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To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 19:59

Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

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choccytime · 28/06/2026 20:26

Well Madonna's 67 and all her boyfriends have been a lot younger

jdb9803 · 28/06/2026 20:25

LaurieFairyCake · 28/06/2026 20:14

Too much of a gap. It’s half your age plus 7 years is the minimum.

Unfortunately my husband pointed out that even with the above it would mean I could date a bloke in his mid nineties 🤮🤮🤮

I hope you told him he looks good for his age 😄

MyLimeGuide · 28/06/2026 20:23

LaurieFairyCake · 28/06/2026 20:14

Too much of a gap. It’s half your age plus 7 years is the minimum.

Unfortunately my husband pointed out that even with the above it would mean I could date a bloke in his mid nineties 🤮🤮🤮

Hmmm interesting, I'm 46 and my boyfriend is 32 (i have been a bit worried about the gap) but by your logic I'm ok??!

JulietteHasAGun · 28/06/2026 20:22

One of my neighbours must be in her early 60s and uses Tinder and says she hooks up with a lot of guys in their 20s. Some of which are fairly regular hook ups now. She says she gets loads of messages.

MyLimeGuide · 28/06/2026 20:20

ShetlandishMum · 28/06/2026 20:04

It's isn't that uncommon tbh.

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Its more common with an older man and when its the woman older it seems more shocking! Which I don't think is fair!!

BillieWiper · 28/06/2026 20:19

They're both adults. I guess I would be a bit surprised if a mate who only dated younger people was dating someone 20 plus years older, but I'd just be happy for them.

Lexy2345 · 28/06/2026 20:19

I think it's a bit disrespectful of him to tell you all about their sex life. Is nothing private anymore? I'd be seriously pissed off if I had a younger boyfriend who then blabbed to his friend about what we got up to in private.
However, if they are both enjoying each other's company and there's no deceit involved, then there's nothing newsworthy about an age gap relationship of this nature.

MajorSamanthaCarter · 28/06/2026 20:17

LaurieFairyCake · 28/06/2026 20:14

Too much of a gap. It’s half your age plus 7 years is the minimum.

Unfortunately my husband pointed out that even with the above it would mean I could date a bloke in his mid nineties 🤮🤮🤮

I wondered how long it would be before someone spouted that half your age plus 7 bollocks 🙄

Coldwetlettuce · 28/06/2026 20:16

darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 20:04

Yes but he’s been seeing her for a few months and they go on dates like hiking and trips away.

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Why is there no intention of it developing into anything more if they go on hiking trips and trips away? Good on the woman for bagging a younger guy! And it’s refreshing to see that not all late 30s men want to date women in their early 20s, so good on him too

LaurieFairyCake · 28/06/2026 20:14

Too much of a gap. It’s half your age plus 7 years is the minimum.

Unfortunately my husband pointed out that even with the above it would mean I could date a bloke in his mid nineties 🤮🤮🤮

Dollymylove · 28/06/2026 20:14

Reverse the genders and it would be virtually paedophilia in the world of mumsnet 🤣

Arlanymor · 28/06/2026 20:12

darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 20:10

Without going into details, they’ve got to know each other very well in bed. My friend doesn’t do platonic stuff. He lit up like a Christmas tree when I asked him how it was in bed.

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Good for them then!

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darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 20:12

Deadringer · 28/06/2026 20:08

I would be shocked too op, I mean good for them, but i know lots of men in their 30s and lots of women in their 60s and I can't imagine any of them getting together.

Exactly. It just caught me off guard. To be fair she is a beautiful lady but still clear she’s in her 60s.

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darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 20:10

Arlanymor · 28/06/2026 20:05

He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

I don't find anything shocking in that at all. You do know that people can also date and also not have an 'intimate' relationship? And even if they do, provided no one is being abused, control or hurt then it's a non-issue isn't it? Sounds like they are just enjoying spending time with each other on a light-hearted basis.

Without going into details, they’ve got to know each other very well in bed. My friend doesn’t do platonic stuff. He lit up like a Christmas tree when I asked him how it was in bed.

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LasagneGoblin · 28/06/2026 20:10

Some men like much older women (Wayne Rooney anyone?) Some older women still have a raging libido and a lot of men their own age can't keep up. Cheers to them both, hope they're at it like rabbits on the daily.

jdb9803 · 28/06/2026 20:09

darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 20:06

I have never seen this and seen a lot of things. Yes, I know some guys go for older women but the age gap is very large.

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I'm guessing they both have their age range set on the app for exactly this kind of age gap

Deadringer · 28/06/2026 20:08

I would be shocked too op, I mean good for them, but i know lots of men in their 30s and lots of women in their 60s and I can't imagine any of them getting together.

TinyTempest · 28/06/2026 20:08

MovedlikeHarlowinMonteCarlo · 28/06/2026 20:06

They are dating.

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Ahh ok.

As long as neither of them suddenly wants more, it shouldn’t be a problem.

ShetlandishMum · 28/06/2026 20:08

darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 20:06

I have never seen this and seen a lot of things. Yes, I know some guys go for older women but the age gap is very large.

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He is happy?

Goodmorningeveryone26 · 28/06/2026 20:07

ShetlandishMum · 28/06/2026 20:04

It's isn't that uncommon tbh.

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Really?? I’d have thought it wasn’t common at all ! Honestly I think it’s absolutely gross. I’d think it was weird too, OP, but I probably wouldn’t start a thread about it. Might have a little gossip with another friend who didn’t know him though, just to process my thoughts. Yes, none of your business blah blah blah but I’d be taken aback as well, honestly

Gabitule · 28/06/2026 20:07

I think they are just friends and he said he was ‘’seeing’’ her just for effect. He ‘sees’her because he gets company without the pressure of having to offer more in a relationship (as women his age or younger might want children etc).

MovedlikeHarlowinMonteCarlo · 28/06/2026 20:06

TinyTempest · 28/06/2026 20:06

But they’re not actually dating or have I read it wrong?

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They are dating.

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darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 20:06

ShetlandishMum · 28/06/2026 20:04

It's isn't that uncommon tbh.

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I have never seen this and seen a lot of things. Yes, I know some guys go for older women but the age gap is very large.

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TinyTempest · 28/06/2026 20:06

ofcolitas · 28/06/2026 20:05

Because thats exactly what dating sites are for, surely?

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But they’re not actually dating or have I read it wrong?

Arlanymor · 28/06/2026 20:05

He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

I don't find anything shocking in that at all. You do know that people can also date and also not have an 'intimate' relationship? And even if they do, provided no one is being abused, control or hurt then it's a non-issue isn't it? Sounds like they are just enjoying spending time with each other on a light-hearted basis.

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