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Bums hanging out of the bottom of teeny tiny shorts

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Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 20:42

Don’t know if this really AIBU or a question!
AIBU to think that shorts have become way too short ?
I have seen a LOT of girls in shorts today - with their bum cheeks hanging out the bottom ! Personally I wouldn’t let my daughter out like that. And I wouldn’t were them myself (I would give everyone nightmares !).
so what’s the consensus on bums hanging out of shorts ?

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Wipeywipey · 28/06/2026 23:18

Loving all the comments suggesting women wear these for men only - erm, there has been a heatwave going on, it is summer... But no, can't be the only reason, right? The lesbians are clearly not really gay either.

VanessaFence · 28/06/2026 23:18

I was one of those girls in the 2000s with jeans cut so low you could almost see pubes and a boob tube. I was only 13 so I didn't realise it was supposed to be sexy, I just thought I looked cool. But my mum said it was unbearable walking next to me as older men would be staring and ogling the whole time.

I feel a bit sad now thinking about how naive I was and how "male gaze" I looked.

I'm always amazed when women say "if I had the figure I'd wear that too". There's absolutely no way I'd want to go back to wearing tight, uncomfortable clothing and getting cat called by some sweaty old pervert.

Illegally18 · 28/06/2026 23:16

TinyTempest · 28/06/2026 20:45

Bums have been hanging out of shorts since the late 1980s.

Daisy Dukes anyone?

Not like that.

KeepPumping · 28/06/2026 23:14

MasterBeth · 28/06/2026 21:59

Her vulva literally in your face??

Do you know what any of these words mean?

LOL

BlueSherbet · 28/06/2026 23:14

Pedallleur · 28/06/2026 20:46

Oh they do but probably not the sort of people you want looking at young women. My daughter was in Harrogate recently and said a woman was walking down the street in a thong bikini!!!

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Harrogate you say? What street was this on exactly? 😝

SmoothPorridgeOats · 28/06/2026 23:14

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/06/2026 22:57

WTF has that to do with anything?

Why did you even ask that?

If you're not attracted to women, why would you care so much?

Also, I didn't ask you, why are you so offended?

gegs73 · 28/06/2026 23:13

youalright · 28/06/2026 21:45

Is this what where talking about as I see nothing wrong with this or are you meaning something different

Ones I’ve seen are much less material than this. Kind of thong like until half way up the butt, so it just looks naked then more material above.

ThatCyanCat · 28/06/2026 23:13

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/06/2026 23:08

I’m a firm believer in respecting their youth. They’re not trying to turn on weird men, they’re just exploring their choices, discovering their sexual identity, it’s not everyday that you get to be 18 to 22.
I don’t like to seeing young children in skimpy shorts, not even because their bottom makes me uncomfortable, there is just too many sick vile people out there that would use the view inappropriately.
They should be free to dress in the latest fashion without weird people assuming that they’re up for sex.

Yes, as utterly hideous as this fashion is, it's definitely no excuse for harassing anyone.

Noodleschicken · 28/06/2026 23:12

Anarchy99 · 28/06/2026 23:07

None of your business what others wear. I wouldn’t wear shorts anyway but I don’t care what others do.

MN loves to judge other women’s choices. And there will be comments about fanny flaps etc. I am genuinely amazed that people get to adulthood without realising people can dress how they like

It’s good conversation

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GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf · 28/06/2026 23:09

Listen idk how many skinny summers I have left I’m getting out the batty riders

Anarchy99 · 28/06/2026 23:09

Also what sort of weirdos even notice what others are wearing to that extent? But if you do and it offends you, look away.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/06/2026 23:08

ThatCyanCat · 28/06/2026 22:58

But I think that generally, the idea is more "look how edgy and daring and fashionable I am" rather than "I want to titillate you and turn you on".

I’m a firm believer in respecting their youth. They’re not trying to turn on weird men, they’re just exploring their choices, discovering their sexual identity, it’s not everyday that you get to be 18 to 22.
I don’t like to seeing young children in skimpy shorts, not even because their bottom makes me uncomfortable, there is just too many sick vile people out there that would use the view inappropriately.
They should be free to dress in the latest fashion without weird people assuming that they’re up for sex.

KeepPumping · 28/06/2026 23:08

Ilovegolf · 28/06/2026 20:58

This is true. On a recent holiday a lady in a tiny thong bikini sat on a wooden barstool. The staff disinfected it after she moved!

Did they know her?

Anarchy99 · 28/06/2026 23:07

None of your business what others wear. I wouldn’t wear shorts anyway but I don’t care what others do.

