AIBU to think my husband is a bit of a dick?

Foxes don’t kill for fun, so it’s odd they’re killing so many pets if they are already being fed. Maybe your neighbours should ensure their pets are properly protected at night.

You are being unreasonable, as part of your argument is that you leave out scraps that would otherwise go in the bin for the foxes. Maybe your husband had no scraps leftover ftom dinner to feed them. Unless you eat meat with bones every day why are you consistently having leftover food to put outside, it would more likely be an occasional thing, which sounds less of a problem for the fox’s wellbeing based on information shared on this thread.

Of course you are also unreasonable to feed foxes anyway and your refusal to engage on that subject is also unreasonable, so based on that i can’t really agree your husband is a dick, the fact is he did feed your cats and possibly made an exasperated joke.

You're the reason many pets have been killed where I live. Utter idiots feeding foxes who then happily wonder through all gardens killing whatever they can

This is a valid point, that you seem to be missing. Foxes are wild animals, they fend for themselves or at least, they should be able to. You didn't feed it for three days and either a) the fox starved, which illustrates why you shouldn't be feeding it like a pet in the first place, or b) the fox was perfectly fine and did what most wild animals do. found it's own food, so no need for you to keep on feeding it. DH shouldn't have agreed to do it and then not bother, he should have just said no in the first place.

Which animal charity or wildlife experts are you basing this reply on? Because you’re not meant to fed foxes. It does them more harm than good. Unless that advice has changed? If it has, I’d appreciate a link to it.

I can't believe you make him do this! Are you disabled or just a cunt?

You’ve worked out a solution that works for you, your husband and the dog.

I don’t see a problem with it once I got past my knee jerk reaction and thought about it more logically.

Poor girl. I'm so glad she's back. I don't understand people's lack of empathy. You sound like my kind of person. Keep doing what you're doing. It's so hard when we realise people aren't like us. I found a cat under my stairs. He had been in an accident, and his eye had popped out. I found some painkillers. I have a good few pets and quite the medicine cabinet. It was a Sunday night; there was no emergency vet near me. I spent a long time working out what dose I could give him, and then I locked him in the bathroom until I could get him to a vet the next morning. I was telling two friends about it, and they both said they'd have turfed him out of the house. I couldn't wrap my head around it.

I would feed a fox that came into my garden too. You're a kind person.

I’d be upset too.
I feed leftovers to the foxes because our bins aren’t being emptied right now due to heat? So I thought it would get rid of it! I don’t do it all the time though. I did start feeding a hedgehog but saw the fox eating the food. I hate the fox poo and smell all over the garden and have a little dog who gets upset when she can smell someone has been in her garden!

I do love all animals and know I shouldn’t feed them but still do!

Your husband sounds selfish. However I am pretty sure some people lack the ability to give a shit! My neighbour has a guinea pig she rarely feeds or cleans out, I’ve been popping over when she’s gone out putting nice greens in its cage. She admittedly said she doesn’t care about it (I want to steal it but that’s another post!) DH doesn’t get it as he just doesn’t think about these things or let it enter his mind! Whereas I obsess over it and feel sorry for them!

Another example house near us had a baby seagull fallen off the roof and one stuck in the gutter struggling! They called appropriate people who couldn’t do anything but they ignored it until it fell to it’s death, I would have stood under it with a bed sheet 😂 The other one that fell then got eaten by foxes that night! I wanted to go over and rescue it before that happened or leave food and water but it wasn’t my house or place to! Then again it’s nature and I know we shouldn’t intervene!

Errrr wrong thread?

Think you are on the wrong thread, the fox isn’t due any CMS

Well done for feeding the foxes!! Need more people to give a damn!

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Likewise for the OP 😂

Yes he is a dick if he agreed to him then just decided not to.

Aw. The poor baby.

You are lucky the damn fox hasn't eaten your cat. Any fox seen round our place gets shot.

We both WFH, our dog is walked twice a day, brought to doggy agility at weekends, and has free use of the downstairs and garden. I'll fill his water, wash his blankets, buy all his food, let him in and out, talk to him etc. But I cannot cope with touching animals (any animal) or the smell of dog food.

If we happened to just be out for a prolonged day, we pay our teen neighbour to mind the dog. If one overnight I'll mind him but I mentally cannot cope with multiple days on end.

The kids love him, my DH loves him, I tolerate him like a roommate 😂 He's actually a lovely dog but I have my limits.

Not your decision to make.

The unreasonable person here is you OP.

Why are you glad you don't know me?
Because I put the animals needs first and we make sure he is well looked after instead of me spending days on end crying at the thought of having to care for it solo?

You sound like a good match for each other…

Tbf though he did feed the cats. I'd say his response was just being fed up of being criticised by the OP.

Well i suspect he doesnt agree with you feeding them but you sound too hostile to have that debate with him. Had he said no i wont feed the fox, you would have argued with him. Out on my back lawn last year...seven foxes...and i dont feed them. I dont hate foxes but they crap everywhere, dig up everywhere and howl like banshees in the night when they mate in my suburban garden.