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A policeman in the supermarket ,would you do this?

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girlfriend44 · 26/06/2026 13:48

This morning there was a policeman doing some shopping in the supermarket.

A family walked past and when the dad noticed the policeman in the aisle he said to his little girl.
Look there's a policeman. If your naughty round the supermarket he will take you away to prison. The little girl. Just listened and didn't say anything .
He made sure she saw the policeman and as said told her he would take her to prison if she was naughty.
The policeman never heard but I did . I was right by them
Would you do this?
AIBU to think it's a bit odd.

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Nicknacky · 30/06/2026 20:37

thefourthbeatle · 28/06/2026 16:48

Why shouldn't they be given a set time? Seeing police officers shopping is a modern thing; a slip in professionalism that is an extremely minor symptom of a country in a state of gradual collapse.

Do you actually think they could get set refreshment times?

Floralibra · 30/06/2026 20:12

Agree! Police and other emergency services do need to get lunch and drinks throughout their day and can’t get in and out of uniform from their cars! What a crazy comment!

MarmaladeSandwich7 · 29/06/2026 07:26

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 26/06/2026 13:57

I don’t think parents should tell their kids another adult is going to tell them off, be it police, shop staff etc

I work on a till & often get parents saying to their child “The lady will tell you off in a minute”. I feel like saying “ The lady won’t! Parent your child yourself!”
The worst I heard was a Dad threatening to send his son to hospital if he carried on misbehaving! Can you imagine?

FWC2026 · 29/06/2026 00:28

TheLambtonWorm · 26/06/2026 14:35

Children should see Police Officers as people to trust and go to if they need help.

They should, but as a PP said the blind acceptance of people in power as trusted is daft. See all the abhorrent cases of sexual assault, racism, assault, murder etc performed at the hands of them.

And yet, if a child can actually find one if they get lost, they're still a pretty safe option!

FWC2026 · 29/06/2026 00:17

MauriceTheMussel · 26/06/2026 13:55

Oh fuck me

No thanks!

Blueuggboots · 29/06/2026 00:16

No, it’s stupid. You should teach kids they can ask people in authority for help!

thefourthbeatle · 29/06/2026 00:12

NDerbys32 · 28/06/2026 20:29

For many officers and staff, meal breaks are more of a concept than a 'thing'. They were, once, back in the early 90's. Then, with the increase in tech' and reductions in numbers, there is no such thing as an expected break any longer.

I ran operational teams, and the only time we go to eat together and have a little downtime was when we were on overtime and the next shift had taken over, so we could maybe grab 15-20 minutes with a brew and a quick bite.

Other than that, it's picking food up when you're on patrol, in between incidents and scoffing it parked at a roadside, or a very quick fast food meal, whilst being stared at by the public who seem to think that humans shouldn't be allowed to eat at work/ on duty, or becoming the subject of another social media thread.

I'd suggest that the 'country in a state of gradual collapse' began with the collapse of effective parenting, moral values and the birth of the internet.

Edited

thanks for the reply. you make some good points 👌

NDerbys32 · 28/06/2026 20:29

thefourthbeatle · 28/06/2026 16:48

Why shouldn't they be given a set time? Seeing police officers shopping is a modern thing; a slip in professionalism that is an extremely minor symptom of a country in a state of gradual collapse.

For many officers and staff, meal breaks are more of a concept than a 'thing'. They were, once, back in the early 90's. Then, with the increase in tech' and reductions in numbers, there is no such thing as an expected break any longer.

I ran operational teams, and the only time we go to eat together and have a little downtime was when we were on overtime and the next shift had taken over, so we could maybe grab 15-20 minutes with a brew and a quick bite.

Other than that, it's picking food up when you're on patrol, in between incidents and scoffing it parked at a roadside, or a very quick fast food meal, whilst being stared at by the public who seem to think that humans shouldn't be allowed to eat at work/ on duty, or becoming the subject of another social media thread.

I'd suggest that the 'country in a state of gradual collapse' began with the collapse of effective parenting, moral values and the birth of the internet.

thefourthbeatle · 28/06/2026 18:25

Pessismistic · 28/06/2026 17:41

Because crime and accidents don’t give time slots are you that stupid.

Set-times for meals were dropped twenty years ago or more. I was told this by the neighbour of my parents, a retired policeman. He lamented it - along with the removal of the requirement for policemen to be clean-shaven - as a symptom of a service in decline. 🤔

Pessismistic · 28/06/2026 17:41

thefourthbeatle · 28/06/2026 16:48

Why shouldn't they be given a set time? Seeing police officers shopping is a modern thing; a slip in professionalism that is an extremely minor symptom of a country in a state of gradual collapse.

Because crime and accidents don’t give time slots are you that stupid.

thefourthbeatle · 28/06/2026 16:48

Pessismistic · 27/06/2026 22:12

Seriously you don’t think they should be allowed to buy lunch or dinner? Wow this is mental of course they should be allowed to go the shop I’ve seen ambulance staff and police in my local Tesco. It’s not like they get a set lunch time and know they’re back at the station to get there food or a drink.

Why shouldn't they be given a set time? Seeing police officers shopping is a modern thing; a slip in professionalism that is an extremely minor symptom of a country in a state of gradual collapse.

Greengage1983 · 28/06/2026 15:52

girlfriend44 · 26/06/2026 15:08

Earwigging lol it was right by me
I was astounded. P

“Astounded”??! Really?!! 😂😂 Come on

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 28/06/2026 11:00

OneUniqueSquid · 28/06/2026 07:42

It's not a good thing to say and isn't great parenting but it isn't odd.

