Should I ask my neighbours if we can have designated times to sit in the garden?

I don’t think “ground rules” will go down well you will sound like patronising old farts even if you’re a similar age. Getting your husband to deal with it is a shout tho, I always delegate stuff like that to my DH because I’m hot headed (not a good trait but at least I’m aware of it).

”Ground rules”? I would be telling him where to go and shutting the door in his face 🤣

Im glad youre not my neighbour tbh. Ill give you the benefit of hoping you have some sort of sunstroke and its made you temporarily batshit

They’re going to laugh in your face, OP.

It’s not up to you to set ground rules.

You sound awfully uptight and anxious and afraid of fun. You’re only in your thirties!

They probably do al this and the neighbour up with it with good grace! OP sounds unhinged!

Ground rules 😬 This is not going to go well.

How to piss your neighbours off, ground rules they’ll more likely show you the door than discuss anything! You sound more irrational by the minute! Next week it will be raining so you won’t see or hear them! Just remember when your children are playing outside not everyone wants to hear them squealing which no doubt they do!

Hope it is cheering and not laughing! My daughter's family have a set up through the computer so they can watch matches outside but they learned that their commentary was behind real time when the groans for Kane's first penalty were heard before they'd seen him take it. Back inside, quickly!
The OP can take comfort in the number of brownie points she acquired ready for the school holidays and the mid August moans from next door!

What ground rules?

I really do sympathise with the amount of pain this is causing you OP, (I’ve been there, trust me) but there’s no cure but to move to somewhere without neighbours. I saved up and bought a small very rural house in my mid forties and regained my sanity. Having no neighbours is the biggest luxury in the world to me.

No, you can’t ask for a rota or for them to be quieter, well you can, but it will only make things worse.

He's a smart chap your hubby :)

You comments get more ludicrous every time! It’s their garden, so they can wear what they want, they’re not wandering around naked! A bikini is hardly undergarments you sound positively ridiculous! They have to put up with your children playing outside, I doubt they play in silence! Perhaps see your doctor as I suspect you’ve got mental health problems!

They can wear what they want in their own garden. So can their visitors. Just because you're a prude doesn't mean they have to dress with you in mind.

Stop looking out at them. Put up some curtains or blinds.

It's hot and people can use their gardens and yards.

Male or female, I personally think it is unsavoury to parade -or prance- around ones garden in clothing that represents undergarments. The garden in a residential area is a place where you can be seen by anybody quite easily from the upstairs windows. I would react in the same manner if a bloke was sporting a Speedo

I'm afraid I disagree quite strongly with you here. Your children would see as much at any pool, on any beach.

It's really voyeuristic to watch your neighbours from upstairs windows. Just don't. People have reasonable expectation of privacy in their own gardens, don't infringe upon that and then moan about what they're wearing.

Stop gawping at them then. They're not doing it for your benefit.

If you don't want to see your neighbours or hear them then I'm puzzled why you choose to live in a house that has neighbours all over? You can live in houses that are not overlooked - and I don't mean mansions either, just normal houses, that you choose carefully and prioritise a secluded garden/outdoor space. You don't really have much choice though OP I suspect. Also you personally think it's unsavory to spend time in your own garden wearing undergarments - well it would seem you're in the minority. Live and let live or go and live in a place with no neighbours!

Well, you are really odd. I can tell you, that over several houses, and many decades, I have had many neighbouring men ‘parade around’ in their Speedo’s. Around the pool, over several hours of a day. Why would I give a shit about this? Seriously. You sound disturbed.

ETA - have also had neighbouring women and visitors ‘parade around’ for several hours in bikini’s/one pieces/tankini’s, whatever, for several hours around the pool. Often at night, when visitors have gone home, a lot of people just dip nude. Because that’s the weather we live in. It’s in no way odd. I have never once thought to confront a neighbour over this, as that would be completely batshit. Plus that’s what we do, as it’s completely normal 🤷‍♀️.

Best place would be a desert island! I’ve never read anything so ridiculous!

I've never known so many skimpy or no clothes comments. We've had naked neighbours, skimpy washing on line and now women in skimpy bikinis.

Of course YABU to try and timetable their life.

The teams calls are v selfish. He should at least wear headphones

People are very much allowed to “prance” around their own garden in the clothes of their choosing. Just as you are allowed not to stare at them from your own windows.

Exactly, especially during his working hours! When they barbecue, chuck a pack of sausages over and ask them to throw those on for you, joking apart it's what we did in Germany when a neighbour had fired up their barbecue, lots of food being passed over!

They’d be well within their rights to “prance around” absolutely naked so consider yourself lucky.