Rude old man shouted at 4 year old DS

Let’s be honest your parenting sucks. You are ageist, a poor parent and by the sounds of it a little bit rough too, so I’m not inclined to believe your version of events.

The first three would not warrant shouting at a kid. Rude gestures, swearing - highly unlikely they even know what that is at 4.

This site is really funny because if a woman was to post this from the POV of I was walking with my DP and suddenly a 4YO boy walked in front of him and he shouted GET OUT OF MY WAY and told the parent to control their kid, I was mortified - 99% of the comments would be - LTB, I could not be with someone who behaves that way, he can’t control himself in front of a child so he will later take it out on you, get your ducks in a row, because you know - men = arrogant, bad temper, horrible. But say the man is OLD. Oh noooooo, protect HRH at all costs.

I didn’t- I knew you were a bloke becuase of the number of nitwit dads I see walking with very young children behind them. I comment on it to my husband all the time because it is 99% of the time a dad.

Keep your kids in front of you - if a car starts to pull out you won’t have a clue.

Frankly the man would not have shouted at your child had he been in front of you. You’ve no idea what he did to him.

As does any half competent adult.

The fact you don’t know what he was doing says a lot.

you seem determined not to accept that this was a parenting fail

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣try reading the OP's posts. Or my previous one.

My DM never allowed us to be behind her - we were always in front or right next to her. You cannot see what is happening to your DC if they are behind you. I followed that rule with mine.

*Father of a four year old.

It really does pay to at least read the OP's posts. He's a HE, 6'1" don't you know & the man is lucky he didn't react more aggressively. Apparently.

Some of these responses are so crazy! Kids get buses to school at age 4 and 5 where I live! The idea that a 4 year old can’t be 10 metres away from a parent (who is presumably glancing back at him often) in a quiet road is just completely ridiculous to me. The adult may have needed to side step the four year old; he could have said ‘mind out little one I need to get past’ or something- the four year old has as much right to be on that pavement as the adult. Of COURSE he was unreasonable!

An outburst? He said “get out of my way”

the only outbursts came from the man who ignored his child then took offence when someone pointed out he was in their way!

OP has declared himself to be a big man.

‘Old codger’. Dear me, is that how you think of elderly people? How hideously rude. You seem to be absolutely hung up on his age but at the same time have no knowledge of what advancing years can bring. As an example, my mother is 80 (you maybe would refer to her as a ‘silly old cow’). She has arthritis from an old ankle injury that causes her pain and stiffness so she’s unable to make sudden movements when she’s out walking without fear of losing her balance (for example if a four-year-old suddenly darts in front of her). She has hearing loss and is struggling with her new aids, meaning sudden loud noises can cause her pain and disorientation (for example if a four-year-old shouts unexpectedly next to her). She’s 80 and has had a hard life so is pretty fucking sick of most people, especially those with bad manners. She’s noted recently that most people she’s met below the age of around 35 seem to have a sense of entitlement that’s off the scale (for example, a mother of a four-year-old who doesn’t feel she needs to teach them how to be respectful to another human who could very well be having a bad day). Sooner than you think you too will be old but I dare say you’ll expect (maybe demand) to be treated with respect. Be careful what you’re teaching your kids!

Zig zagged about the pavement, laid down on the pavement, thrown stones, been rude to the man, any number of things.

the man may have already quietly asked the boy to move to no avail.

Would he have spoken like that to a man equal or bigger in size and fit looking?

Probably not.

Wandered, zigzagged, stopped dead, made rude gestures, kicked out, stuck a leg out, sworn, insulted.....

He was rude. The kind of man that happily picks on a woman and a small child but would probably have stayed silent if your husband was there.

pedants corner is a place to discuss things with other like minded people or for people to ask questions. It doesn't mean things can't be discussed on relevant threads.

No more than irresponsible parents are requested to keep their parenting inadequacies to the parenting topic.

What exactly could have this child done that would warrant such an outburst 🤣🤣🤣🤣

But we don’t know what the child actually did because the only adult paying attention was the one who ‘shouted’

Well the Cambridge dictionary uses this sentence to describe what a codger is:

A couple of old codgers were sittingon the park bench, grumbling about the children.

I would say that’s a pretty accurate way of describing him in the context of what this man did to OPs 4YO child.

Now on the technicality that this man was described to be in his 60s/70s, that’s closer to the end than it is to the beginning so also not inaccurate. The posters that keep repeating this sentiment are taking this way too personally. He’s angry, someone just verbally assaulted his kid and he’s feeling protective.

A 4 year old doesn't need a buggy? 4 is not a toddler.

YABU because of the prejudiced opinions and description of the man in question.
You referred to him as a rude old codger.

All the posters saying the child should not have been behind the OP, etc etc, what’s that got to do with the fact that a grown adult should not be shouting at a 4 yo for such a minor infraction?