Right now we live down south in a very expensive area to buy. We rent a tiny 2 bed house and with the cost of houses round here could never afford to buy even something the size of our house.
my DH works fully remotely and had been at the same company 10+ years. I work part time 3 days a week in an office. We have a 1 year old so I can’t work more due to childcare. We get by ok but can’t really afford luxuries or more than one haven holiday a year.
I have always wanted to move away for where we live and so had DH. Our parents are not in the best health (but they never are tbh) but they are fine and we have siblings who would like within 30 mins of them.
if we move to the location we are interested in we could afford (comfortably) a 3 bed house with much more space. The only issue is we use family for childcare one day a week so instead we could send her to nursery 3 days a week but I really don’t want to.
She likes nursery but is a bit of a victim if someone is getting pushed over, bitten or hit it’s her. I’ve been told it’s because once they do it she doesn’t move just freezes so she’s a bit of an easy target. It’s making me want to pull her from nursery because I scrolled through the app and she hasn’t had an incident free day in the last 9 sessions. I asked is there anything we can do to help like is she being a space invader, snatching etc. and they said no it’s just the age of the children and she’s the easiest to target as she doesn’t retaliate.
So seeing as we could afford the house up north with left over money. Would it be crazy to consider childminding? There would be space, the house is near a primary school. I have a childcare level 3 qualification. I loved childcare but nursery work etc doesn’t pay enough to live in my area so I had to change careers and become an analyst.
it would be a 5-6 hour drive away and my family and DHs would be gutted that we and their grandchild are that far away. Would it be selfish to just do it?