To think this is actually selfish behaviour and not thoughtful?

This is actually not funny and I’d be raising a formal complaint with HR about that language being broadcast in my workplace.

Genius, yours is better than mine 😀

@BettyJoanPerske sorry, I’m really old school

Haha, yes!!!

Dancing about, WooWoo in hand

I'll make you a fabulous playlist full of metal, death metal and shouty rock that'll send them all to their beds early 😈🤘

YABU, get over it. Most people experience this regularly when they are young, friends want to go to a club or pub but they hate the music. For about two years that's how I spent every Saturday night. But I decided hanging out with my friends was worth it. If it's a drunken sing along at the end of the night then go to bed earlier. Make an alternative play list and suggest it's played occasionally, that's only fair, but if the majority like the same stuff and you don't then you have to roll with the majority. That's same as anything else in life.

I think the issue here is that it would appear that you are the only person in the group who doesn't like the music. Everyone else has told you that they think it's a kind thing to do, and some of your friends sing along etc.

If everyone else is OK with the playlist, then I think you either suck it up or don't go - you can't expect not to have music if everyone else is happy with it.

To be honest, from the general tone of your posts it actually sounds like you just don't really have much in common with these friends any more, and maybe don't really enjoy the same things as them these days. And that's fine, really - you don't have to keep seeing people you've grown apart from. Just because you've been friends with a particular group for a long time, that doesn't mean you have to carry on socialising with them long after you've stopped enjoying it and have started to find their behaviour annoying.

I doubt you'd be saying that if I inflicted my personal musical taste on you for the duration of the holiday...
Which I wouldnt do, because I appreciate not everyone has my taste.
There are genres of music I simply cannot stand and it would spoil my holiday- I hear you OP.

Yep!

We've mentioned it management, but just got a shoulder shrug.

As you are the only one not into this playlist -
it’s a you problem ?
is it worth fracturing your friendships about ??

any playlist EVERY NIGHT would drive me bonkers

I would just link my phone to the speaker and do a take over

You must really NOT like that playlist. I so want to know what songs are on it. Sounds like you are in the minority here so I can only advise sucking it up for the sake of seeing your friends, or opting out next time. Do you have sensory issues or is it just bloody awful music?

when they start singing just say time for bed see you in the morning

She sounds v domineering. Music should be for everyone

Gosh you’re a miserable fucker. Who cares

People have a weird blind spot when it comes to music. They won’t let their kids watch films with mild sex scenes in, but they’ll let them listen to absolute filth without batting an eye.

Sadly he’s a fan of the vile rap stuff that involves “Pussy, slapping yo bitch, gunning the snitches, and repeatedly shouting fuck,fuck,fuck”.

Surely he could be told that's not acceptable in the workplace? Even if he's not public facing, other employees shouldn't have to put up with it.

Girlie calendars aren't acceptable in many workplaces now, and you can at least avoid looking at them. You can't avoid hearing this - I won't call it music.

This is what I am thinking.

I have been on trips away with people where the last person I would choose unilaterally "volunteers" to be the one who does the big communal food shop. What follows is white bread and the cheapest ingredients from Asda when really we could all have afforded M&S.

Any objection and you are labelled ungrateful and not a team player 😂

I assumed the times were different in different stores but it seems to be 9-10am on Wednesdays and Saturdays everywhere.

Oooh, do they? That’s interesting. I’m retiring soon so I’ll look into that. They’ve always had music, but it seems much louder of late, really annoying.
Thanks for the info🌸

Ummm,.. do you know the young lad who works with us? He’s allowed ‘music’ as he’s not public facing, but we have to liaise with him a lot during a shift.

Sadly he’s a fan of the vile rap stuff that involves “Pussy, slapping yo bitch, gunning the snitches, and repeatedly shouting fuck,fuck,fuck”. No wonder men have a poor opinion of women if this is what’s popular…😟

Cant wait to retire…counting the days down.
Never again will my ears be contaminated with this utter garbage.

Can you put a message in the group chat saying, ‘Hey Sandra, if you’re making a play list this year can you select songs we’ll all enjoy instead of the usual George Michael snorefest? I’d love to hear some Def Leppard and Sleep Token - anyone else have any special requests?’

I have a friend like this. He thinks his musical taste is far superior to everyone else's, and he's doing us a favour by being in charge of the playlist. The thing is, it's really not. It's mostly landfill indie, and it drives the rest of us mad because it's just so insipid, but he won't have it!

So, I feel your pain, but I'm not sure there's much you can do about it if your friend is that type because they tend to act all hurt and offended if you say anything.

Make another playlist. Hits from the years you were at university- chart and indie. Ask people to add their favourites. I still have a load of pals from univ. The ones who inflicted their music on us all 30 years ago would still do it now if allowed. It would be The Wedding Present on repeat. Last time we just made a shared Spotify playlist. It had everything from Ali's Tartan Army to The Fall. It was a joy. So much I'd forgotten. Just tell George Michael lady you took inspo from her.