MN loves to judge other women’s choices. And there will be comments about fanny flaps etc. I am genuinely amazed that people get to adulthood without realising people can dress how they like

ThatCyanCat · 28/06/2026 23:06

HaveCreditWillShop · 28/06/2026 23:03

Dear lord, surely not in Harrogate!

Ah, I can believe it.

HaveCreditWillShop · 28/06/2026 23:03

Pedallleur · 28/06/2026 20:46

Oh they do but probably not the sort of people you want looking at young women. My daughter was in Harrogate recently and said a woman was walking down the street in a thong bikini!!!

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Dear lord, surely not in Harrogate!

likelysuspect · 28/06/2026 23:02

ThatCyanCat · 28/06/2026 22:58

But I think that generally, the idea is more "look how edgy and daring and fashionable I am" rather than "I want to titillate you and turn you on".

Why would you conclude that when humans are sexual creatures that have instincts to procreate. Nearly everything we do has something to do with evolutinary needs to have sex.

You can think you're being edgy and daring but you're fooling yourself if you dont acknowledge that part of that edge and dare is that 'I hope someone will see this and fancy me'. Its usually subconcious which is why a parent should say 'you're not going out dressed like that'

Thats why for years and years people had those boundaries

Now apparently, anything goes.

ThatCyanCat · 28/06/2026 23:02

EmeraldShamrock000 · 28/06/2026 22:56

Tbf I wore some skimpy outfits in my time. I was a teenager when Britney and Christina wore bra tops and low cut jeans. I obviously copied the trend on occasion as much as my parents hated it.

Me too. Most of us probably did. Which is why I never cared about scrunch bum leggings or trousers with Juicy written on the arse (cannot believe those ugly fuckers are still going), stupid as they all were.

Actual naked arses out in shopping centres, restaurants and parks in cities and urban areas miles away from any body of water does feel different though.

AhhhSchtop · 28/06/2026 23:00

likelysuspect · 28/06/2026 22:52

And then they get attention. This is attention

Or they get what they might call 'unwanted attention'. And then theres claim that 'well I didnt want attention'

Yes - yes, you’re right. And if a girl wears red lipstick she was asking for it.

Jesus, it’s like feminism never happened.

Isittimeformynapyet · 28/06/2026 22:59

FrootyCider · 28/06/2026 22:52

It's only a bum. Everyone's got one.
I saw a man in a puffa jacket on Thursday, out in 36 degrees. THAT was disturbing.

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Well, you can't hide a weapon under a singlet can you 🤷🏻

ThatCyanCat · 28/06/2026 22:58

LittleWaterRabbit · 28/06/2026 22:42

It’s definitely for attention, you don’t walk around with your arse hanging out if you don’t want attention

But I think that generally, the idea is more "look how edgy and daring and fashionable I am" rather than "I want to titillate you and turn you on".

PhaedraTwo · 28/06/2026 22:58

Simbaonedaythiswillallbeyours · 28/06/2026 21:11

I think men walking around high streets/supermarkets/public transport etc with no top on is actually worse than butt cheeks.

Agreed. Much worse. There's an unpleasant aggressiveness about it.

Female arses, I just think "sooner you than me love"

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/06/2026 22:57

SmoothPorridgeOats · 28/06/2026 22:56

Are you usually attracted to women?

WTF has that to do with anything?

Why did you even ask that?

LadyWhistledownsSocietyPapers · 28/06/2026 22:56

DancingLions · 28/06/2026 22:01

The thing is though, if this was fat hairy builder Dave with his butt cheeks on display you can bet everyone would be calling it grim and saying he should cover up. I really dont think people would be defending his right to wear what he wants!

A lot of places have rules around men being topless in the summer months. Its not allowed in many places. But there's nothing "private" about mens chests so why do we need that rule? Because people find it gross!

Oh but if its young attractive women its ok? Well yes, no men are going to complain about it are they!

I have to agree, people only are fine with others showing off their bum cheeks if they are attracted to them.

Which is where my issue comes from. I've seen girls as young as 12 wearing them. Their choice of clothing doesn't make perverted men, but it certainly attracts them.

And no, I'm not blaming girls for what they wear, it's never their fault. Looking at it through a realistic lens means there will likely be some men staring, and I would not want that to happen to my 12 year old!

Overall people can wear what they like (although I'd prefer not to see peoples bits) but I do worry about the trend for younger girls.

Supersimkin7 · 28/06/2026 22:56

Round here it’s all the size 16s at it, looks majestic rather than porny.