To be shocked that my good friend, 37, is seeing a 66 year old lady?

Sixty-seven year old here, and I know a 37 man who has been asking me out for over a year. I’m 9 years older than his mum.

He says the age gap doesn’t matter, but why the fuck would anyone want to shag someone 30 years their senior? I can’t get my head round it. He works hard, is intelligent and funny, over 6ft and looks great.

I'm nearly 60, I've got friends who have FWB much younger. Many men, or rather people want regular sex, without any complications, the exact scenario that's going on here. My post was in answer to posters who are incredulous that this is a thing, it's very much a thing. As I said, the fact that an accidental pregnancy can't happen, is a bonus, especially if they've previously thought they were just hooking up with a woman in her 20/early 30s and the next thing, she's pregnant.

This thread is, indeed nauseating, or some of the replies are.
What sickens the 🤮most? is it the thought of her old and saggy body? That's what I'm seeing, disgust for an older body.

I see that old trope for half your age + 7 works for the woman, though. Which is nice.

Just because a man receives a lot of attention from women doesn't mean those women want to date him. That's just called being friendly. It's not as if women want a relationship with every man that they're friendly with.

Men don't "go for" older women or younger women.

Generally speaking, men don't factor age into dating. So if a man meets a 60 year old he likes, or a 25 year old he likes, it's all the same.

Men who are dating and who try to filter out potential partners based on age are going to find themselves permanently single, so they generally go for any age.

I thought this was all common knowledge.

What is the problem?They are both footloose and fancy free.
She is a cougar which is quite popular nowadays. Think Joan Collins among others. If one was married it would be wrong ,but as long as they are happy it is only their business. So many judgemental people on Mumset. Too many holier than thou opinions!

I’d be surprised too. I find it weird when people date someone old/ young enough to be their parent/child.

This "rule" is just some made-up nonsense.

It sounds like an arrangement that works for both of them.

I really wouldn't be surprised if she is paying for all of the meals/trips etc though.

She is likely compensating him for his time with firm no-strings.

It's more common than people realise.

It even happened on The Archers fairly recently so it can't be that unusual! 😂

I take it he's not looking to get a girlfriend, though? he would be unreasonable if he entered into a relationship and kept this lady on the side, obviously.

They are both well into adulthood, and are happy with how things are between them. So who cares

You'll get lots of people playing devil's advocate on here, I think some are actively trying to cause argument, but I get you OP and it is a bit surprising when it comes about.

I have been in a couple of age gap relationships myself (just happened that way, I did not intentionally seek them out) where I have been both the younger and the older party.....

But that said, when an ex just three years older than me started seeing a woman nearly 30 years his senior I was shocked and also a tad offended (she was the one directly after me). I wondered if maybe I looked old and that's why he liked me! (daft looking at it now, but it's where my mind went!). In my mind he was extremely good looking (I was TOTALLY punching with him) and I could not understand why he wanted to be with someone older than his own mother 🤷

I moved on and gave up caring after a while lol

Yuck. And now you're talking about it with us.
The men on here.

I’m not sure what you are protesting about. He’s an adult, she’s an adult. It doesn’t sound like she wants to start hanging out with you all so let it be. Why do some people feel that others need rescuing all the time?

That's what I was thinking. It doesn't bother me either way, but the responses would be very different and people would be calling him a 'creep' and a 'dirty old man'.

Im the same age as your friend and absolutely wouldn't look twice at a 66 year old i would see them as more a dad then a romantic relationship

Quite! I thought the statistics were that divorced women are very much in the lowest percentage for remarriage - but very true about men! It's so easy for people to spout absolute garbage on here and then get cross when others 'dare' to question it, despite having showed no evidence when they made their initial assertion. If you're going to assert a 'fact' then show your basis otherwise you're just a blowhard. I got accused of being anecdotal when the person who made the comment couldn't be arsed to back up their erroneous assumption with facts.

Why on earth were you asking "how it was in bed"?

Yeh I’m with you. It’s weird.

That's a made up rule.

I'd say, just go with the flow. If it works for you for a short while or longer then why put arbitrary restrictions on it.