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Is this a strange comment to write?

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Nickyknackered · 26/06/2026 21:17

An old acquaintance (friends at the time but it was situational and as our lives moved on there was no real keeping in touch aside from FB where we regularly comment on each others photos.).... has just got married and put their photos on FB. She looked beautiful and the whole day looked amazing.

I wrote a comment to say as much, she looked stunning, venue was gorgeous blah blah and then added 'Sorry I couldn't be there'.

We were on holiday and wouldn't have been able to go. Although we weren't actually invited....

SIL thinks its hilarious that I've written that! Is it?

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Nickyknackered · 26/06/2026 21:50

She won't think it's a dig, she's a nice person, she thinks i'm a nice person. She won't assume something is there when it's not.

I don't think theres a need to edit my post? I genuinely think it's a nice thing to hear about your day.... that it looks so good people are sorry they couldn't be there?

I am not in any way saying I shoild have been invited! Just that it looks fab!

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Onmytod24 · 26/06/2026 21:45

Is there any chance of you editing your post otherwise it’s embarrassing

UnderMirkwood · 26/06/2026 21:43

If I was the bride I would definitely think that this was a dig about not being invited.

Shinyhappyapple · 26/06/2026 21:42

Best to hope that she’s too busy to actually read your comment as I agree with others I can’t see how else she would read it as being a bit of a dig.

Restlessdreams1994 · 26/06/2026 21:40

It sounds like you’re embarrassed about not being invited so are trying to give the impression to everyone else that you WERE invited, just couldn’t make it 😂

TinyTempest · 26/06/2026 21:37

Nickyknackered · 26/06/2026 21:33

I wasn't being passive aggressive at all and I had no reason to expect an invitation.

Surely if something looks fun and amazing, you do wish you were there?

That doesn't mean I think she should have invited me...just that it looked amazing! And I say, we couldn't have gone anyway.

I personally think it's a compliment!

No it definitely sounds passive aggressive!

Either that or it greatly confused her! 🤣🤣

I’m going wait for the next royal wedding and announce I’m sorry I couldn’t be there.

3luckystars · 26/06/2026 21:37

Nickyknackered · 26/06/2026 21:33

I wasn't being passive aggressive at all and I had no reason to expect an invitation.

Surely if something looks fun and amazing, you do wish you were there?

That doesn't mean I think she should have invited me...just that it looked amazing! And I say, we couldn't have gone anyway.

I personally think it's a compliment!

But she might not have known you were away and couldn’t make it?

You were not invited. She likely decided this a year ago. How could she possibly have known you were away and unavailable? She didn’t invite you. That’s why you were not there.

Okiedokie123 · 26/06/2026 21:36

You weren’t invited. “Sorry I couldn’t be there” would only be appropriate if you were invited but couldn’t make it.

Uricon2 · 26/06/2026 21:36

@Nickyknackered No. Great to write something nice, but "Sorry I couldn't be there" is only appropriate if you were invited and couldn't make it.

LoafofSellotape · 26/06/2026 21:34

That's what you say when you were invited but couldn't make it. You should've just said it looks amazing, congratulations.

Random321 · 26/06/2026 21:34

SIL is right!!

Why would you apologise for not making an event you weren't invited to!

Sherararara · 26/06/2026 21:34

“Sorry I couldn’t be there - oh wait I wasn’t invited!”

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Nickyknackered · 26/06/2026 21:33

I wasn't being passive aggressive at all and I had no reason to expect an invitation.

Surely if something looks fun and amazing, you do wish you were there?

That doesn't mean I think she should have invited me...just that it looked amazing! And I say, we couldn't have gone anyway.

I personally think it's a compliment!

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JanFebAndOnwards · 26/06/2026 21:32

The OP meant “It must have been wonderful to see, how lovely!”
But shouldn’t have written it, for the reason given above.

Helpwithdivorce · 26/06/2026 21:27

She’s going to think you were expecting an invite. Very weird thing to write

Lifejigsaw · 26/06/2026 21:26

I assume you’re being passive aggressive ?

WallaceinAnderland · 26/06/2026 21:25

Very strange comment, why did you write that?

XenoBitch · 26/06/2026 21:25

Yes, it is strange. You were not invited anyway so why would you be sorry you were not there?
Is it is dig at them about not being invited?

hyggetyggedotorg · 26/06/2026 21:25

Yeah, very weird. Sorry we couldn’t be there means thanks for the invite, sorry we had to decline.

minou123 · 26/06/2026 21:24

Can I ask why you wrote "Sorry I couldn't be there", when you knew you werent invited?

Im confused.

Roseonthebalcony · 26/06/2026 21:23

Yeah it could be seen as passive aggressive like sorry I couldn’t be there because you didn’t even invite me.

TinyBlueDent · 26/06/2026 21:22

Ditto, sounds like a passive aggressive dig at not being invited.

NuffSaidSam · 26/06/2026 21:22

Yeah, sorry OP, it's weird and reads as a dig about not being invited.

onlyoneoftheregimentinstep · 26/06/2026 21:21

Sounds rather passive aggressive. X

Dermatologically · 26/06/2026 21:20

Yeah definitely odd if you weren't invited - I agree that it could come across as passive aggressive