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Prospects after special school

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okroger · 28/06/2026 18:03

Sorry if I phase anything here wrong. I’m very new to any additional needs/SEN language.

My DS 3.5 will start school in Sept 2027. We’re awaiting an assessment but it’s looking likely he’ll be diagnosed as autistic. His issues are a speech delay and poor understanding. He can talk but not typically, doesn’t hold conversations for example.

It’s been suggested by his nursery that he may require a special school unless a lot of progression happens in the next year. Although I predicted this it feels a bit of a shock. Of course if this is the best route for him it will be the right choice.

I guess I’m worried about the prospects after special school. I’m sorry if this question offends anyone but what happens after usually. Can people get jobs, have careers, relationships etc. I know it’s a huge spectrum so maybe it’s a silly question and how long is a piece of string but I suppose I’m looking for some reassurance.

He’s classed as globally delayed (in speech and communication). He’s having independent speech therapy and is showing signs of progression so that’s positive.

I have a feeling he’s going to fall in the middle, his needs might not be met by mainstream but not server enough for special education.

Thanks x

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Liquiddetergent · 28/06/2026 18:10

Both of mine went to Sen schools . Both in early twenties - 1 doing their dream job living at home but raking in the money and loving life. The other has a council flat they pay for fully with no benefits as working hard locally on the high street.

without specialist education both would have struggled. It gave them skills to learn and be the people they are. Both tried mainstream but couldn’t meet their needs. Neither did uni but both did mainstream college with support.

so proud of both my kids.

compared to many 20 year olds who after uni are searching for jobs and really struggling with life I feel mine are doing really well .

not bad for the kids who we were told would never read or never be independent.

okroger · 28/06/2026 18:04

Sorry just realised this maybe isn’t the right topic

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