To think this is actually selfish behaviour and not thoughtful?

It seems odd that there is no desire to accommodate your dislike, OP. Are there other signs that you are not so in tune with the group, or that they are not so keen on you being a part of it? Is there a history of people being frozen out or scapegoated or the like?

Suggest the playlist is made collaborative so you can all add to it as its for you all to listen to and save her doing all the work (Aren't you do thoughtful!). If she doesn't want everyone adding to that particular list she can import her efforts into a new one you can all add to or just start over 😊

2nd this. Create a reunion play list that everyone can add too.

Or take an alexa, connect to the WiFi and ask her to play 7os music, 8os, dance anthems etc etc

You must have such a sheltered life, that a playlist is causing this must upset.

you clearly don’t like this ‘friend’. It feels like a you problem.

Don't go. You're only going to spoil it for everyone else.

Or you do it the 10year old way, and in the night you creep into the living room, and scratch that CD bugger to death. Then tip toe back to bed and have a secret chuckle at the mystery that awaits everyone the next morning.

mwah ha ha ha

100%
Tesco seemed to have upped the volume on their horrible tinny music, to the extent that our closest big store is hellish noisy now. I hate going in there.
Every Open Day, School Fete, Summer Fair or Show, has to be blasting music, I feel I have to get away from it, so I just avoid stuff like that now.
Why do people suddenly think that what they want trumps everyone else?
Bugger off with your damn noise!

Take headphones and listen to your own!

What's the point? OP could do that at home!

All good things must come to an end.

If there is one thing I cannot stand it is having music on in the background, especially someone else's choice of playlist. It's like nails down a blackboard. Like being trapped in a supermarket. Some people have to have music playing every single moment they're awake. I think they don't enjoy being alone with their own thoughts.

You’ve got a point OP… the world is increasingly full of people who push their choices and ideas onto everyone else as if it’s the only option and that you “mustn’t say anything to upset them”
Sod that!
Im retiring very soon, and one of many joyous things about that is that I will no longer ever have to listen to other people’s bloody music.
Im really with you on this 👍

But op's friend is not asking/allowing for anyone else to contribute to the playlist and op should not have to sit with headphones on.

I did this on a weekend away - asked everyone to provide their top 10 songs. Worked a treat.
Take headphones and listen to your own!

God , no.
A playlist for 10 people compiled to reflect only one person's taste is just so entitled.
I'm totally with you op, I love opera but would never inflict it on my friends.

I need to know if it is just his solo work or also Wham!

You sound like you are so jealous that everyone else enjoys the playlist tradition that you have turned this into a far larger issue than it needs to be and are attributing nasty qualities to your supposed friend where none exist.

Really, you now can’t stand George Michael just because you hear his music played every six months or so? Grow up.

This ^

The OP is not BU in not wanting to put up with her old university friend's taste in music.

The OP is being unreasonable in meeting up twice a year with contemporaraies from university 30 years ago and expecting to still enjoy it

I give you a pass for the 2 hour singalong every evening. Just stand up and say "well I'm off to bed" and go to bed/read in your room.

But op is going on the weekend - and presumably spending money - to spend time with her friends, not to sit in her room on her own.

It's very inconsiderate for two people to take over the evening so that no-one else can have a conversation.

OP, what would happen if you suggested going to the pub to one or two of the non singers? Surely they can't all be happy to sit there for two hours listening to two people practising their karaoke skills?

This would drive me nuts as well, OP. I'm surprised by all these silly 'suck it up' responses. That said, I can see you're in a tough spot. I find it hard to believe that you are really the only one of the ten who doesn't love the playlists. Most of the others are probably just going along to get along.

Can’t you just Go Outside when the music is on? I Knew You Were Waiting for a reason to complain. Jesus, you are turning inTo a Child. But if you need your Freedom from this irritation , that’s fair enough, but Don’t Let the Sun Go Down on an argument with your friends.

Yabu
Create your own playlist. If “it’s not allowed to be played” point out how ridiculous that is.
Go and sit in a quieter spot for a bit with anyone you’d like a proper chat with.
But also….
If other members of the gang are enjoying themselves…..best bet is to let their enjoy their fun. Don’t ruin a long friendship over this (assuming you appreciate them in other ways).
As I do when out with my school friends. Their tastes are very different to mine but I love being with them so I chose to ignore/be tolerant of their preferred choices as their preference is the majority opinion. It’s not their fault I’m the only one of eight that prefers other options.

You do seem over-bothered about something which is mildly irritating but ultimately harmless.

You’ve outgrown the uni group (most of this do this after a few years, so well done for lasting this long).

I’d go, have fun while the music is background noise, then when the volume goes up and the warbling starts, I’d go to bed.

I’ve done this. I’m ND and have noise sensitivity issues. My friends are used to it - I’m not asking them to change anything, just to accept I’ll probably retreat earlier than everyone else.

Ask for a room on the top floor / away from the communal space, and take earplugs.

If everyone else likes it, and you’ve raised it multiple times already, your options are to pull out of the holidays or tolerate it.

Why couldn’t you put your music on? Why is this person in charge of music, surely you could easily just plug your phone in or whatever?