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UK parents: what are you passing on to your children?

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HauntedBungalow · 28/06/2026 23:32

I recently rewatched One Battle After Another and got to thinking about the notion of legacy. How we all want to pass on a better world to our children but we can't, because the world doesn't "get better". About the best we can do is hand over a world, and a gun, like the film.

But in the UK, we can't even do that. So, with that in mind, what are you personally handing over?

Mine includes : never answer police questions; wherever you go know how to say "I'm in trouble and I need help"; always have a bank account nobody knows about; never trust a hippy; never trust a fascist.

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Lovingapeacefulgarden · 29/06/2026 06:22

Never answe police questions is madness and could lead to them getting into serious troube one day for refusing to. I am.trying to teach my kids to be respectful, aware id rhe environment, be kind people but not walk overs, be wise with money and dont run up debts..

Fivelea · 29/06/2026 06:21

OP - I think at least one of the things on your list is actively bad advice which will harm your children. At least one more is phrased horribly, and if your children talk like that they will also harm themselves.

growinguptobreakingdown · 29/06/2026 06:20

I'm handing down to my kids to be kind and inclusive.We are all quite happy that guns are not available. I guess you shouldn't ever trust us.

growinguptobreakingdown · 29/06/2026 06:16

The never trust a hippy thing is an old quote.Turns out lots of hippies in the 60s turned into money makers/would steal your grandma if you turned your back on them.Think Richard Branson I suppose.Seems an odd thing to tell your kid now.Can you explain op? It's the sort of thing my Dad used to say - how old are you?

Splashduck · 29/06/2026 06:10

Treat others as you would wish to be treated.

respect yourself and others

love is stronger than hate

Projectprincesschaos · 29/06/2026 06:07

As others have said re police comment - it seems to be based on an assumption that they will questioned by police who are not to be trusted.

Re asking being in trouble and asking for help - let’s hope that does not include the police

I think these things are biased advice and based on your own prejudices

Bellic · 29/06/2026 05:58

So if the police ask you to see your ring doorbell footage you tell them to wait for your legal team to arrive? Really? If you have done nothing wrong, what have you to lose?

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 29/06/2026 05:56

Never answer police questions is bad advice. Much better advice would be to never answer police questions without a lawyer present.

Supersleepysheepy · 29/06/2026 05:53

Those rules seem rather different to what I'd teach my own child. If my daughter grows up to understand that no person is better than another regardless of wealth, background, race etc, knows when to be kind and when to stand up for herself, knows how to be content and happy and to have a respect for nature and the world we live in, then I'll be happy.

Bellic · 29/06/2026 05:49

Why wouldn’t you do all you can to help the police?

Octavia64 · 29/06/2026 03:24

I’m disabled.

I go to the police quite frequently usually to ask stuff like where’s the disabled loo and any idea where the assistance desk is

no idea why you wouldn’t answer their questions.

i gave my kids the knowledge that most rules are just guidelines.

Fatiguedwithlife · 29/06/2026 03:07

Why wouldn’t you answer police questions? Never been asked anything by police so am curious. Also the hippy,
Ive told my kids not to rely on anyone. Ever.

Ooih · 29/06/2026 02:44

Why the hippy one? I don't get that