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AIBU to feel uneasy after workmen may have gone through laundry?

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HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMn · 26/06/2026 12:32

Yesterday I had some work done upstairs in my house by two work men. I closed all of the doors to the rooms that they didn’t need to be in and made sure things were tidied away. When they had gone, I noticed that a pair of my knickers was at the top of the laundry basket. I’m 99% sure they weren’t there when I tided up before they came, and I had worn them earlier this week so they would have been at the bottom of the basket.

I keep thinking about it and feel quite violated. I’m wondering if the workmen went through my dirty clothes 😣.

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JMSA · 28/06/2026 00:15

This is more common than you’d think. Some women are honestly so naive.
OP, YANBU and trust your instincts.

Hamela · 26/06/2026 19:18

Simplest reason is usually the right one... They did it. A friend of mine went for a contracting job at a local social housing company and you WOULD NOT BELIEVE the things some of the men did. Rooting through drawers , taking underwear, joking about it openly in front of each other.

oliviaAustin · 26/06/2026 19:07

They might have they might not. There’s no way to know so try and forget about it.

WilliamsandWatsonTooLateNSoul · 26/06/2026 18:33

I went to school with someone who went on to become a joiners apprentice.
He also went on to steal a woman's undies and they were in his tool box.
Court +prosecuted this must be at least 40+ years ago...perving never goes out of fashion.

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HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMn · 26/06/2026 18:32

Newsenmum · 26/06/2026 18:28

Sure they didnt wall on the floor and they picked them up? But also trust your instincts.

No. I only own one of this item and it would here been near the bottom of the laundry basket. There were multiple other things including towels on top.

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Newsenmum · 26/06/2026 18:28

Sure they didnt wall on the floor and they picked them up? But also trust your instincts.

PolkaDotPorridge · 26/06/2026 18:28

DeepRaven · 26/06/2026 17:13

i think you imagined it tbh

Why? Because you think that sort if thing doesn’t happen? 🙄

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HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMn · 26/06/2026 18:27

DeepRaven · 26/06/2026 17:13

i think you imagined it tbh

Why? Imagined what?

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HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMn · 26/06/2026 18:27

Ablondiebutagoody · 26/06/2026 17:16

They definitely sniffed them and wanked each other off. No question about it.

What’s with the sarcasm?

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HMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMn · 26/06/2026 18:26

pimplebum · 26/06/2026 17:20

Tell them you have a “ cat cam “ facing the laundry basket as the cat does hilarious things you post on line

their faces will tell you everything you need to know

is there any chance it got knocked over and scooped back in in the wrong order ?

There’s no way it got knocked over.

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pimplebum · 26/06/2026 17:20

Tell them you have a “ cat cam “ facing the laundry basket as the cat does hilarious things you post on line

their faces will tell you everything you need to know

is there any chance it got knocked over and scooped back in in the wrong order ?

Ablondiebutagoody · 26/06/2026 17:16

They definitely sniffed them and wanked each other off. No question about it.

DeepRaven · 26/06/2026 17:13

i think you imagined it tbh

NotAnotherScarf · 26/06/2026 16:45

These days there is no way any workman does this. It probably happened in the past but with blink cameras and other hidden ones, it's not done. I'm male and have mates "on the tools" and they are especially careful about taking boots off when going into houses after being filmed walking in, with perfectly clean boots and complaints being made. So there's no way they are going through your nickers

CurlyKoalie · 26/06/2026 16:41

You are not being unreasonable, but I doubt you could do anything about it other than not using these contractors again.

Saturnalio · 26/06/2026 16:40

I was gonna say I think they probably got better things to do and the knickers were probably already there but your mind plays tricks, but by the post above I guess it happens, god knows why it's gross

DaisyChain505 · 26/06/2026 16:34

I remember as an older teen having workmen in the family home. One of them was friends with someone I went to school with and he told him that he looked through my underwear drawers.

Fucking disgusting.