Calling the police to check on a crying baby

Yeah 30 minutes is a long time for a continuous scream for sure! I think midwives recommend 10 mins if the crying becomes overwhelming for the parent. Saying that, on a bad my baby can cry for 30 mins if he’s overtired when I rock him to sleep… but you’re right that there are variations, and if they were just arguing and not attending 30 minutes is actually a long time. I can’t even go 5 mins and here my baby cry even if he’s in the bouncer and I’m eating dinner

I don't think this story is true

What is this new thing? I’ve only seen it on here fairly recently. If OP wanted to make up something exciting I’m sure she could have invented a will dispute concerning her granddad and the floozy he just took up with before he ‘mysteriously’ and ‘suddenly’ died, or affair, an old flame back from his travels in the Mongolian desert, and she now has to confront the fact her oldest child looks exactly like him, or the secret compartment in her husbands desk that the cleaner found which contains love letters to her husband dated last year but she doesn’t know who they’re from, or any number of stories guaranteed to spill over into a second thread, or even a third if she plays her cards right.

This tale of a baby crying, adults shouting and banging doors sounds horribly real and I have no doubt it happened. And I’m thankful for people like OP and the others who called the police.

Actually, I might use that Mongolian desert/oldest child story, so don’t be getting any ideas please.

I find it impossible to believe that anyone who had gone through the hell that is a sick baby crying would call the police on another mother after a mere 30 minutes.

Yes OP or husband could have checked all the noise was from one house. OP could have gone round in the morning with a Hi, I know you are new here, my children are a bit older and would you like to know about baby groups. If the latest generation cant do that then they are sick.

So did the police go ?

But they’re right! Read it all, OP has added bits on throughout, she said a baby crying (30 minutes that no one was helping to settle, raised voices, and a car door slamming driving off and returning. Now, she says they were screaming at the baby, screaming at each other, lots of doors slamming. It’s very questionable IMO. She also did random name change that someone called her out on.

I think, she called the police because Mrs Perfect Parent heard a baby crying and the main reason for the call is she assumed no one was consoling the baby. Since people have been calling her out, she’s changed her story and added bits on. Also, I think she took it to Mumsnet to make herself feel better because deep down she probably feels like she shouldn’t have called them.

But they’re right! Read it all, OP has added bits on throughout, she said a baby crying (30 minutes that no one was helping to settle, raised voices, and a car door slamming driving off and returning. Now, she says they were screaming at the baby, screaming at each other, lots of doors slamming. It’s very questionable IMO. She also did random name change that someone called her out on.

I think, she called the police because Mrs Perfect Parent heard a baby crying and the main reason for the call is she assumed no one was consoling the baby. Since people have been calling her out, she’s changed her story and added bits on. Also, I think she took it to Mumsnet to make herself feel better because deep down she probably feels like she shouldn’t have called them.

The police obviously agreed that it was worth checking.

I would rather do too much rather than too little.

You only have experience of your own kids, not every child.

Only she’d never used it before this thread.

Absolutely agree! If ever I’ve referred a family to social services or reported a concern about something to the police, I’ve never needed validation from others for my decision even when the police argue back about why they are not getting involved. You make a decision to do something you own it, I feel as clearly nothing happened, OP is feeling a big guilty for the additional stress it has placed on this family who likely now feel they are being judged by their neighbours and are on the radar of the police/social services.

it is just as likely that the door slamming was caused by the breeze open windows create, the car doors could have been another neighbour or visitors elsewhere. By all means be curious and have an eye for suspicion but could have been avoided by just taking a stroll down the road first.

I still don't understand how you can glean that much information from 100m away. I live in the middle of a 200m road and I would have absolutely no clue what's going on at either end of the street, let alone be able to say whether a baby was crying without being consoled etc. Or what if a couple talking loudly and slamming car doors (the only way to close them) woke up a baby in a different house? And the OP and her dh listening to this all apparently and not even coming out of their house to have a look up the road. How odd.

What? You can't leave your children alone with your own husband... weird