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To have gone for after work drinks tonight?

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tillyougetenough · 26/06/2026 23:37

This week has been horrendous at work. The office has been hot, pressure from management has been insane, we’ve all worked different hours due to the heat and it’s just been incredibly draining.

We all decided to go to the beach for a few drinks tonight. It was well needed and deserved, even if it was just to sit in the shade and the breeze!

I got home around 10, I’ve had three cocktails. Not huge, I’m not wasted, just pleasantly tipsy. My partner is outraged, he thinks I have a drinking problem and has genuinely suggested I go for counselling for my “alcohol issues”.

WIBU to go?

OP posts:
SaulHudsonDavidJones · 26/06/2026 23:46

Your partner sounds awful.

ErrolTheDragon · 26/06/2026 23:45

Assuming you didn’t drive home, three drinks over presumably several hours for an impromptu work de-stressing evening on the beach really doesn’t sound excessive (and that’s coming from someone who barely drinks).

Was his problem that you had three nice drinks and an evening on the beach without him?

Thirteenblackcats · 26/06/2026 23:43

Whenwillheatwaveend · 26/06/2026 23:41

that Depends really , did you need a drink or want one? Do you do this multiple times a week etc.. based on what you’re said I wouldn’t think you had one but presumably your partner loves and cares for you and is raising it out of concern?

Or because they want to control OP

Original poster
tillyougetenough · 26/06/2026 23:43

Whenwillheatwaveend · 26/06/2026 23:41

that Depends really , did you need a drink or want one? Do you do this multiple times a week etc.. based on what you’re said I wouldn’t think you had one but presumably your partner loves and cares for you and is raising it out of concern?

I drink very rarely. I’ve probably not drank to excess since my brother’s wedding in 2022 (when I had just met my partner), and only really drink at social occasions now, even then it’s rare as I’m usually driving. I can count on one hand how many times I’ve had a drink this year (one!)

OP posts:
Whenwillheatwaveend · 26/06/2026 23:41

that Depends really , did you need a drink or want one? Do you do this multiple times a week etc.. based on what you’re said I wouldn’t think you had one but presumably your partner loves and cares for you and is raising it out of concern?

Diamondsareforever72 · 26/06/2026 23:39

tillyougetenough · 26/06/2026 23:37

This week has been horrendous at work. The office has been hot, pressure from management has been insane, we’ve all worked different hours due to the heat and it’s just been incredibly draining.

We all decided to go to the beach for a few drinks tonight. It was well needed and deserved, even if it was just to sit in the shade and the breeze!

I got home around 10, I’ve had three cocktails. Not huge, I’m not wasted, just pleasantly tipsy. My partner is outraged, he thinks I have a drinking problem and has genuinely suggested I go for counselling for my “alcohol issues”.

WIBU to go?

NOPE.
Perfectly reasonable.