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To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

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darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 19:59

Had a few beers with a good friend recently and got a bit tipsy and we got into his dating life. He told me that he’s been seeing a 66 year old grandmother. He is only 37 for reference. They met via online dating.

To be clear, there is nothing wrong with this but I’m just a bit shocked to be honest. He says that they enjoy each other’s company and there is no intention of it developing into anything more.

My friend has always dated younger women and not short of female attention at all.

It’s all good right?

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ThatLilacTiger · 28/06/2026 21:58

A lot of people are going to get all morally superior and pretend there's absolutely nothing to see here but yes OP it is quite unusual. Nothing wrong with it but I'd be a bit surprised too.

Arlanymor · 28/06/2026 21:56

Gwenhwyfar · 28/06/2026 21:11

Statistics rather than just you!

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Evidence then? Someone else on here has questioned you too. Maybe statistics rather than just you randomly saying something with no back up?!

MrsClattenburg · 28/06/2026 21:56

@darksideofthetoon some of thsze replies are wild!

37 and 66 😲

That's a serious age gap...

youalright · 28/06/2026 21:55

Ewwww yeah thats weird

JohnofWessex · 28/06/2026 21:55

CamillaMcCauley · 28/06/2026 21:53

What a foul thing to say, John.

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It was meant in the sense that he might have been worn out possibly to the point of expiration by the experience............

CamillaMcCauley · 28/06/2026 21:53

JohnofWessex · 28/06/2026 21:52

Well at least he's still alive after the experience

(Ie you havnt had such a good time with him that he's passed on)

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What a foul thing to say, John.

Delphiniumandlupins · 28/06/2026 21:53

Very similar ages to me and my eldest DC. I like a lot of their friends but can't imagine any sort of romantic or sexual relationship. It's more usual an older man with younger woman but two people finding happiness together sounds great.

JohnofWessex · 28/06/2026 21:52

Ilovemychocolate · 28/06/2026 21:16

But why do you give a fuck?
I am 56 and recently had sex with a 28 year old.
i don’t want to repeat it (he does) but to me it was a bit of fun, nothing more.
Your friend is enjoying the moment, we are a long time dead!

Well at least he's still alive after the experience

(Ie you havnt had such a good time with him that he's passed on)

PintofFizz · 28/06/2026 21:44

Gwenhwyfar · 28/06/2026 21:11

Statistics rather than just you!

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About half of divorced people never remarry.

Interestingly, divorce men are much more likely to remarry than women 🤔

CamillaMcCauley · 28/06/2026 21:44

Berlinlover · 28/06/2026 21:36

Mumsnet drives me insane sometimes. If this thread was about a 37 year old woman and a 66 year old man there would be uproar but apparently it’s fine when it’s the other way around 🙄

Well TBF that’s probably because of the risk of the younger woman becoming trapped by a pregnancy and ending up caring for kids and a senior citizen, or wasting the tail end of her childbearing years on someone who obviously likes a younger model.

But you actually also do see mixed opinions on those threads. Some people will see it as fine as long as they are both consenting adults.

I am personally wary of age gaps in long term relationships as there was a 13 year gap between me and my ex (him older) and even that presented problems as time went on. But if it’s just a casual relationship and everyone is fully on board with that, it’s hard to see any issue.

ClairDeLaLune · 28/06/2026 21:44

LaurieFairyCake · 28/06/2026 20:14

Too much of a gap. It’s half your age plus 7 years is the minimum.

Unfortunately my husband pointed out that even with the above it would mean I could date a bloke in his mid nineties 🤮🤮🤮

Yikes! I could date someone who’s 106 😱

BauhausOfEliott · 28/06/2026 21:44

He’s 37, not 15. I‘m sure he’s perfectly capable of deciding who he wants to date. It’s not like he won’t be aware of the potential difficulties so presumably he’s weighed them and decided it’s worth it.

And before anyone asks: yes, it would be the same if the genders were reversed.

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darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 21:41

declutteredliving · 28/06/2026 21:34

Sugar mummy?

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Nah, my friend is a very high earner and she’s financially sorted. It’s definitely nothing to do with money.

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Safarisagoody · 28/06/2026 21:36

Ponoka7 · 28/06/2026 21:32

For some men the fact that there isn't going to be a accidental pregnancy, is a bonus.
In terms of just sex, most ok looking older women get messages from men in ther 20s.

Many men will have sex with any woman that offers it up. Seeing that person regularly is a different thing, this is where the genders differ. It’s not about pregnancy it’s about getting sex. This case is different as they are actively seeing each other.

Berlinlover · 28/06/2026 21:36

Mumsnet drives me insane sometimes. If this thread was about a 37 year old woman and a 66 year old man there would be uproar but apparently it’s fine when it’s the other way around 🙄

declutteredliving · 28/06/2026 21:34

darksideofthetoon · 28/06/2026 20:04

Yes but he’s been seeing her for a few months and they go on dates like hiking and trips away.

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Sugar mummy?

Ponoka7 · 28/06/2026 21:32

For some men the fact that there isn't going to be a accidental pregnancy, is a bonus.
In terms of just sex, most ok looking older women get messages from men in ther 20s.

operationplaytime · 28/06/2026 21:31

Each to their own and you’ve said she’s very attractive and maybe has a good body too so might look and feel a lot younger than her years!

Not sure I’d be interested in 66 yr old cock but I could definitely see myself hooking up with a man in his late 50s if he was hot

Trainup · 28/06/2026 21:26

ShetlandishMum · 28/06/2026 20:04

It's isn't that uncommon tbh.

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Based on what data?

Rituelec · 28/06/2026 21:25

My friend is 66 and dating a 37yr old man :o

doodledoodlebugbug · 28/06/2026 21:24

It would be a bit too big of an age gap for me but I don’t think it’s that shocking. My BIL is 32 and married to a woman in her late 50s. They’re very happy together.

Ilovemychocolate · 28/06/2026 21:16

But why do you give a fuck?
I am 56 and recently had sex with a 28 year old.
i don’t want to repeat it (he does) but to me it was a bit of fun, nothing more.
Your friend is enjoying the moment, we are a long time dead!

ruolocretaw · 28/06/2026 21:15

Yes, I'd be surprised that a man of 37 would be interested in seeing a woman in her mid 60s. If the sexes were reversed, it would still be a big gap, but this feels more surprising because most men seem to pursue women who are younger or at least not much older than they are. I'd find it less unusual if one were 27 and the other 46. Not that your life is over in your 60s, but most people decline in energy and objective physical attractiveness, at a certain point, and that makes a big age gap more unlikely unless fame and fortune are part of the appeal.

It's none of your business, of course, but he chose to tell you and you can't help having an opinion (which you'll keep to yourself if you're wise).

Safarisagoody · 28/06/2026 21:15

Ohthisheat · 28/06/2026 21:12

YABU to be shocked. Not all that unusual.

lol yeah it is, give over with the folks pretending many women staring down the barrel of 7o are fucking blokes in their 30s 😂

Ohthisheat · 28/06/2026 21:12

YABU to be shocked. Not all that unusual.