AIBU to resent my husband’s weight loss and his mum’s comments?

I’d deal with this very easily. Tell him very clearly - either he talks to his DM and makes sure she knows not to talk to you about your body/exercise, or you will tell her he’s using WLI. His choice.

Then she's not talking about you, as the post was about those who are saying he will put it back on. It being one of a range of possibilities we can't assess the possibility of without enough information isn't the same thing at all.

TBH I understand the resentment towards your husband, obviously the issue is mum but it doesn’t help that he won’t tell her he’s on the jabs. If I were you I’d say that until he tells her, you don’t want to spend time with her, as that’s just not fair on you.

Also, ignore those on here making negative comments as they’ve been on the jabs. Completely besides the point that you don’t want to use them

There's lots of scary stories by the media about side effects. I suspect in month three my DH has upped the dose. He's had an awful upset stomach after drinking beer last night with mates. I've been told we need to bleach the kitchen throughout. I thought eejit. Can't say anything because I haven't been told he's jabbing himself with wli secretly. So my house keeping gets the blame. 🤬

I agree It’s absolutely his choice not to engage with traditional methods of weight loss, which is how OP is doing it, but his mother is clearly under the impression that they are doing it together and comparing OP’s weight loss unfavourably with his own. So he’s allowing his mother to believe something that isn’t true, based on what he’s telling her. How is that not lying ? And I’d bet the farm he’s lying to his mother every time she asks about his weight. Because in order not to give the game away, he’d have to engage with conversations about diet and exercise, which he’s not doing. Can’t do that without lying.

I'm saying that theres no guarantees and lots of barriers to staying on it, so it's weird to think that he can just continue as he is without issue.
Naturally when it's working most people will want to stay on it. For some people it stops working. For many people the ongoing cost becomes a problem. Some people have issues getting it prescribed for maintenance, esp if their BMI keeps reducing. Whilst there are some niche maintenance specific clinics/private GPs they can turn to, those are much much more expensive than the big providers.

My point is that if he ends up stopping at any point, or if it stops working for him, he won't have any other tools for losing weight.

It's not a lie. It just isn't. He doesn't have any obligation to share private medical information with anyone, particularly not with a person whose behaviour indicates that she has hugely damaging attitudes to weight and diet.

The problem here is with MIL. DH 100% needs to tell her to shut the fuck up, but that would be the case regardless of whether he'd lost any weight, whether OP were on the jabs too or really any other permutation. Because it's unhealthy and nosey, and they have children who deserve not to be exposed to this as they get older and perhaps even develops an obsession with their weight too.

I gained weight when I went vegan…

My best friend lost a total of nine stones on Mounjaro, a the age of 60. She exercised constantly throughout the weight loss journey and looks about ten years younger because of that, and taking care of her skin while she lost the weight.

WLI don’t attack the gallbladder at all. Rapid weight loss has long been known to cause gallstones however you lose the weight - the main factors apart from the weight loss are being female and over forty. It’s not the WLI that cause the gallstones it’s weight loss itself. And my DH has been prescribed Mounjaro for type 2 diabetes in conjunction with weight loss. If WLI attack the pancreas, as you stated here, why on earth would they prescribe it for a condition that affects the pancreas itself ?

We all went NC with ours. Husbands backed us up. She left everything to the canny couple who got the contents of her home. The RSPCA got the rest. None of us cared. We did give her a decent funeral. The main song was Frank Sinatra "I did it my way" which she certainly did.

To be clear, do you think lots of people don't stay on it? Because unless you're disputing that there's a range of possibilities here and we don't have any indication about DHs intentions, it's not obvious how you think it helps your point.

Additionally, there's nothing to suggest OPs DH will still have weight to lose at two years. He may very well not, unless he was very obese in his 20s. I hit my plateau at 9 months, it's called maintenance at a healthy BMI.

