Should I ask my neighbours if we can have designated times to sit in the garden?

In terms of the teams meeting and GDPR, you can go full passive aggressive and relay some of it over the phone to a friend as gossip whilst in earshot in your garden. He may well get the message and rein it in.

Let your kids be free to be as loud as your neighbours. I'm sure the Teams meetings will have to move indoors in the summer holidays.

If you genuinely believe they are regularly drink driving, report it via the non urgent police website.

Other than that the rest is just having neighbours.

The socialising wouldn't bother me at all but the amount if people wfhing and bellowing down their laptop screens these days is out of control

Play the radio really loud

Lol @ prancing. Would it be ok if they were just walking?

YABVVVU. You are not “entitled” to enjoy your garden in “peace”.

Your neighbour is happily enjoying his garden, as he should, and so should you. If you won’t do that because you’re too hung up on what your neighbour is doing then that really is your problem.

The meal-time rota and complaints about wearing of bikinis is unreasonable.

However they are being loud and inconsiderate. They may not realise how loud they are - or how easily the aound travels, particularly if you come inside when they are out. The answer might be to stay out more, so they hear your noise too. Or have a neighbourly chat about how hot it is, aren't you lucky having gardens to escape to, hope the kids noise isn't bothering them too much, wouldn't it be lovely if you had bigger gardens with more space, less shared noise, a pool to cool off in....

I wouldn't worry too much about the bbq smell or vapes. You live somewhere with lots of other people, you have to put up with other people same as they do.

I hate neighbour noise but this sounds like normal noise to me. Loud music I completely agree should stop but talking isn’t a problem really.

Yeh this is real

We had neighbours like this. My DH suddenly had a interest in basketball. It's amazing the power a basketball being continually bounced on the patio had!

An outdoor mealtime rota? If this thread isn't a wind up then nothing is. To coin that old MN phrase, give your head a wobble OP. You cannot tell other people how to use their gardens. Put some music on to mask the talking. Let your 9yo run around and play (not sit listening to the neighbours convo). Stop spying on them from upstairs windows. Honestly, it does sound as though the heat has affected your thinking.

All that would piss me off too, which is why we bought a house in the middle of nowhere. A few friends turned their nose up and made comments like “oh I could never live somewhere I can’t walk to everything”, but let me tell you it’s bloody worth it to be able to do whatever we like in our own garden and not have to put up with anyone else’s noise or smells. Absolute bliss in the summer, I could never go back to living in a place with close garden neighbours.

Nothing wrong with a bikini in your own garden, I do it.
why would the friends be drink driving - what makes you think that everyone was drinking.
chatter from gardens are normal, are you guys not also making noise?
mid you don’t want to hear their conversations put some music on.

Please say something to them and post their response.

you are asking people to not enjoy their gardens so you can enjoy yours?
you are unreasonable in the following ways
Bikini is their garden is fine, it’s their private space.
vaping in their garden, although not pleasant, is legal and allowed.
9pm is not late, they legally can be later.
you actually don’t know what their guests were drinking.

op, you seem to be far too invested in others lives.
teach your children to accept that others live their lives differently to you.

You are being very judgemental. God forbid a woman should wear a bikini in a private garden !

Its also quite possible some people weren't drinking so your drink driving accusation is totally unfounded.

By all means pop round and ask then if they'd keep their voice down if having less pg conversations. Ultimately you have neighbours, sometimes you'll hear them.

Just spend the time in your garden. Play your music. Take up your space. You can’t stop people enjoying their garden but it shouldn’t stop you e joying yours.

Of course the women had to be ‘prancing’ in their skimpy bikinis. As soon as I put on a bikini, I immediately start prancing.

If this is not a wind-up, you’re being utterly beyond ridiculous. But please suggest your rota idea to the neighbours so they can tell you to fuck off.

9pm isn’t unreasonable for people to be chatting outside. One of my neighbours likes to watch films in his garden room, which blare out at gone 10pm, so I’d be delighted if someone’s BBQ was wrapped up by 9pm.

I’d suggest when he’s working outside loudly on teams calls, put some music on. You then won’t hear him and he might go inside!

The vaping comment is unreasonable. It could be worse - cigarette fumes (which are actually harmful) or weed! The bikini comment is also unreasonable.

What am I even reading lol. Who even thinks this sort of stuff up.

no op, you cannot, well you can, but can you film it and post it here so we can watch how that goes for you?

to clarify, your neighbours are free to do all these things and more in their own gardens, if you did not wish to be in such close proximity to other people you should not have bought a typical new build.

honestly one of the more insane things I’ve read on here.😂

Don't chat to them. They aren't blaring music or making noise til late, they are just living life.

Not being snarky but move somewhere where you have more space. If you can't, then this is close living and it definitely could be worse.

God typos! Sorry.

FGS you bought a house in a new building estate what did you expect in the summer? Get out and enjoy your garden.

This is why the countryside was invented

OP do you not think k you're kids, making the most of their time off, would be running around shrieking with water guns or similar? Which would be fine by the way. You simply cannot expect to buy on a new build estate and expect tje sort of privacy you want

I feel your pain, we have to put up with loud phone conversations, scraping of plates, repeatedly shouting at the dog, and loud Teams calls as they both WFH.
However, it will get worse if you complain.
You need to either accept it or look to move.

You are deluded.
Go live in the middle of nowhere where there are not other people if you don't want to hear people.

You are no more entitled to use the garden than them.