To love having a girl?

YANBU for loving having a girl.
But I sure hope you are letting your daughter be her own person and not forcing her into some idealised version of what you think a girl should be.
As a girl, I loved anything to do with science. Space, dinosaurs, volcanos, engines, sea creatures etc. I wasnt interested in dressing up, makeup or dolls.
I would have been very unhappy if I had been forced to be a different version of me to make somebody else happy.

I get it. I have two girls and I always wanted girls. Obviously, had I had boys I would have loved them as much as I do my girls. But, yes, I love that I have girls. When they were little I loved picking out their outfits. They are now 10 and 8 and have their own minds about what they wear, which very rarely includes dresses. I still love it. My 10 year old has always been quite mature for her age and is turning in the process of turning into a young woman. I am really starting to enjoy the more grown up time we have together. My youngest is the opposite and quite young for her age, but is the sweetest, kindest, caring little girl. I count myself lucky that I have them both every day.

So why have a second? Or even a first if you were that set on one sex? It’s not fair to have a child knowing that you only want one sex.

I'm exactly the same,I absolutely adore having a girl. I had her first and boy second, I know you shouldn't say it but I was disappointed, I really wanted two girls as my sister and I are very close and girly and I wanted the same for them.

My daughter is 14 now and we are very close but she's not actually that girly,she loves her sport which is fab and not really into make up and dressing up as much as me but I still love it and have had great fun playing with her when she was younger. My son I did struggle with playtime as he was very hyper and boyish, he's never sat down to do arts and crafts with me or anything like that but as he's getting older (now 11) I just love his sense of humour and he's such a happy boy, he just loves life.

They are also very close and very protective over each other which lovely, I'm very pleased with what I've got, they are very different and interesting to see their different interests as they grow up.

I've got one of each. The boy is older so the girl wore a lot of boys clothes (hand me downs) when she was little. She went through a pink/unicorn stage at 4 or 5 but by 8 or 9 she's was entirely anti-pink, anti-fashion, anti-make up. She hates all things "girly" now, which I have no issue with. She's a fun, creative person and we are very close.
My son is probably more likely to wear pink than my daughter. He just doesn't care about that stuff. He's a sweet-hearted, intelligent young man.

I suppose it's kind of nice having one of each, although I imagine two girls or two boys could have Personalities just as different, so maybe it makes no difference.

god this whole attitude is so ‘me me me’
i did not have children to
replicate a mum daughter bond
be a little doll to dress up
someone to dance and twirl for me
a constant companion even when they are married because they should put me before their husbands

they are people; nobody owns children, or has any right to map out what ls expected of them based on their sex

i am not a ‘boy mum’ , I would have loved girls too

all children are individual and unique

I love having girls too and don't think you're at all odd for appreciating doing girly things. I also don't think it seems like you have a favourite, just that it's a different dynamic with your boy and you love that too. I only have girls but I work with children and boys are so much fun and affectionate but yes it can be very different. Only 1 of my girls is a proper girly girl but I still feel things are different when I look after my nephew, but I don't think its odd, you are a girls girl and enjoy doing girly things together. I'm sure there's things that only you and your boy enjoy doing that are special to do together also 🙂

Nothing at all wrong with being grateful to have a little girl. What I would be mindful of is deciding how a girl should be before she even gets there. Some girls (myself included) are not all pink, rainbows and butterflies and you need to be ok with it if she isn't. My mum wasn't ok with it and we never bonded or developed a proper relationship because of her preconceived ideas of what a girl should be.

I have one of each. DD practically threw a Barbie back at Santa when she was 3 as all the boys got remote controlled cars. She chucked dolls out of the pram and put toy dogs in. She’s grown into a feisty, clever, sarky teen who’s still not into anything overly girly. She’s stubborn to the point of driving me insane and it’s her big brother with his boatload of empathy I send to deal with her sometimes. He was a stereotypical boy, into sports and mud but always got on really well with girls and has lots of girl mates.

Suffice to say I adore them both and can’t imagine having a special bond with DD just because she’s a girl.

Ignore the haters. I love having a girl, too!

