear nice dresses. I don’t think the OP was stereotyping it, or if people felt like OP did it wasn’t meant like that.

@ladybird2024, I love a civil discussion and a bit of lively disagreement. Maybe MN isn’t for you if you don’t. Would be really boring if everyone agreed with each other on every thread! Anyway, I’m going to ‘pipe down’ as I’m in a different time zone and need sleep. Hope you have a nice evening 🙂

I only have a (teenage) boy so can't really comment. But I don't think it's odd OP. Its nice that you feel that way.
I do often think I would of liked to have had a girl too, too late for that now. However when I'm thinking like that, I'm imagining said girl to be typically girly, loved having a pamper, shopping trips,movie nights, girly talks and of course she may not have enjoyed any of that at all, just like my boy doesn't!

Agree we don’t have the same views on sex and gender @cannibalfish but I appreciate your post- and yes, DD is awesome! I’m sure yours is too. Clearly we both love our girls very much.

Always a few on this forum that have to pipe up. 🙄 Always someone wanting to start an argument.

Nothing odd. I have one of each and enjoy two lots of different things. My daughter enjoys shopping, meals out. My son loves playing sport with me and going to the cinema. It depends on each child but why not enjoy the differences.

Change sex no, but change the gender they present as, the name I call them and the pronouns used etc. I didn’t say they could change sex but if I had a trans child I would use their preferred name/pronouns and consider them my son as is generally preferred.

Your daughter sounds really awesome, and you sound like a lovely parent, truly, I wasn’t trying to suggest you weren’t accepting of your children. It’s just the ideological differences when defining sex vs gender I guess.

I just meant I didn’t want to derail the thread, I was just illustrating the point that I would love her regardless and it’s not based on the fact she is a girl.

I am much more of a reader, baker and knitter which are probably things that lend themselves more naturally to small girls than small boys.,

They only lend themselves more to girls than boys if you think they do.

DS1 won a baking competition when he was about 8. He's got a "star Baker" spoon on display. DS2 has since turned out to be a fantastic baker.

I've got a scarf that DS2 knitted some of because he wanted to learn to knit.

DS1 never liked reading, but DS2 often used to fall asleep with a book on his face/ his head on a book.

I have a boy and a girl and if eel very lucky but mainly because there was a time I thought I wouldn't have any. My kids are so different and in some ways this is stereotypical boy/girl stuff but mainly what I love is their personalities being nothing at all to do with me. They are a constant surprise. My son was always very much a child who had boy friends and girl friends. Still is at 8. My daughter at almost 5 has become very 'gorls only ' about certain things and I swear sometimes it's just to wind her brother up but she's adamant some things are buy or girl things.

My.son.i love a museum, the science centre, trampolining. My daughter prefers craft activity, shops, rollercoasters
I love a day where I only have 1 and can do their preferred thing all day and enjoy them.enjoyong it.

I think you've made it genders in your head but inr reality you love having 2 very different kids

I didn’t ‘try to deliberately disagree’ with you. I actually just disagree with you and this is a discussion forum.

"It was nice to buy pink bits, girly things for her, she’s three now and is into princesses and unicorns, Dollys, dress up and Barbie’s, even down to when she sings and dances and flicks her hair I’m just like awwwww 🥰"

When I used to visit my friend and her DD used to dance, sing, flick her hair, duck pout and drone on about her latest doll that could actually shit etc. I have to say i'd count down the minutes until I could escape, once I drank a brew so quick so i could leave I swear i took a layer of taste buds off 😂

She's more masculine than my gym dude bro DS now 🙈

We were delighted to discover our second baby was another girl.
I’m not remotely interested in pink or sparkles but I find girls a lot more interesting than boys (I’m sure if I had boys I’d develop an interest, but instinctively warmed to girls) and I am much more of a reader, baker and knitter which are probably things that lend themselves more naturally to small girls than small boys.,
As others have said, be very wary of this feeling being perceived as favouritism.

God you'd have been disappointed with my lovely girl then. She hates pink, owns no barbies and spends all her time climbing trees and turning cartwheels. She did ballet for a bit then quit it and prefers tennis!

That’s you then. I get what the OP is trying to say. You know what I meant by what I said, no need to try and deliberately disagree with me and pick at my comment. 🙄

In my household, we also accept and love our DCs however they present themselves- it’s angered me that you’ve implied I wouldn’t, while knowing nothing about me and my lovely family. My DD is a lesbian- no issue with that whatsoever. She already has multiple tattoos at 20 years old. She also bleaches her hair far too often in my opinion. 😂 Wouldn’t be my choice but it’s her body, her hair, and her choice and of course it doesn’t change my fierce love for her. Nor would it change anything if she shaved all her hair off or if our DS grew his hair long and wore pink skirts.

‘Not the right board’, but you brought it up 🤷🏼‍♀️ No one can change sex.