I moved to the UK first for uni then for love about 14 years ago, am very happy and settled here and have a family with my husband. We go to my home country very often to visit (on average every 2 months) and my DC are very close to my parents. We had planned to eventually move back there, but because of jobs and because of how settled my DC are, I'm unsure this is feasible now. We've in fact tried to both find suitable jobs there and it just didn't work out, with offers being withdrawn at last minute etc.
We've also been incredibly lucky to build a lovely circle of friends where we are and I highly doubt we'd be able to do this again somewhere else. DC speak the language, DH only a bit.
Now my parents are getting older I'm feeling a crushing guilt that I'm not nearer and every day I'm petrified that something could happen to them and I'm not there, and what would I do if one of them was on their own. I would love for them to move nearer me but this won't ever happen, they understandably don't want to move from where they are, so I'll have to either move back and disrupt everyone's life and probably have a much worse job, or just live with the guilt. (Just to clarify it's a high income very touristy country so there would be work but it won't be in my industry) DC would also have to leave their nice school and friends .
How did others navigate this situation? Should I just wait and see what time will bring or get planning?? Also what age do you think is too late to move young kids?