AIBU to resent my husband’s weight loss and his mum’s comments?

If she doesn’t think they are doing this together then why is she comparing her son’s weight loss with OP’s ? That doesn’t make any sense. Where did OP say she hadn’t lost any weight at all, apart from commenting that her MiL didn’t seem to think she had ?

Personally I would have told MiL to mind her own business long ago, but I can understand why a lot of women wouldn’t want to do this because of the fall out if would likely cause.

And calling people ‘thick’ on MN will get you deleted. You’ve already been pretty unpleasant to the OP, including calling her fat. You’ve been aggressive to people who take the opposite view to you, and you’ve been deleted a couple of times. This is a discussion forum. Everyone is entitled to express their opinion.

Because irs his private medical information. They are husband and wife, not quarrelling siblings telling tales to mummy.

@ThreadGuardDog If you work out and expend more energy than you are putting in, then it puts you into a calorie deficit.

So you didn't watch the video?

On its own it doesn’t ‘cause’ weight loss but as part of a diet and exercise regime it can be helpful.

Exercise is probably the single most important thing that anyone can do for their health.

But it does not cause weight loss.

No, whichever way you look at it it's not a lie. It's a lie if he's told her he's losing weight in a way other than WLIs. If he's not done that then it isn't the same thing and he isn't lying.

Though while we're speculating, I actually wonder if she knows full well how he's lost all that weight and is trying to get at OP to do the same.

If you work out and expend more energy than you are putting in, then it puts you into a calorie deficit. On its own it doesn’t ‘cause’ weight loss but as part of a diet and exercise regime it can be helpful.

So does your DH's mum not KNOW he is using weight loss injections @Pipiscoming2023 ??? LOL, why have you not told her?!

Exercise does not put people in a calorie deficit.

As for toning, yes, exercise builds muscle - but it does not cause weight loss.

Maybe she didn’t think of it - I seem to be the only one who thinks lying by omission is still lying. His mum thinks they’re both losing weight naturally and she’s comparing OP’s progress unfavourably with his. He knows this and is allowing her to carry on with her misconception because it makes him look good. Whichever way you look at it, it’s a lie. Or if you prefer to couch it in different terms he’s not being honest. At the end of the day it’s the same thing.

I very much doubt she thinks they are doing it together, why on earth would she think that, he’s lost 3 stone, the op hasn’t lost any from what I can see, you’d have fk be really thick to think they are doing it together.

very surprised at the amount of grown women who think it’s the husbands job to say something to the mil and not the ops. I find that very odd, myself and all y friends would say hey lay off it, and put a stop to it, none of us would sit there meekly like it was the 1800s waiting for our husbands to defend us,

I’d caveat that. It does if it puts you into a calorie deficit. It definitely tones you as you lose the weight - more so if you’re on mounjaro and losing a lot of weight in a relatively short space of time.

He's losing weight with the jags ,why don't you?
Fuck all to do with her , but so what

Exactly. NO-ONE loses 3 stone in 3 months unless they're on WLI, or they've been starving themselves, and were 8-9 stone or more overweight. Your mother-in-law sounds a bit dim @Pipiscoming2023

@Pipiscoming2023

Just wait it out for now, and say 'yeah I know Maureen, he's done SOOOOOO well hasn't he? I'm sure I'll get there!'

Just bide your time because your DH will pile it all back on as soon as he stops the jabs. Your weight is taking much more time to come off, so it will take much longer to go back on. You may not even regain the weight. He most likely will.

Losing weight by sticking weight loss injections into your body is hardly a brilliant achievement. YOU are doing much better than him. Just remember that. And congratulations to you on what you've lost so far!

I wonder actually if she has clocked how he's lost the weight, and the constant remarks are a way of trying to shame OP into using WLIs as well.

@Pipiscoming2023 Your MIL must be a bit thick if she hasn’t realised that her son has been able to achieve that weight loss with WLI. Losing 3 stone in a few monthhs before mounjaro would have been caused by illness or starving themselves

ignore the tactless bitch, and your husband needs to be more supportive

Honestly I’m that petty that the next time she mentions your weight with a dig I would pointedly look at your dh and say well I’m not doing the jabs I’m doing it the right way and see what she says.

@Pipiscoming2023 and asking me how often I go to the gym etc… clearly with the undertone of “why aren’t you losing the same?”

Putting your mum's comments aside, I'm going to let you in on a secret, OP...

Exercise does not cause weight loss.

I can see what she ment it's usually the neck it sort of sags and I think unless you eating better and exercising it goes on twice as fast and severely obese people have an apron of saggy skin which will not be taken off by nhs .unless extreme circumstances. These jags are not a wonder drug .they can attack gallbladder an pancreas. To hell with that x9

Playing devil's advocate. Everyone sees DH has lost weight wife hasn't. She'll be a lot fitter has great biceps if anyone cares to feel them but looks no different to outsiders.

Humans are visual creatures. I could go to the gym daily, go for a swim. I'd notice the difference. But clothed others wouldn't. My DH on the other hand would get compliments for losing his beer belly and double chin.

I remember reading weight loss is 20% exercise and 80% food intake.

Your OH doesn’t have to tell anyone about his injections however the fact he’s choosing not to say anything, soak up praise and watch his Mum keep on at you is totally out of order.
Im afraid I’d tell her in a round about way “MIL, there are lots of different routes for people wishing to lose weight, I’ve chosen to go the gym and work on strength etc. for other people a combination of healthy eating, weight loss injections and exercise suits them and what they are trying to achieve. Please stop comparing me to others, we’re doing weight loss differently and as a woman I wouldn’t be dropping the weight as quickly as a man regardless of how they are doing it’
Then if she brought it up again I would tell her talking about weight is really intrusive and boring and if she can’t find another topic when she visits maybe she can have her son visit her at her house.

Does anyone really behave like this in real life? A “hard, knowing stare”? 🙄🙄🙄

It’s not down to OP to tell her MiL to get stuffed and mind her own business.

It absolutely is, if she’s regularly making unwanted comments about the OP’s weight.

It’s down to her DH to support her, and he’s not

But it’s not down to the OP to support his decision to keep his medical details private? Why does only one partner deserve support?

Havent RTFT,
I would say ‘I’m going to the gym three times a week which is three time more than (husbands name) is and I’m eating healthily unlike (husbands name). Yet he is loosing weight - I wonder why that is (mil name) .
Then a hard, knowing stare.
If she asks anything I would use the lovely “You might well say that. I couldn’t possibly comment. Cup of green tea (mil name)?”
Job done.

If he was lying through his teeth rather than just being non-committal, you'd think OP would've mentioned it as it would bolster her point. They're both possibilities though. However the pp was referring to the act of not mentioning as a lie in itself.

edit- sorry I've just realised you are the pp!

The comparing with the husband is fruitless regardless of the jabs. His calorie allowance would be a feast for most women. He will always have the ability to lose quicker, his deficit is likely to be more than the OPs maintenance. Work needs to be done on the lack of MIL boundaries and the DH understanding that his diet can be detrimental for his wife and children.