It's just another variation of in a shop or cafe and a kid is being naughty and the parent says 'stop or the lady will tell you off' pointing to the staff.

I work in McDonald's and always say "No, I won't."

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 28/06/2026 10:56

Littlesarou · 27/06/2026 21:47

I agree OP its an odd parenting tactic these days but definitely one parents of previous generations took regularly. Comedians do skits on this: Peter Kay, Jason Manford etc
im more bothered as to why a presumably on duty Police officer if they were recognisable as so was doing their weekly shop during work hours/on shift - yes i know they are human and have to eat but they should do this in their own time like the rest of us mere mortals when tax payers are effectively paying them to peruse the yellow sticker bargains

Our local police used to come into the Sainsbury's café for breakfast. They need to eat too. I don't begrudge them a full English before their next call-out.

Shellyshep · 28/06/2026 10:39

I’m 50 and this is the sort of thing we would be told as kids if we were playing up just to get us to stop. I was actually told this and the policeman joined in and said I needed to behave myself otherwise he would take me to prison. I promptly behaved myself! I didn’t know people still did this as I imagine it’s a pretty old fashioned style of parenting now bur maybe the kid had been a nightmare just before you saw them and this was their way of bringing her inline? It honestly never stopped me seeking help from police if I ever needed it, it just taught me that if I didn’t behave and was being a brat there were consequences 🤷🏻‍♀️

Teenmumgoingcrazy · 28/06/2026 09:53

My dad was a police man - he would immediately speak up if he heard parents say this to their kids (and it happened often!) “who is your child going to speak to when they need help or are in trouble?, not the police man because he’s going to arrest them and put them in prison”. People don’t think through what they say to kids

OneUniqueSquid · 28/06/2026 07:42

It's not a good thing to say and isn't great parenting but it isn't odd.

It's just another variation of in a shop or cafe and a kid is being naughty and the parent says 'stop or the lady will tell you off' pointing to the staff.

Completelybatshit · 28/06/2026 00:30

beefthief · 26/06/2026 13:52

of course it's not odd, good lord

Of course it’s odd, you want your children to know that the police are there to help them, not be people that they are afraid of approaching. This shit way off parenting where people say that others are responsible for applying consequences for their children’s behaviour is absolutely batshit.

Dawnb19 · 27/06/2026 23:28

I think my parents, grandparents and in-laws have said this countless times. It's quite a common saying in the north east.

NewDogOwner · 27/06/2026 22:54

BlibBlabBlob · 26/06/2026 13:57

Probably also a parent who tells their kids from the start of November that Santa is always watching and they won't get any presents at all if they are naughty between then and Christmas.

And who threatens to leave their toddler behind if they don't co-operate with leaving somewhere immediately.

Because a bit of terror and blackmail is always a great parenting choice, obviously. Especially when the dreaded outcome is clearly never going to actually happen in reality. (Well, maybe the Santa one if a parent is especially cruel. But not the police arrest for naughtiness, or toddler abandonment in a public place.)

Some people are really thick and don't think things through properly.

And some of those people become parents.

This. Lots of people don't want to be the bad guy so outsource the consequences/ fear of them to teachers, police, Father Christmas. It undermines their own authority and makes them scared of the police rather than this is who you go to when you need help.

Kalanthe · 27/06/2026 22:24

Lazy parenting. Threats, also vague language - kids don’t know how to not be naughty, they need to be told specific situations eg “don’t hit your brother”. As others mentioned we shouldn’t be raising children to be fearing police. Just awful

Lainie · 27/06/2026 22:23

Careful what you say to the kids, My ex was saying about cops doing good got cars, those not very good got a pushbike and totally rubbish ones had to walk. and then one was going into the shop one day and left his bike, my daughter said (too loudly) "mummy did dat policeman not catch many cwiminals so he only got a bike? lol

Pessismistic · 27/06/2026 22:12

thefourthbeatle · 27/06/2026 18:30

What is odd is that the police officer would choose to go shopping whilst in uniform. Extremely unprofessional conduct leading to a further lack of respect for a 'force' already demeaning themselves with visible tattoos, fancy hairstyles, ear-rings, sunglasses and so on. (Not to mention the ludicrousness of 50/50 male/female police; sending small women to confront violent male criminals; dropping height & fitness requirements due to 'inclusivity' leading to unfit, out-of-shape 'frontline' police). Also 'baseball caps' absurdly replacing sturdy helmets; addressing the public as "mate" instead of "sir"' or "madam"...

Seriously you don’t think they should be allowed to buy lunch or dinner? Wow this is mental of course they should be allowed to go the shop I’ve seen ambulance staff and police in my local Tesco. It’s not like they get a set lunch time and know they’re back at the station to get there food or a drink.

Pessismistic · 27/06/2026 22:06

CaptainMyCaptain · 27/06/2026 19:39

You shouldn't tell your child anybody else will come and tell them off. That's your job.

Again nobody knows how her behaviour is generally she could be a nightmare maybe he just wanted to scare her who knows but it’s not a crime is it. I’m sure she wouldn’t know what a jail is either.

CaptainMyCaptain · 27/06/2026 21:56

Littlesarou · 27/06/2026 21:47

I agree OP its an odd parenting tactic these days but definitely one parents of previous generations took regularly. Comedians do skits on this: Peter Kay, Jason Manford etc
im more bothered as to why a presumably on duty Police officer if they were recognisable as so was doing their weekly shop during work hours/on shift - yes i know they are human and have to eat but they should do this in their own time like the rest of us mere mortals when tax payers are effectively paying them to peruse the yellow sticker bargains

I expect you get a lunch break don't you. I should think a police officer has to get something between call outs. They can't just clock off at 12