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AIBU to skip an evening reception for a small wedding?

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Wnahsi · 26/06/2026 07:06

AIBU not to have an evening reception wedding is summer next year ), here is what the day will look like without one, it's a smaller wedding around 45 people including children (we have two ourselves):

2:30 Arrival drinks in the bar
3pm Ceremony
3:30 - 430/530 Canapes and live music , in a rooftop room with a terrace and views overlooking the city
530 -730 Wedding breakfast (no speeches etc)
730 - 9 drinks on the terrace with live music , thinking of getting a magician either here or at the canapes ?
930pm move down to the hotel bar , people can go , stay etc. we will probably head up to our room at 10 as we have an amazing room with a hot tub with amazing views 😂.

The second option would be after the wedding breakfast we move down to a basement room (which is lovely), have a band or DJ that will finish around midnight .

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MandemChickenShop · 26/06/2026 20:50

don't have drinks before the ceremony

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 26/06/2026 21:16

DON'T get a magician. Spend the money on food or booze. Or a better DJ/band
.

Hellometime · 26/06/2026 21:26

MandemChickenShop · 26/06/2026 20:50

don't have drinks before the ceremony

Yes I agree. Would be rushed. People will need to take seats. I’d say 2.30pm arrival for 3pm ceremony.
Then have drinks after.
Then dinner.
I wouldn’t do hot food later so soon after dinner. Maybe cheese and cake.

Wnahsi · 26/06/2026 21:27

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 26/06/2026 21:16

DON'T get a magician. Spend the money on food or booze. Or a better DJ/band
.

I'm doing a free bar , and have found a great duo..I'm just trying to add something extra . But it's getting very mixed reviews here 🤣

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Wnahsi · 26/06/2026 21:28

Hellometime · 26/06/2026 21:26

Yes I agree. Would be rushed. People will need to take seats. I’d say 2.30pm arrival for 3pm ceremony.
Then have drinks after.
Then dinner.
I wouldn’t do hot food later so soon after dinner. Maybe cheese and cake.

The hot food is only if I move the start to 1pm of it's 3pm I won't bother with food later .

The arrival drink I mean more of a of people arrive early I'll have drinks for them . Than a you must arrive early for a drink

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PrimeSeason · 26/06/2026 21:32

God, I’d LOVE this! Go for it!

Hellometime · 26/06/2026 23:28

It sounds lovely Op.

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