The gender stereotyping in this day and age is pretty grim OP. I was born in the 80s and thankful my mum never tried to do the pink, glittery shit but gave me space to make my own choices about what I liked.

Didnt say not get on … was talking about being as close as he is with her now.

Lots of girls dont get onbwith their mums either .

Only time will tell … I’m sure many mums have felt the same, look at Adam Peatty.

I have the same children as you OP in terms of age and sex! I think when you have a bit of a gap between your first and second you start to think you’ll never get the sibling you wanted for them and then when it comes out you feel like all your christmases have come at once, and if you get one of the opposite sex that’s just the icing on the cake. It is lovely to experience having a boy and a girl.

And i’m sure having a boy at home means your girl isn’t JUST into barbies and dressing up so it’s daft of other posters to suggest that. She’ll have had her brothers toys in the house growing up and plenty of exposure to hot wheels and things that are not pink and sparkly. Presumably she chooses the more girly things for herself. My daughter loves princess dresses and dolls and often pinches my makeup bag. She also wrestles her brother and runs round the house in his old boxer shorts.

Just the same way having a boy doesn’t automatically mean he loves football and hates cuddles! Anyone with a son knows the mother son bond runs very deep.

I don’t like the ‘boy mum’ and ‘girl mum’ thing either @BuildbyNumbere

I know the stereotype you’re referring to but it just doesn’t ring true in my own family or friendship groups. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Its all just anecdotal
Preconceived bollocks designed to put other women down.

No i think i know my son better than some random on the internet
These threads slways go the same way
Posters bitching about other peoples kids based on preconceived ideas.

@Waitingfordoggo

As a general rule it isn’t bollocks. I’ve got sons and a daughter. Whatever happens happens but I certainly won’t be kidding myself thinking they’re both going to be very close to me. Perhaps they will, great, but we all know wives comes first. Well they should do. Yes I know it’s possible to “do” both. But often, they tend to gravitate towards their wives families more in terms of contact etc.

So I will see!

Nothing worse than a nauseating BOY or GIRL mum tbh with you.

Absolute bollocks. My husband is very close to both of his parents and especially his Mum. He sees them 3 or 4 times a week and is always helping them out with various things- and no, I’m not resentful, in case anyone thinks there’s a subtext here! I’m glad he’s such a good son.

@BuildbyNumbere

Ive got two sons. I must be wired up wrong because I can’t wait until they’ve been taken off my hands 😂😂. And, yes, I do really love them.

Have a daughter too. Right mix for me I think - I can cope with them all leaving 👋.

The gender stereotypes in this thread are wild.

DD had a Barbie dream house. She also had a ton of dinosaurs, a garage and cars, a train set. She wore a princess dress one day and jeans and trainers, climbing trees the next. She explored it all and came out smart, bookish, adventurous, fun, wears jeans most days but loved dressing up for prom. Girls can be everything and anything they want to be if they’re raised to believe that.

Don’t limit your girls to unicorns and Barbie’s. It’s a very narrow lane and the world is big.

@ShowOfHandsyour dcs sound awesome!

Until he gets married.

You are not, so many mums go on about being a boy mum and it’s almost like girls are forgotten about or not cared about. I never understood it. I have two friends who have a girl and a boy and both openly said their son is their favourite and I was shocked! I have a girl, my eldest and a younger son. I am so thankful I get to experience both a daughter and a son, I love them equally. They are both so different but in such good ways. I love having a girl, as I am girly girl and love doing her hair, buying clothes with her, and all the trinkets she loves that I used to love, I love how much she loves animals and is kind and compassionate. I love having a boy as I love how fearless he is, how care free he is, how loving he is, how funny he is, I love his love for dinosaurs, he loves football and is active. Both have amazing qualities. You are ok to say you love having a girl.

I feel the same with my son. 8 year age gap between him and his older sister. I'd wanted a boy since I was very young, was always very happy with my dd though and had no regrets, and didn't actually want another child after her. But now I have my son too and feel so lucky to have him. The "I can't believe I have a son" feeling hits me often.