Should I ask my neighbours if we can have designated times to sit in the garden?

"Unsavoury"! I hope you've got those pearls securely strung, OP, or they'll be all over the floor in no time.

They're not wearing anything that you wouldn't see on any beach or at any public pool, and they're in the privacy of their own garden. And as I understand it, it's perfectly legal to be naked in your own garden as long as you're not doing it deliberately to annoy your or upset your neighbours.

Think yourself lucky they're not naturists, they'd be showing an awful lot more flesh if they were!

'He is going to pop over and agree some ground rules'.

Wow! He is as daft as you. If one of my neighbours suggested to me that we need to agree ground rules I would tell them where to go, especially if I had friends round at the time.

Mind your own business and stop being the neighbour from hell.

You haven't seen yesterday's naked neighbours thread, then?

I just try and do very little that will negatively affect neighbours and hope they do the same for me. In general we're all pretty respectful of each other

Can we please have a video of how your 'hubby's' request for them to stop talking in their own garden goes?

I cant imagine listening into grown up work chat as a child

My thoughts exactly!

You sound really irrational here

Maybe don’t buy yourself a pokey house if this sort of thing pisses you off. Why buy a house in such proximity to neighbours if this is your reaction?

you seem jealous of their age as ultimately nothing they have done is unreasonable, unfortunately they’re entitled to do what they want in their garden. They aren’t obliged to go on a rota with you

It sounds dreadful, and of course people who behave like this are not likely to respond well to requests to behave differently.

Swimwear is not the same as underwear. How do you cope on the beach?

I feel for you about the noise but I'm not sure about this approach.
If you do go with asking to keep the noise down you'll look ridiculous watering your complaint down with a list of misdemeanours that include bikini wearing and vaping, so pick your battles carefully.

Let the kids play- most likely he will end up moving in doors to take calls. In fairness if they are only outside until 9pm then they are being considerate. Maybe he does not realise that he has such a loud voice. The bikini things is your issue they are not nude - don't look if you don't want to see them.

Your DH is going to look like a utter knob if he is going over complaining about people living their lives. You do not sound suited to living in a housing development like the one you are in.

The women have also been prancing around in very skimpy bikinis. I know women are entitled to wear what they want, but come on-all the neighbours can see if they look outside their upstairs windows!

WTF?

Booming and squarking voices?

You sound like a hideous judgemental bigot, I'd like to hear what they have to say about you!

This is insane, I would laugh at your note, put it in the bin and label you the weird neighbour for eternity.

Have an ice lolly and a word with yourself.

Put your own music on outside, especially when he is on a call or make your own phone call sitting on the other side of the fence.
Let your children play outside, and say they can choose the music they want to listen to, so you disturb their conversation with friends. Or as another poster said buy water pistols and invite childrens friends round for a watertight. Or move ! But don't ask them to agree times to use their garden for goodness sake !

I have never worked from home, but wouldn't it be considered a GDPR breach if others can hear?

When Covid restrictions started, we were all asked about our working from home arrangements, including what degree of privacy we had from partners or other family members also WFH. We were issued with headsets to use when talking to clients, so that other people in the house wouldn't be able to hear what clients were saying, and colleagues who didn't have a separate room had to use their headsets for Zoom meetings as well. We were reminded that GDPR still applied.

I'm calling bollocks here.
This is the second thread this week where an OP has been having a fit of the vapours about their next door neighbour (who always happens to be a woman) "undergarments" and asking MN if they should put a note through the door.

2/10 for originality.

The bikini comment is hilarious.

You are being totally unreasonable. I also guarantee you that your children will have been a pain in the arse in the garden at some point. Please don’t go there and ask for ground rules- they are doing nothing wrong by wearing bikinis or having a chat until 9pm. They will think you are absolutely nuts if you raise the bikini issue.

If you have got kids OP get the paddling pool out, the music on, the bbq on and let them make a noise as long as its day time even invite some of there friends over.

That people actually think like this and believe themselves to be reasonable, is an utter mindfuck.

OP, I do not relish noise from others, I have to be honest (unless I am helping them make it!) but I realise that this is an entirely me problem. Couldn’t give a monkeys about ‘prancing’ (ye gods) as I am not actually insane. But to ensure relative quiet, I live in glorious isolation with my only neighbours at some distance. You should do the same.

If you can’t afford it, you’ll have to suck it up I’m afraid. You’re going to drive yourself and your poor neighbours (ground rules!!) mad.

I don't think they are doing anything wrong. I would absolutely hate the noise, but they aren't doing anything wrong and there is nothing you can do about it

Your comments about their swimwear are wild!

I see everyone’s point and also that it’s annoying sorry op! But they won’t modify their behaviour so stop modifying yours/ especially stop politely hiding away while he’s on team calls; that’s their confidential conversation not yours, so encourage the kids to have a screaming match, or do whatever they want to do.

also, you must never take your kids to the beach. Shocking the things ladeez wear there.

The local swimming baths must be hell on earth for you.

Hahaha good luck if he tries to phrase it that way!

Hi, I am here to impose some ground rules on how you live your life. If you tried that with me you would get a two word response and the door shut in your face. If approached more nicely then I would be open to a conversation but chances are I would just say what you wanted to hear and then go back to carrying on if I thought I was being unreasonable then I would stop but having friends over in my garden and enjoying myself doesn't count as unreasonable.

Having friends over, enjoying yourself in the hot weather and wanting to sit in your garden as much as you can does not make you a teenager.