Should I ask my neighbours if we can have designated times to sit in the garden?

So my hubby has given my head a bit of a wobble and told me that we cannot impose an outdoor rota and that I am being ridiculous. He does however agree that the booming voices and squarking voices are unbearable, so if they are entertaining again tonight, he will pop over and try to agree some ground rules. It is ridiculous, they are both a similar age to us and they act like teenagers!

Looking forward to the update.....

I think <kindly> that the op feels inadequate as her and dh don't have bbqs, friends round, nice socialable evenings and the neighbours daring to do it is subconsciously rubbing her nose in it.

So rather than accept that she feels awkward at her own poor social life she's doing this weird blame thing to allow her resentment to be channelled somehow.

Tolerance and acceptance op are your friends here or else the excess bile and vitriol will give you a peptic ulcer .

There is nothing wrong with my DH proposing some ground rules that we can collectively agree on-we are all living within a few metres of each other after all! We have lived here a few years longer than the couple; they moved in last year and this is primarily a family area, almost everyone on our road has kids!

I'm sure that most people would rather hear my children in the garden as opposed to listening to dating escapades, loud bitching about their work colleagues and drunken conversations. I have purposely avoided buying a trampoline as I believe they are antisocial in estates.

There is nothing wrong with my DH proposing some ground rules that we can collectively agree on-we are all living within a few metres of each other after all! We have lived here a few years longer than the couple; they moved in last year and this is primarily a family area, almost everyone on our road has kids!

I'm sure that most people would rather hear my children in the garden as opposed to listening to dating escapades, loud bitching about their work colleagues and drunken conversations. I have purposely avoided buying a trampoline as I believe they are antisocial in estates.

There is nothing wrong with my DH proposing some ground rules that we can collectively agree on-we are all living within a few metres of each other after all! We have lived here a few years longer than the couple; they moved in last year and this is primarily a family area, almost everyone on our road has kids!

I'm sure that most people would rather hear my children in the garden as opposed to listening to dating escapades, loud bitching about their work colleagues and drunken conversations. I have purposely avoided buying a trampoline as I believe they are antisocial in estates.

I will preface by saying that it is possible this heatwave has affected my rational thinking. So I will bite- I am so sick of listening to my neighbours having their dinner in the garden and having to listen to their booming voices for hours on end. It has reached the stage where we feel relegated indoors, especially in the evenings.

We live in a new build in close proximity to our neighbours so can hear everything as you can imagine. They are a couple in their early 30's (I think), no kids. The man with the booming voice works from home and has taken to working from his garden throughout the day, often vaping. My kids are off school, trying to make the best of the time off and I really don't think they should have to hear the details of his teams meetings. Surely he should work inside and allow people peaceful enjoyment of their gardens? I have never worked from home, but wouldn't it be considered a GDPR breach if others can hear?

They have had friends over for BBQs the previous 2 nights and have been sitting outside chatting until around 9pm. The BBQ smell lingered for so long and of course they were all vaping and drinking alcohol. One of their friends was regaling them with tales of her dating escapades-hardly an appropriate topic for my 9 year old to have in earshot. I also don't want my kids damaging their lungs inhaling all of those disgusting vape particles. The women have also been prancing around in very skimpy bikinis. I know women are entitled to wear what they want, but come on-all the neighbours can see if they look outside their upstairs windows! I'm also concerned as yesterday, the visiting friends were there for several hours and appeared to drive themselves home- were they over the limit?

On both occasions, I have brought my kids inside, as I don't want them to hear the sordid details of their conversations. I also feel awkward that they are only a few metres away from me, so I don't want to have my dinner outside in case they listen to our conversation. Would I be unreasonable to pop over or post a note through their door requesting that we have an outdoor mealtime rota so we can all enjoy our gardens in peace-as we are entitled to?

If the OP does this then it just makes them look like a complete knob and will affect other neighbours with noise.
Reasonable noise but there is no need to add shite music and potentially screaming kids on purpose. That's just rubbish having to listen to shrieking kids.
Having said that I don't think OP would allow her kids to scream and yell anyway.

There is nothing wrong with my DH proposing some ground rules that we can collectively agree on-we are all living within a few metres of each other after all! We have lived here a few years longer than the couple; they moved in last year and this is primarily a family area, almost everyone on our road has kids!

I'm sure that most people would rather hear my children in the garden as opposed to listening to dating escapades, loud bitching about their work colleagues and drunken conversations. I have purposely avoided buying a trampoline as I believe they are antisocial in estates.

I feel your pain, in that our neighbour also dominates the space- he uses power tools, their dog upset my dog and was out all the time, spa, loud, music, karaoke… I’d never plan to entertain in the garden, as chances are they’d be noisy next door.

In your situation though, it would be resolved by playing your own music. Put a kids playlist on, and it will mask their chatter.

There is nothing wrong with my DH proposing some ground rules that we can collectively agree on-we are all living within a few metres of each other after all! We have lived here a few years longer than the couple; they moved in last year and this is primarily a family area, almost everyone on our road has kids!

I'm sure that most people would rather hear my children in the garden as opposed to listening to dating escapades, loud bitching about their work colleagues and drunken conversations. I have purposely avoided buying a trampoline as I believe they are antisocial in estates.

Or a convent.

So my hubby has given my head a bit of a wobble and told me that we cannot impose an outdoor rota and that I am being ridiculous. He does however agree that the booming voices and squarking voices are unbearable, so if they are entertaining again tonight, he will pop over and try to agree some ground rules. It is ridiculous, they are both a similar age to us and they act like teenagers!

There is nothing wrong with my DH proposing some ground rules that we can collectively agree on-we are all living within a few metres of each other after all! We have lived here a few years longer than the couple; they moved in last year and this is primarily a family area, almost everyone on our road has kids!

I'm sure that most people would rather hear my children in the garden as opposed to listening to dating escapades, loud bitching about their work colleagues and drunken conversations. I have purposely avoided buying a trampoline as I believe they are antisocial in estates.

I wonder what prancing looks like. Can you clarify op, is this what they were doing op in their skimpy bikinis?

enquiring minds need to know about these prancing women.