My DD was rushed to hospital earlier in the week, 8 months, viral infection that the entire house had that unfortunately for her caused bronchiolitis. She’s been on high flow oxygen and feeding tube, really scary time. Currently 30 weeks pregnant, juggling this with a toddler at home. Because of the illness of everyone, we’ve not slept well for two weeks, night four in hospital.
Every time I speak to my mum she keeps asking what viral infection it was, I snapped after the third time of her asking whilst phoning to update on her progress. I’ve said repeatedly they don’t care what viral infection it was and they’re not concerned about the type, they are only concerned with managing her symptoms and said I was away at hung up.
I called her 15 hours after DD was admitted as she was admitted at 2 am, and her response was “why am I only finding out now?!” I had 10 drs/nurses in the room with me at various points, my only concern was caring for my daughter in the moment, plus I knew it wouldn’t be an easy, supportive conversation with her.
Back to me snapping, she messaged me shortly after last night whilst I was still in hospital at my daughters bedside to “stop speaking to her like crap”. I reiterated that I’ve repeatedly told her that they don’t care what viral infection it was, only making her better. She responded with she has a right to know.
I had to pick up something from her house today and was greeted with her crying and “I’ve done everything for you and this is how you treat me”. She has zero consideration of the stress anyone else is under. It’s fine for her to snap at me and my brother 365 days of the year, never apologies, but if one of us are at the end of our tether we’re the worst children in the world. Zero consideration of the wider picture of what we could possibly be going through.
I’ve got so much going on just now, sleepless nights, worry and yet again she’s making her and her feelings the only thing that matters. Not once today has she messaged asking how DD is.
Am I the worst daughter in the world for snapping? Or would you understand if your child did if they were under immense stress? I know this will drag out to silent treatment for months and I honestly don’t need to deal with it right now.