To love having a girl?

StrawberryMatchaLatte · 05/07/2026 12:37

I've got 2 girls and 2 boys. Both my girls don't fit into their gender stereotypes. One did till she was about 8 then her interests gradually changed. The other one has never been into the pink fluffy unicorn style. You embrace each child for who they are as individuals not what sex they are because it's very generalised.

TheBoyMayorOfPartridge · 01/07/2026 08:28

The men in my family are all still close to their own family/ parents. One brother in law is not particularly but then he has a very complicated and difficult family to be fair. My husband, brother, grown up nephews (married/ partnered and with own kids) - all of them. As was my ex and his brother with their parents.

I’ve never found the ‘until he finds a wife’ thing to be particularly true honestly.

Parker231 · 30/06/2026 21:53

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 21:19

Of course … they are 10 and 6, things change.

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DT’s b/g are in their late 20’s - still best of pals although very different personalities.

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 21:19

trotterstrot · 30/06/2026 21:04

I have a 10 year old boy and a 6 year old girl and no I cannot recognise any of this. DD super close to DH and DS super close to me

Of course … they are 10 and 6, things change.

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 21:18

maxslice · 30/06/2026 21:02

There are many well known sayings. That doesn’t make them true.

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This one appears true in a lot of cases … and where it isn’t the wife usually pops up in here moaning!

trotterstrot · 30/06/2026 21:04

I have a 10 year old boy and a 6 year old girl and no I cannot recognise any of this. DD super close to DH and DS super close to me

maxslice · 30/06/2026 21:02

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 20:58

Nope, it’s a well known saying … not made up by me.

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There are many well known sayings. That doesn’t make them true.

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 20:58

maxslice · 30/06/2026 19:43

Then stop making ridiculous assumptions. Everyone’s child is unique. Also? You need to reexamine your confirmation bias.

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Nope, it’s a well known saying … not made up by me.

Julimia · 30/06/2026 19:46

No doubt about it boys and girls are wired up differently. Just enjoy both and accept that you have different relationships with them not favorites

maxslice · 30/06/2026 19:43

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 19:40

Only time will tell.

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Then stop making ridiculous assumptions. Everyone’s child is unique. Also? You need to reexamine your confirmation bias.

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 19:40

maxslice · 30/06/2026 19:39

NO.

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Only time will tell.

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 19:39

WelcomeTo · 30/06/2026 18:24

If you are about to post don’t bother. OP is so interested in this thread, that she started, she hasn’t returned!

Another ‘easy but controversial starter’ for traffic to the site, with no response.

Probably made up by MN to create traffic.

maxslice · 30/06/2026 19:39

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 19:39

But likely true.

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NO.

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 19:39

maxslice · 30/06/2026 18:32

That’s just rude. And trite.

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But likely true.

Jerrybalanitis · 30/06/2026 18:49

ShowOfHands · 29/06/2026 12:30

I love having a girl too. She shaves her head and reads feminist literature and dresses like an aged male librarian. She's fantastic company, astute and ascerbic, curious about the world and determined.

I love having a boy too. I love his fashion sense. He's a Victorian fop and likes vintage charity shops and steampunk. He's sensitive and musical, acts and reads and likes to grow his hair long and is interested in skin care and grooming.

I like them. They don't fulfil the stereotypes you're using to raise your DC but they have unique and fascinating personalities.

It's nice that you seem to have a lot in common with your DD but is that because she's a girl, is it because you're raising her using those gender norms or is it because you're just similar due to being related?

Judging by your description of them, which made me laugh, and your obvious respect and admiration for them, its not surprising they are such remarkable humans. You sound pretty cool yourself 🌻

maxslice · 30/06/2026 18:32

BuildbyNumbere · 30/06/2026 07:29

Until he gets married.

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That’s just rude. And trite.

maxslice · 30/06/2026 18:26

SleepingStandingUp · 29/06/2026 22:16

on finding a man with the right flavour sperm? after all, he's the reason op has a girl

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And horror! He was once a BOY!

WelcomeTo · 30/06/2026 18:24

If you are about to post don’t bother. OP is so interested in this thread, that she started, she hasn’t returned!

Another ‘easy but controversial starter’ for traffic to the site, with no response.

maxslice · 30/06/2026 18:19

Kazzalala1 · 29/06/2026 19:24

Sex stereotypes then 🤔🤔

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That is so sad.

