UK parents: what are you passing on to your children?

All subjective innit? I personally find it bizarre to find it bizarre that people have lived different lives, had different experiences and formed different values and life lessons.

Oooh this one is great. 😊

A better world does not include personal firearms. And I’d rather trust a hippy than a millionaire. And I think it’s usually OK to answer police questions, but always in the presence of witnesses. I agree with never trust a fascist.

Then find your freedom within your limitation.

Are you going to have the same conversation with her about every profession as their are bad apples in everyone

Can’t think why you wouldn’t answer questions put to you by the police. After all, they’ve never been shown to be corrupt and institutionally racist and sexist, have they? Come on, @HauntedBungalow . They are the pinnacle of integrity in this country

I haven’t had any sort of conversation with my children about the police yet as they are only little, but I certainly think I may need to speak to DD when she’s older, after Sarah everard. This would perhaps be even more important if I wasn’t white British.

Is it just me that finds all those pieces of advice a bit bizarre?!! I don’t agree with any of them except maybe the ‘I’m in trouble one’.

To my girls: Don’t be ‘kind’ or ‘inclusive’ first. Your personal safety and relying on your inherent personal sense of danger comes before that. I despise the ‘be kind’ message to little girls and believe it serves them ill.

To my boy; Women are people with the same rights to personal safety and the pursuit of happiness as men. They’re not support resources for you.

I don't need to watch a video if police ask me questions about witnessing a crime I'm answering. Have you actually had dealings with the police, been a victim of a serious crime because I have and the police where brilliant every step of the way. Im a strong believer of if you've got nothing to hide then what's the problem

to appreciate nature, how to identify edible plants, to speak multiple languages, not to be racist, to think critically and be able to fact check, neuroplasticity and quantum mechanics.

Unfortunately, having a family and kids is beyond the scope of most young people today.

Treat others as you wish to be treated

you don’t like everyone do why should everyone like you

every problem has a solution

How about teaching children not to smear a whole demographic based upon a few bad eggs....

Even better still, ‘never do anything that would get you in a position whereby the police would need to question you in the presence of a lawyer’.

You are teaching your kids the world is a terrible place and trust no-one.

Now I am in my fifties I have gradually realised the value of small c conservative values. I’d like to help my kids to see that they are capable and have agency to shape their own lives, to see the freedom and opportunity within whatever limitations they face. I’d like them to see failures as inevitable and part of learning, not a reason to despair and give up. I’d like them to see the value of working hard and taking responsibility for themselves.

I’d like them to know that having a family and kids is one of the most meaningful things they can do. That good relationships with other people and living a life with purpose and meaning is the way to a good life. To let them know that there will always be ruptures in relationships and that they need to be repaired.

i’d like them to see a good marriage as one of mutual service between spouses and to know that a marriage without gratitude cannot survive. To know that whatever is important to their spouse needs to become important to them, and vice versa.

I’d hope that they will reject the current cult of individuality and endless navel gazing to discover their ‘identity’ or ‘authentic’ self. Because a secure sense of self comes from having a sense of capability, agency, purpose and community. Not finding a label online and trying to force everyone else to ‘respect’ it. That way endlessly fragility lies.

Never rely on anyone financially.

Once the bills are paid, enjoy half & save half of what's left

Life will be happier and less stressful if he is kind and tolerant to his family

Keep trying - there is always a way

Always have the means to make your own income. If you have trained for a career and you give up work to become a SAHP keep your skills and networks up to date, and do bits of consultancy or volunteer work. Be visible on LinkedIn (I know it’s cringe but out of sight is out of mind otherwise). I know too many women who have taken 5 years or more out of work to raise a family only to find they can no longer get well paid jobs in their specialism. Over 40% of marriages break down and having the means to support yourself and your children makes you much less vulnerable.

Don’t hide your light so that someone else can shine - and don’t trust anyone who wants you to do that. You are not a supporting character in your own life story.

Buy the bigger house, even if you have to stretch yourself in the early days. You’ll save money in the long term because you won’t have to move again and you’ll have the house you really want.

Don’t treat others as you would wish to be treated. Treat them as THEY would wish to be treated.

Get your driving test out of the way as soon as possible once you turn 17. Lessons aren’t going to get any cheaper, being able to drive opens up more job opportunities, and it’s something you don’t need to think about again.

Try watching his video before replying. Black Belt Barrister doesn’t just speak about being “questioned for a serious crime”.

'Scandinavia with Simon Reeves' is a great alternative watch to provide an alternative perspective re societies that don't support mass gun ownership and mistrust of others, (whilst being pragmatic about defence and investing in it) but are generally thriving with better life expectancy and happiness ratings than those that do (unsurprisingly really).

I will be passing on to mine that gun ownership for protection's sake is a daft approach and one that we should resist taking on here.

I think being questioned for a serious crime is massively different to just refusing to answer police questions if they need help with something or its something minor like a traffic stop

This 💯!
Black Belt Barrister posted some informative videos on his channel about being questioned by the police and how to respond.

Don't automatically trust drs question everything.

If you want something you save for it
Don't judge others
Health and happiness is more important then money and stuff

"Never answer police questions"

What century do you think this is? Where are these places where such a thought even entered your head? How much contact do your children have with the police? Why? In the UK we can't really pass anything on to our kids. We dont have that type of society. A good sense of humour is probably the most useful.

My gift to my DS is music. I’m a very keen amateur musician. He’s 20 and he is too, having had years of lessons and experience of playing in bands. Neither of us are professionals, but as amateurs it’s a brilliant hobby for so many reasons.

My other gift to my DCs is organisation skills. Sort your life out! Be prepared. Get there on time. Look smart. Do stuff on time. Get up and go. Think the best of others. Trust gut feel.

Never trust anyone with extreme political views the socialists are wicked also and the two extremes meet in the middle.