He’s lying by omission. He knows his wife is working much harder than he is to lose the weight, but he still allows his mother to criticise OP lagging behind, on the basis that they are both doing it naturally. What’s that if not a lie ?

It’s not down to OP to tell her MiL to get stuffed and mind her own business. It’s down to her DH to support her, and he’s not. He’s more interested in compliments from his mummy than stepping up and stopping the jibes, even though they know they’re not warranted, and he’s not worthy of the praise. He’s also disrespecting OP’s own weight loss efforts by bringing fatty food treats home when he knows she’s dieting, and passing on his own crap attitude to food to his kids in the process. That’s just nasty, and no child needs chocolate for breakfast. She doesn’t just have a Mil problem, sounds like she has a mummy’s boy for a DH.

That lots of people want to stay on it doesn't mean that lots of people do stay on it. And the WLI threads have plenty of people on them who have shared that they have completely plateaued after a couple of years (though they may stay on it for other reasons unrelated to weight loss)

Tell him he either reins his mother in, or you're telling her he's spent a fortune on the jabs.

You've probably got a lot more muscle than he does. Something you'll be thankful for in your advancing years. They're not the miracle people think they are unless they put the work in to maintain their muscle.

The weight is not important, it’s having a strong, healthy body that you can maintain and which will see you through to old age … doesn’t sound like DH is going to have the same the rate he’s going!

Ermmm....no. They are absolutely a wonderful drug. An apron of loose skin is infinitely better than obesity. Any person who loses lot of weight is potentially going to have gall bladder problems - this is not a result of WLIs. And the pancreas? No, just plain wrong. These drugs are very much used in the treatment of type 2 diabetes.

YANBU and she's a bitch, but it's not just the drugs making the difference. As perimenopausal women we are evolutionarily predisposed to store plenty of fat so that we survive the winter and keep the wisdom and knowledge of the tribe going from year to year, so it's incredibly difficult to persuade our bodied to give up what has been stored. I wouldn't be so mean as to suggest that if MIL is skinny it must be because she's evolutionarily unsuitable for preserving wisdom and knowledge through times of famine but it may help you to tolerate her jibes if you think of her that way. Men always lose fat way easier than women with way less effort than women need, even without medical support - from an evolutionary point of view we really don't need them all to survive through periods of famine and it's better for their metabolism to keep going on energy-burning mode rather than energy-storage mode

Nobody is saying many people don't want to come off it at some point, they're saying OP has given zero indication that DH does. You presumably also know that lots of people do want to stay on it forever and do maintain successfully at a healthy BMI qualifying for maintenance, so by that standard it's just as factual to say he's not going to put it back on because he's going to stay on it.

People appear to think they're being helpful with all the putting it back on comments, but actually it's very possible that he will stay on forever and continue eating lesser quantities of the same crap. Unless OP tells us otherwise, we have to assume it's one of the things she needs to prepare herself for. This is why she'd do well to decouple her attitudes to her own weight and health from his WLI usage.

Tell him to tell his mum to lay off you or you will tell her how he’s losing the weight .

Well, the commitment of £150-200 a month is a reason for many to want to come off it at some point. Plus if it's that effective for him he might get to a point where he struggles to get a prescription, there are providers who will provide maintenance doses but you still have to be above a certain BMI.
Suggesting he'll put it back on isn't a nasty comment, it's factual. If he's relying 100% on appetite supression without doing any work himself, he won't have any skills to manage his weight either if he comes off it or if he finds the effectiveness reduces over time (which it does for some, not all)

If he isn't chasing his eating habits it will all go back on when he stops the jab. I'd tell her he's on the jab to shut her up

And around someone with an obviously dreadful food relationship that he'll have had to navigate around for decades?!

Again I'm a shout it from the rooftops type personally, but it's incredibly obvious why he might not want to tell MIL.

Really? You can’t get over an adult keeping private information to themselves?

@Velvetandleatheryou actually sound ghastly