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Do you like a lot of stuff in your house?

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lettuceeat · 28/06/2026 15:14

I don't like clutter, it makes me tetchy and feel stressed. We do have book cases and ornaments but they are more thoughtful than just any old item. I do not have stuff on window ledges because then it needs moved to open/close blinds and I can't stand the faff. We have put at hand the stuff we need and what's used regularly, in the kitchen the kettle and toaster are out all the time as are the fruit bowls and chopping boards along with the bread bin, sounds a lot but it's quite a big space so looks spacious. What do you have out!

We do have some cushions on the sofa, a throw blanket and plants dotted about the house but the bedrooms for example have lamps and a basket out with a few photos in frames. All toiletries are in baskets/drawers or cupboards. Am I unusual?

OP posts:
Ablondiebutagoody · 28/06/2026 19:24

TheChosenTwo · 28/06/2026 18:35

I thought the same! So many plants (many of which look fake?!) and too many logs, an excess of cushions. I know for some that it looks cosy but to me it’s not relaxing because there’s just too much stuff crammed into a small place.
We’re all different though, we like what we like and that’s great really isn’t it?

There's 4 tables covered in crap, logs all over the floor, stuff on top of the wood burner, and 4 cushions plus a blanket on one of the chairs. Does look cosy but would stress me out.

CoastalCalm · 28/06/2026 18:39

Our clutter has reduced after last house move as donated a lot . Now I tend to go for quality and not quantity of things but I think if left unchecked my husband would have a house full of stuff

TheChosenTwo · 28/06/2026 18:35

Ablondiebutagoody · 28/06/2026 18:30

That room is full of clutter!

I thought the same! So many plants (many of which look fake?!) and too many logs, an excess of cushions. I know for some that it looks cosy but to me it’s not relaxing because there’s just too much stuff crammed into a small place.
We’re all different though, we like what we like and that’s great really isn’t it?

mydogisthebest · 28/06/2026 18:30

I don't like the minimalist look at all. Also, to me, a house without plants just looks bare and weird

Ablondiebutagoody · 28/06/2026 18:30

Itiswhysofew · 28/06/2026 15:23

Why would you think you're unusual? Sounds like you've got a pretty normal amount of things on display.

I don't like clutter, but I've got the things that I like to see on display. Like you, I don't display anything on widow ledges, but I've got mostly window seats.

One of my living rooms is similar to this.
No, it's not mine.

That room is full of clutter!

frozendaisy · 28/06/2026 18:17

Personally that’s too sterile for us but it seems more usual nowadays.

TheChosenTwo · 28/06/2026 18:11

I like things but they have a home mostly little things on my desk in my office (spare room).
It’s just 4 littler things sitting on my monitor stand and then a couple of pictures my niece drew me on my wall, a magnet that sticks to my lamp and there’s something else in there that I can’t remember!
The rest of my house is fairly minimalist, as much as it can be as a family of 5 (often 7 of us here). The only thing on the kitchen sides is a kettle which I’d gladly do away with because I don’t drink hot drinks and then sometimes a vase of flowers.
Front room has shelves, there are books and a couple of things from the kids framed on there.
Blankets are folded over the backs of sofas.
i don’t really like an excess of busy-ness. Just looks like mess to me.

mydogisthebest · 28/06/2026 18:01

WallaceinAnderland · 28/06/2026 17:51

It does bother me a bit that when me and DH die someone will have to sort our house out. We have no children so not sure who will do it

You need to do it yourself or it will all go in a skip. Such a lot of landfill.

I tend to agree but am not getting rid of things that me and DH have bought or rescued over the years because we like them.

Even if we took things to a charity shop if they can't sell them they will send to landfill

SaraHoliday · 28/06/2026 17:58

lettuceeat · 28/06/2026 15:14

I don't like clutter, it makes me tetchy and feel stressed. We do have book cases and ornaments but they are more thoughtful than just any old item. I do not have stuff on window ledges because then it needs moved to open/close blinds and I can't stand the faff. We have put at hand the stuff we need and what's used regularly, in the kitchen the kettle and toaster are out all the time as are the fruit bowls and chopping boards along with the bread bin, sounds a lot but it's quite a big space so looks spacious. What do you have out!

We do have some cushions on the sofa, a throw blanket and plants dotted about the house but the bedrooms for example have lamps and a basket out with a few photos in frames. All toiletries are in baskets/drawers or cupboards. Am I unusual?

No, I don't like clutter either, but I do like things that invoke joy that I've collected from wherever.

