Should I ask my neighbours if we can have designated times to sit in the garden?

Go out and prance around in a bikini in your garden.
See how they like it.

A…… rota?!

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I understand why you’re pissed off; my neighbours piss me off, too. But I’m certain that we also piss them off. That’s what you get for living in a new build estate!

Ha ha good one OP

Yes this. Give them a taste of their own medicine. I do get it as my neighbour has 3 sons and they all have wives or GFs and the women screech like banshees! But, I get on with my neighbour and she’s a nice woman and I value that after living in my previous place where the neighbours were horrible people.

Maybe you should get a hobby and a grip

You sound like you would be best moving to a detached house in the middle of nowhere.

I worked from my garden yesterday and had a lovely time. Next doors kids were screaming and playing in a water sprinkler - loud but very reasonable! My use of my garden was not less important than theirs you just have to rub along.

mind you I managed to keep my prancing to a minimum even though I’m a woman

The booming voices would annoy me (some people just have loud voices and don’t seem to realise it) but otherwise none of that sounds unreasonable.

I have this- screaming kids 2 doors down. They seem incapable of just playing . I had two myself but never allowed them to scream like that the whole time.

I can’t believe that 3% of people have voted that you’re not being unreasonable! I don’t think I’ve ever read a more entitled and totally ridiculous post than this, even by Mumsnet standards. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes. Get them water pistols( some might go over the fence… oh dear) and if you have one already a trampoline next to the fence so their heads appear frequently. Lastly have all their friends round after school. He will have to work inside due to the noise.

To be fair I had to move out of my lovely home on the south downs because my neighbours were insufferable. They had 6 children who shrieked and screamed from morning to night. Constant stinking barbeques, people coming and going night and day. Not one single one of us could enjoy the sunshine or hear a bird sing. It was miserable.
In the end I decided on a life change and moved to Somerset. Its peace and quiet 24/7 here even though the house and garden are smaller. I dont know how I stuck it there for so long.
Some people are utter selfish bastards.

The heat really is getting to people.

I'm sure your kids are intensely irritating to them. Before we had DC every nice day was ruined by the kids next door playing outside and squealing. Now I've got my own children, every nice day is still ruined by playing outside and squealing, except now I'm responsible for them.

It’s annoying and I wouldn’t like it but they are doing nothing wrong. I would move if it affects you so much.

According to my local Facebook pages there have been several couples heard having fun in the sun in their gardens so you are getting off lightly really.

Plant some heading that will grow, it will take a bit of attention at first watering etc but once established- 3 years say - will be a natural sound barrier, good for wildlife and nicer than just a fence.

All this is only a problem for your kids if you make it so. And you sound like you feel you are entitled to peace in a new build! Are you insane?

New builds pack people in, should’ve looked at older properties if you wanted a bit of space between houses.

Childless working couple who like to use their garden and have friends round. They are not booming music late, smoking weed or have kids banging a ball against the fence.

You might have sensitivity to noise but that’s going to be a problem everywhere.

I would go the other way and be friendly rather than try and dictate some sort of garden rota, then once you have established a bit of a rapport you could then say, hey Jack/Jill look I understand you are all young adults enjoying summer, but would you mind keeping the dating story details until after our kids have come in, I would just rather not try and not explain anal to my 6 year old, if you don’t mind please.

And I think that is about as good as you can expect.

Nothing will change being a moody uptight entitled cow, but tiny nudges might be possible if you are an easy going happy to help live and let live young mum of two.

This place gets more bonkers every day. It’s comedy gold.

If I got that note through my door, I’d read it, think you were a nutter and throw it away.

Send your kids in the garden. Encourage them to play outside during the holidays.

Stop focusing on next door.

I mean you live in a new build where it’s house on house garden on garden often without even having an access gate.

What exactly did you expect. You live ontop of each other. A new build estate is my idea of hell unless it’s one of those executive ones and even they are piled close enough. Give me an old council semi large gardens and no rear neighbours.

But yes you’d be unreasonable. Just use your own garden no fucks given. Often us and our neighbour are both bbqing or our children are playing we don’t need to alternate who can be outside.

"Prancing" 😂

Just let your children play outside, get them a pool or something to encourage them.. One person's vaping in the open air won't harm them, and it they're noisy enough they'll probably drive the neighbour to have his online meetings back indoors.

I guarantee your note won't go down well! I wouldn't like to live next door to them, but realistically I don't think there's much you do. Can you look at moving? New builds typically have small gardens; you could probably find an older bigger house with bigger garden (more distance from neighbours) for the same price as your new build.

Okay 2 points here. The first being you should not be hearing details of his team meetings. He will probably breaching his companies policies and its unacceptable. Also having being subjected to living next door to someone who ran a home business for years and who screamed, swore and shrieked loudly for hours daily and disclosed personal information about there family and marriage i can understand how awful the noise is. Its horrible as you cannot sit in your garden and enjoy even a moments peace without hearing a constant level of noise which is often at an anti social level. I got to the point even open my back door wss causing me anxiety and stress because the level of noise was awful and language.

The rest of your complaints are ridiculous. They are entitled to use there garden in it and have bbqs. Vape and chat. 9pm is no late and although I personally dislike vapes or smoke its perfectly acceptable for people to do that in there own garden. If you cant accept general day to day noise like that then you need to move somewhere you have mo neighbours.

Definitely do it. And come tell us what they say..

You need to live somewhere that’s not a new build estate if you want quieter gardens.