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To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 19:59

Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

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Deepf60 · 30/06/2026 08:36

Great....my man is 23 years younger, we deserve to be happy...and sod everyone else's opinion xx

Deepf60 · 30/06/2026 08:35

AJLOAL · 29/06/2026 20:18

I'm 57 and seeing a 38 year old man. No one's business but ours.

Great....my man is 23 years younger, we deserve to be happy...and sod everyone else's opinion xx

DimwittedSkater · 30/06/2026 08:32

darksideofthetoon · 30/06/2026 07:39

Well I think at this stage you may just lack the experience this other woman offers 😂

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🤣🤣🤣

Good for that woman! I bet her friends are CACKLING about pulling someone thirty years younger!

Deepf60 · 30/06/2026 08:29

LakieLady · 29/06/2026 19:16

I'm 70, this has given me hope that sex may not necessarily be a thing of the past for me!

Don't give up. I met my boyfriend 5 years ago, just before my 70th birthday. He was 47 at the time....had the best times over the last 5 years, age isn't a restriction as far as intimacy is concerned. In fact I'm more in tune with what I like and need more than any other time in my life.Our happiness surpasses anyone else's negative responses to our relationship.

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darksideofthetoon · 30/06/2026 07:39

DimwittedSkater · 30/06/2026 00:02

Can you give him my number? 🤣 I'm a lot younger than his current squeeze!

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Well I think at this stage you may just lack the experience this other woman offers 😂

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DimwittedSkater · 30/06/2026 00:02

darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 23:27

But he does, I’ve known him for years and he’s had more women in bed than hot meals. Women break all the ‘rules’ for him.

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Can you give him my number? 🤣 I'm a lot younger than his current squeeze!

DaringQuoter · 29/06/2026 23:39

It really depends, the OP said her friend is well off and the woman he is seeing has no worry issues. Is there a discrepancy in money between your friend and her friend?

My friend is comfortable and has promised she won’t let him move in. It just feels weird to me.

AlgaeDreams · 29/06/2026 23:11

riversofjoy · 29/06/2026 21:20

You would date someone aged 18 when you are 48 and you don’t find that problematic in any way? 😳

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Please do refer me to where I posted anything regarding an 18 and a 48 year old. Or indeed myself dating at either age.

I was questioning where you thought the power imbalance was.

Does the man in his 30s have power over the 66 year old? Does she have power over him?

Why do you view relationships as having to have a balance of power?

Why do you feel the need to bring up a 48 year old man and a teenager?

We're discussing 2 grown adults that are enjoying each other's time and company.

I kissed goodbye to 48 a few years ago.

Do keep getting yourself het up about nothing said or even alluded to though.

LaDamaDeElche · 29/06/2026 23:11

Yeah, those kind of age gaps aren’t common for dating at that stage in life, so I’d see why it would be a bit surprising. If it was the other way around I think the responses would be different. I couldn’t imagine sleeping with someone that old and I’m 10 years older than your friend and I’d imagine the overwhelming majority of people feel the same…apart from on Mumsnet apparently.

RosieSpring · 29/06/2026 22:50

darksideofthetoon · 29/06/2026 21:57

I’ll ask him and see what he says 😂

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I mean on this post, he'll be ripped to shreds on main MN! Give him your account to post here! Wink

TinyTempest · 29/06/2026 22:48

DistanceCall · 29/06/2026 21:47

And if they want to shag like crazy, or fall in love, what's the problem?

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I should have said as long as they’re on the same page.

I worded it badly.

Beeloux · 29/06/2026 22:41

PintofFizz · 29/06/2026 20:56

How about relationships where the couple are equal. Both contribute equally or sometimes he contributes more, sometimes she contributes more. I'm guessing a lot of relationships are like that.

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Men don’t have to endure possibly life threatening situations which come with carrying a child.

Until they do, my opinion will remain the same.

Far too many men these days expect a woman to contribute 50/50 financially whilst also doing the majority of the housework and childbearing.

bornwithhorns · 29/06/2026 22:35

Sorry the point was I bet he’s having a great time ! Enjoy seeing him happy even if it is only for a short while

bornwithhorns · 29/06/2026 22:34

I’m 51 the amount of 30 years olds
i get messaging from online dating is ihugher than any other age group.
i think maybe it’s the fact we are pretty sorted and not wanting to settle down and have kids obviously that maybe attract them , I don’t know.
i don’t because my daughter is 30 so feels a bit too near the bone for me so i tend to respond to 40s up

shockmethen · 29/06/2026 22:26

59 yr old here with a very fun and casual situationship with a 28 yr old.
yes I look great. Yes he is hot. Yes it’s crazy good sex and we enjoy spending time with each other before and after the sex.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 29/06/2026 22:16

SkippitySkoppity · 29/06/2026 22:11

Penny, I'm not gonna lie, it's been a long day and I'm not sure I can be arsed explaining the difference between a teenager and someone in their mid 30s.

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they can be similar in many ways or they can be different in many ways
they can connect via mutal hobbies, intrests, etc

even when its eg 25 and 25 there is not garentee that they have the same thoughts hobbies intrests etc

yes to a point i do agree and i am playing devils advocate on the issue buit overall age itself does not mean that a person does not know their own mind, even more so when its the younger one chasing the older one,

SkippitySkoppity · 29/06/2026 22:11

PenelopeJoanSterling · 29/06/2026 22:05

in what ways ? 18 you can join the army and get deployed to an active battlezone ?

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Penny, I'm not gonna lie, it's been a long day and I'm not sure I can be arsed explaining the difference between a teenager and someone in their mid 30s.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 29/06/2026 22:05

SkippitySkoppity · 29/06/2026 21:44

a 66 yr old with a 36 yr old is vastly different from a 48 yr old with an 18 yr old. 🙄

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in what ways ? 18 you can join the army and get deployed to an active battlezone ?

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darksideofthetoon · 29/06/2026 21:57

RosieSpring · 29/06/2026 21:38

Can you get him on here to answer some questions?Grin An AmA of sorts!

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I’ll ask him and see what he says 😂

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riversofjoy · 29/06/2026 21:50

SkippitySkoppity · 29/06/2026 21:44

a 66 yr old with a 36 yr old is vastly different from a 48 yr old with an 18 yr old. 🙄

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Curious- what specific age does a 30 year gap become acceptable?

DistanceCall · 29/06/2026 21:47

TinyTempest · 28/06/2026 20:08

Ahh ok.

As long as neither of them suddenly wants more, it shouldn’t be a problem.

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And if they want to shag like crazy, or fall in love, what's the problem?

CatesandAle · 29/06/2026 21:47

Why is it anyone’s business, they’re both consenting mature adults, focus on your own life

SkippitySkoppity · 29/06/2026 21:44

riversofjoy · 29/06/2026 21:20

You would date someone aged 18 when you are 48 and you don’t find that problematic in any way? 😳

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a 66 yr old with a 36 yr old is vastly different from a 48 yr old with an 18 yr old. 🙄

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darksideofthetoon · 29/06/2026 21:38

PintofFizz · 29/06/2026 19:55

Purely jaded by the men on MN

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Well you’re very welcome to leave this thread.

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RosieSpring · 29/06/2026 21:38

darksideofthetoon · 29/06/2026 21:23

Nah, discussed this earlier. He’s well off and generous so not in it for money.

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Can you get him on here to answer some questions?Grin An AmA of sorts!

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