AllJoyAndNoFun · 28/06/2026 17:56

I have teens and their bedrooms look like we’ve just been burgled- definitely no elegant minimalism in there. The rest of the house is kind of in the middle I guess. My mum has a lot of stuff ( collects pottery, prints and sculpture)but she’s labelled it all for me- colour coded for charity shop, vinterior/ auction with a reserve price 😂😂

WallaceinAnderland · 28/06/2026 17:51

It does bother me a bit that when me and DH die someone will have to sort our house out. We have no children so not sure who will do it

You need to do it yourself or it will all go in a skip. Such a lot of landfill.

mydogisthebest · 28/06/2026 17:37

You would hate my house. I have around 150 plants, about 1,000 books, lots of cd's. I collect perfume bottles and jugs/vases. I have lots of china. I have lots of old clocks.

Every one of our windowsills has things all along it - plants, ornaments, vase/jug, candle.

It does bother me a bit that when me and DH die someone will have to sort our house out. We have no children so not sure who will do it

Monty36 · 28/06/2026 17:37

I think you can have an in between. A completely sterile and clear space is not for me. Too cold. But neither is a house full of bits where nobody throws anything away.

Gowlett · 28/06/2026 17:17

I think having a utility room to keep (organised) crap in is helpful on this front.

We have no storage really, apart from wardrobes & one other big cupboard.

It means we have to keep less stuff, which we haven’t quite managed… Yet!

DramaAlpaca · 28/06/2026 17:13

I love my clutter, especially my random piles of books and the pretty pottery I collect, and my wooden ducks... it wouldn't be home without it. I don't much like the dust, though.

AbsoluteHoot · 28/06/2026 17:09

rapid3874greekyoghurt · 28/06/2026 16:05

You get the kettle out every time you need to use it?

No. We have a boiling water tap.

6ate9 · 28/06/2026 17:08

TheIdlerReturns · 28/06/2026 16:55

Bit morbid but strangely watchable. And I like the idea that you try and put your house in order so that those you leave behind aren't overwhelmed by the remains of your life and having to sort them out at a difficult time.

That’s what I like too. It just made sense to me, especially after seeing my dad having to sort out my grandmother’s house after she died. She had kept so much stuff!!!

TheIdlerReturns · 28/06/2026 16:55

6ate9 · 28/06/2026 16:04

I’ve read about Swedish Death Cleaning and it really resonated with me!!

Bit morbid but strangely watchable. And I like the idea that you try and put your house in order so that those you leave behind aren't overwhelmed by the remains of your life and having to sort them out at a difficult time.

rapid3874greekyoghurt · 28/06/2026 16:05

AbsoluteHoot · 28/06/2026 15:30

I loathe clutter. Detest it.

Our study is the only room that has lots of ‘stuff’ in it - floor to ceiling bookcases for one.

Our sitting room has plants, lamps, pictures, candles, a couple of trendy ornaments but nothing that’s not aesthetically pleasing! Our kitchen is the same - nothing on worktops other than the fancy coffee machine, and at the moment, a bowl of limes and a vase of sweet peas. No canisters, toaster, kettle, utensils, washing up
liquid, hand wash, bins - everything is in cupboards or the larder pantry. The utility room however, is full of (organised) crap, but nobody goes in there.

No clutter in any bathrooms or bedrooms either.

You get the kettle out every time you need to use it?

SowWhatNow · 28/06/2026 16:05

Dear ordinary person,

Your home sounds ordinary and not unusual. You have stuff out and stuff away. Like many other people.

Regards,
Another ordinary person.

6ate9 · 28/06/2026 16:04

TheIdlerReturns · 28/06/2026 15:59

I like minimalism. DH is more of a hoarder. Don't mind the odd cushion / throw and like seeing books on display - but love clean lines, white walls, lots of space between everything although space is at a premium. Just finished reading The Year of Less by Cait Flanders. Think she got her wardrobe down to 29 items. I've donated about a third of wardrobe to charity. Didn't have much to start with and can probably get it down more. Also enjoyed Swedish Death Cleaning programme on TV. I'll aim to ditch the lot mostly before I pop off.

I’ve read about Swedish Death Cleaning and it really resonated with me!!

Meadowfinch · 28/06/2026 16:02

You have almost the same as me, OP. Things that are used regularly are out on worktop all the time, but I have plenty of worktop space.
The only difference is I only have plants in the bathroom. I forget to water any others.

6ate9 · 28/06/2026 16:02

No, I’m quite minimalist.

TheIdlerReturns · 28/06/2026 15:59

I like minimalism. DH is more of a hoarder. Don't mind the odd cushion / throw and like seeing books on display - but love clean lines, white walls, lots of space between everything although space is at a premium. Just finished reading The Year of Less by Cait Flanders. Think she got her wardrobe down to 29 items. I've donated about a third of wardrobe to charity. Didn't have much to start with and can probably get it down more. Also enjoyed Swedish Death Cleaning programme on TV. I'll aim to ditch the lot mostly before I pop off.

FeliciaFancybottom · 28/06/2026 15:55

I like stuff, but I don't like clutter! Everything in my house has a place or a purpose. I have collections of things but they're kept small and displayed nicely.
I don't like bottles, etc., on display in the bathroom or kitchen; things have to be tidied away.