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 30/06/2026 17:40

I sometimes feel like this but I think it’s just because I never expected to ever have a girl. There are almost no girls in my husband’s family and everyone has boys, so when our first was a boy I just assumed our second would be as well. So when we found out she was a girl I was very surprised and sometimes I still can’t believe it. Of course I love my children equally but it is fun having a girl because of the clothes. She’s 4 months old now so I’m enjoying buying the cute little dresses before she grows up and tells me she doesn’t want to wear them. I’m well aware she might grow up to not like traditionally “girly” things which I’m fine with as I just want my children to be happy.

cupfinalchaos · 30/06/2026 17:34

My dd has moved out to live with her boyfriend. She came home last night to see us all and just lit up the room when she walked in. We had a lovely gossip. I love my ds equally but have more in common with my dd.

NUFC2024 · 30/06/2026 17:28

BeSunnyLemonSheep · 29/06/2026 12:32

YANBU. I have two girls and I feel so lucky every day that they’re girls. I’m so grateful.

Theyre the best of friends, they love matching outfits, cute hairstyles, lots of pink and frills and unicorns. It’s everything I dreamt about when wanting children.

I wasn’t sold on a third, but one of the huge factors against a third for me was that it could have been a boy. I got lucky twice and they’re so close that I didn’t want to jeopardise that.

You sound like exactly the sort of person who shouldn’t have kids at all. Wouldn’t be surprised if your daughters cut all contact with you when you’re older because you do not sound like a nice person at all.

RapunzelHadExtensions · 30/06/2026 15:58

ShowOfHands · 29/06/2026 12:30

I love having a girl too. She shaves her head and reads feminist literature and dresses like an aged male librarian. She's fantastic company, astute and ascerbic, curious about the world and determined.

I love having a boy too. I love his fashion sense. He's a Victorian fop and likes vintage charity shops and steampunk. He's sensitive and musical, acts and reads and likes to grow his hair long and is interested in skin care and grooming.

I like them. They don't fulfil the stereotypes you're using to raise your DC but they have unique and fascinating personalities.

It's nice that you seem to have a lot in common with your DD but is that because she's a girl, is it because you're raising her using those gender norms or is it because you're just similar due to being related?

She sounds amazing!

You know OP your son could have also played with this stuff? His penis won't fall off you know.

Cob81 · 30/06/2026 15:39

NutellaPancakes123 · 29/06/2026 12:16

I’ve never said this to anyone as I worry how it would come across.

I have a boy who is 9 and a girl who is 4. When I had my boy I was overjoyed, I actually wanted a boy and I used to tell myself I’d be happy if I had another boy. But I’ve always been a girls girl myself growing up, very pink, Barbie, make up etc.

i love them both completely equally. As little humans they both are amazing to me my boy is clever, loving and I adore him. But I just LOVE having a girl. I sometimes think my god, I’ve actually got a girl. I still almost pinch myself that I can wander the girls aisles and I can buy things with unicorns on and I can have a Barbie house in my home! I just love having this little girl and saying “girls day!” after the boys have been able to say boys day before she was born. I feel no one else seems to say this though. I don’t know I just feel so lucky I get to experience having a girl.

is this odd?

You say you love them equally, your post says you most definitely favour your girl over your boy. A used to babysit when I was a teen, the woman had 2 boys then her much wanted girl, she got to about 8-9 years before the pink, the dresses, the dolls and general “girlie” faze was no more, she spent the rest of her childhood with her dad on the farm because that’s what she really loved, she’s now a very butch gay 30 year old woman, she got her girl, she just didn’t grow into the woman she imagined when she was a little girl, going for mother/daughter days out, shopping, helping her in her teen years being heartbroken over boyfriends, sitting having girlie chats or gossip, helping her pick out her wedding dress etc She’s a closer relationship with her second son and his kids than her daughter. She was exactly like you with her girl and ended up disappointed the future she’d imagined wasn’t as perfect in reality than it was in her head for the first few years of her daughter’s life.

Bubble567 · 30/06/2026 15:30

Anarchy99 · 30/06/2026 12:00

So why have a second? Or even a first if you were that set on one sex? It’s not fair to have a child knowing that you only want one sex.

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Because I wanted children obviously. I had a preference which a lot of people secretly do but are too afraid to say out loud (probably due to comments like yours), it doesn't mean you don't love them and shouldn't have children.