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Rude old man shouted at 4 year old DS

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ThisOldThang · 27/06/2026 17:18

I was walking on a quiet residential road with both my sons (7 and 4). I was pushing the empty buggy. My eldest son was walking next to me and my youngest son was had fallen behind by around 10m.

I heard a man shout 'GET OUT OF MY WAY'. I turned around and an old man (65-70 years old) had passed my youngest son and was walking towards us.

When he passed he said 'You need to control your children.'

I replied 'He's 4.'

The rude old codger then started going on about how my son had been in his way, so I told him that he should have said excuse me, rather than shouting at a 4 year old.

Anyway, there was a bit more back and forth and I called him a rude old man and we went on our way. When I looked back, he was on the phone. Who to, I have no idea.

AIBU?
No and he's lucky that I'm not the sort of person that kicks off in front of my kids.

Yes. He's old and allowed to shout at young children in the street.

OP posts:
parietal · 27/06/2026 17:24

I wouldn’t let a 4 year old be out of my sight even on a quiet residential street. The old man was still rude.

Scarlettpixie · 27/06/2026 17:24

You are being unreasonable to go on about his age and for saying he is lucky you don't kick off in front of your kids!

You are also being unreasonable to let you son walk 10m behind and not have eyes on him!

I am not saying shouting at your child was right, but neither are you.

whatsadentist · 27/06/2026 17:24

He was behind you so you were oblivious to what he was up to ? YABU as well as the old guy.

Warmthofthesun · 27/06/2026 17:23

Four year olds aren’t toddlers and generally do know not to suddenly run out into the road, especially on quiet streets.

concertinacornflake · 27/06/2026 17:22

he's lucky that I'm not the sort of person that kicks off in front of my kids Confused

nocoolnamesleft · 27/06/2026 17:21

10m away is too far to grab if he runs in front of a car. So you’re unreasonable for that. But a stranger shouting at a kid is generally a dick move.

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