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Original poster

To ask my family to have the flu jab this year?

109 replies

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 28/06/2026 19:11

This is a genuine AIBU because i’m not sure and I see some crazy “rules” around new babies and postpartum bubbles these days. I also don’t want to be one of those people who act like they’re the first person in the world to have a baby.

Anyway…

I’m currently pregnant and due right before Christmas. The most likely situation is that I will have a very fresh baby for Christmas this year and I know well meaning family will want to come and visit and meet baby. We also would like to celebrate Christmas although obviously not sure what that will look like yet.

Would it be reasonable to ask that anyone who wants to meet baby over Christmas has the flu jab this year?

OP posts:
EverardDeTroyes · 28/06/2026 19:16

Breast feed your baby and they will benefit from your immunity.

Darragon · 28/06/2026 19:16

This is peak PFB.

MissyMooPoo2 · 28/06/2026 19:15

This must be a wind up.

6ate9 · 28/06/2026 19:15

You can ask, but some of them might not be eligible on the NHS. For healthy people it’s 65 years and over.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 28/06/2026 19:15

Will you be offering to pay?

Parky04 · 28/06/2026 19:14

Bonkers. I have nothing further to add!

PurpleLovecats · 28/06/2026 19:14

I don’t think you should really ask that, I wouldn’t, but it’s your baby. I guess be prepared that people might just opt not to come?
I don’t have the flu jab, it makes me feel truly awful after so I make that choice.

sunshinebelieve · 28/06/2026 19:13

Get the flu jab yourself during pregnancy and it’ll protect baby when they’re born. YABU to expect every visitor to have it, just ask that they don’t visit if they’re feeling unwell.

ShetlandishMum · 28/06/2026 19:11

No.