Should I ask my neighbours if we can have designated times to sit in the garden?

Oh dear……….this reminded me of the Catherine Tate sketch…….posh bird with 2 kids, distraught because the Nanny had gone away and the agency sent a replacement (shock horror when she arrived and spoke in a northern accent)…….having a picnic and someone ate a yoghurt that was one day out of date (shock horror they were going to die)……cooking with the kids and discovering they’d run out of brie!
Come on OP, live and let live! Stop with the bedroom curtain twitching, put on your bikini and prance around in your own garden like no one’s watching!

ps No offence intended to any northerners in my Catherine Tate reference….I live up north myself 👍

The women have also been prancing around in very skimpy bikinis. I know women are entitled to wear what they want, but come on-all the neighbours can see if they look outside their upstairs windows!

Do you never go swimming or to the beach? How do you survive if you do?

I think all new build houses are like this. Everyone is expected to live on top of one another. It is modern life. People are entitled to use their gardens as and when they want. Let you kids out with water guns and a paddling pool - he’ll soon go indoors.
As for bikinis and BBQ’s nothing to be done there.
if you think people are drink driving you should be reporting it.

Well no you can't! Don't be ridiculous 🙄

I feel your pain. It’s awful when there’s no escape. Obviously making a rota is absurd but wouldn’t it be fabulous!

My NDN dominates the space now too. Dog barking and radio blaring when he’s out; kid screaming, hot tub roaring, YouTube, tv, FaceTime when they’re home. Nobody in the street sits out anymore because of them.

Your neighbours sound completely nornal to me. They dont invite you though. Does that bother you at all?

Stop judging them and teaching your dc to be judgy and get on with life.
Hiding indoors!

High fences, some tall plants, Bikini, and get prancing:)

Yes. Do this. And then please update the thread 🤣🫠

Move.

I think I would also be irritated by this but you live in a house that is very close to other houses - I'm assuming that was a conscious choice. I don't think we can really complain when we then hear noise from neighbours etc. The women prancing round in bikinis was hilarious, Jeez it's their garden we're in a heat wave. Do you not take your kids to swimming pools or the beach?

It sounds like they are reasonably stopping talking outside etc at 9pm so it could be a lot worse.

If you're out there with your DCs then you could put on a bit of music for you to hear that will reduce the silence on your side and stop you focusing on their conversations.

You absolutely cannot ask your neighbours if you can tag team using your gardens. They will think you are crazy.

You do seem to be losing the plot.

Being a neighbour is given and take. I had neighbours that never used their garden for the best part of 7 years. I had 2 small kids so never really had to worry about them annoying them. Last year we got new neighbours and they have a toddler who is always screaming and they often have BBQ etc. I just figured we have been lucky for so long that it's not worth nothing about. They are entitled to use their garden and have good neighbourly relations is so important as very easily they can make you life hell. As it is we have polite chat and she text be to bring my washing in if they are having a BBQ.
None of the things your neighbour is doing is actually that bad. Just ekt your kids play out and disturb their teams calls.

This is 3rd thread you've posted about women in their own gardens. I see you, pervert.

I’d tear the rota up in your face and slam the door … then my bbqs would go on until midnight.

Don't be ridiculous OP … this has to be a wind up!

I doubt your kids are particularly quiet! You’re just used to their noise.

Yabu, judgemental and prudish - but ask for a rota, let us know how that works out for you 😂

The heat has got to you. They are enjoying their garden and no you can’t have designated times 😂.
I mean you can ask but you’ll be forever known as the crazy lady next door

“Prancing”, “vape particles”, “skimpy bikinis” - oh dear, oh dear me. Judgemental on steroids.

Do you ever sit outside with your partner and children? How do you use your garden? Think about ways to make it better for you- don’t just avoid using it - make the most of having outside space
Get the kids a pool for the summer and let them enjoy it then you’d be less likely to hear the neighbours
They do say that good fences make good neighbours so deal with that if low fences are the problem

It’s not unreasonable to expect people to be considerate of others, of course not. However lots of people these days are completely selfish. I don’t think you can really say anything (except maybe about the vaping)

No - she does not 'sound mental'.

@Guarddogdaschunds your neighbours sound insufferable. But sadly I doubt very much they would be on board with designated times in the garden

I put YANBU because I feel bad for you - but I guess it is unreasonable to impose rules on other people in their own garden.

We live in a semi and one summer the other half was used as an Air B and B. Lots of parties - puking in the garden - drunken singing til 2am. And on one memorable occasion shagging in the dining room in the day - with windows open. My 7 year old asking 'why is that lady making those funny noises?😂😁

Whenever I wear a bikini, I have to prance. It is compulsory!

Thank god I'm not this miserable

You completely ludicrous person!😂

A rota 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes, I prance too, and I make loud neighing sounds. I didn't know it was possible to wear a bikini without doing this.

Selfish neighbours wont care about your idea of a rota to be honest. They will probably just tell you to go away.
I suggest you get a super powerful garden hose and a ladder and spray them to fuck every time you can hear them over the fence.
Let us know how it goes.