To love having a girl?

I love having a girl too. She shaves her head and reads feminist literature and dresses like an aged male librarian. She's fantastic company, astute and ascerbic, curious about the world and determined.

I love having a boy too. I love his fashion sense. He's a Victorian fop and likes vintage charity shops and steampunk. He's sensitive and musical, acts and reads and likes to grow his hair long and is interested in skin care and grooming.

I like them. They don't fulfil the stereotypes you're using to raise your DC but they have unique and fascinating personalities.

It's nice that you seem to have a lot in common with your DD but is that because she's a girl, is it because you're raising her using those gender norms or is it because you're just similar due to being related?

My sister had a boy, I thought I would have a boy and was a little weirded out when I found out I was having a girl, but happy all the same. I only have one child so I don’t know how it feels to be mum to a boy, but having had experience looking after two boys (nephew and great nephew) I much prefer having had a girl. Maybe it would be different as I would have raised a boy in my own way, but my relationship with my daughter is so good in a way I don’t think I would have had if she was a boy. It’s not about “girlie” stuff, we never did any of that, it’s about a shared experience and an empathy I couldn’t have the same way with a boy.

I love having a girl although we are more horses / outdoorsy than Barbie/make up

I only have one DC so don’t need to worry about having a favourite though

Yeah it is odd. I hope you didn't want a girl for the frilly dresses and barbies?

Yes - I think it is odd. I have DT’s b/g. Clothing and activities were chosen for age appropriate not because they were a boy or girl. Both wore pinks, played football, invented make believe unicorns in the treehouse at the end of the garden, played kitchens and dinosaurs .

I don’t know if it’s odd but I certainly don’t feel that way and I am a girls girls like you described. You say you love them equally and I’m not saying you don’t at all I wouldn’t be able to make that judgment from one post but from an outsider looking in based on this one post it does feel like you have a favourite. Again, not saying this is the case but just stating how this post comes across to me!