AIBU to say no to my teenage daughter?

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NoTeaForMe · 25/06/2026 22:15

My 15 year old DD wants to go to the beach tomorrow with a few friends (school is closed due to the heatwave). It’s around 1hr 15mins away by train and they want to stay all day. Trying to give bare minimum facts, what would you say?

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SellFridges · 25/06/2026 22:20

I would. Nice to get a bit of independence. I’d quiz her on how they’ll get home if the trains go wrong though.

Balloonhearts · 25/06/2026 22:20

As long as they're sensible and can be trusted not to do stupid stuff like leave their phones unattended on the beach or swim out of their depth on inflatables. Just hammer it into them, sunscreen, shade, water.

Lightuptheroom · 25/06/2026 22:20

For me it would depend on who she's going with and whether you know them to be sensible and will they stick together ? Also worth checking the trains in your area as a lot of services have been negatively affected by the heat with a lot of cancellations, are they confident travellers?
With temperatures set to hit 35 degrees on the coast, are they sensible enough to go in the shade at midday or will they allow themselves to get burnt? All those sort of questions. My son spent a lot of time on the beach at 15, but we live 10 minutes walk away and he knows to respect the sea and do as he's told by lifeguards

24Dogcuddler · 25/06/2026 22:20

Is she meant to be doing work set? Can they go on Saturday? In some places advice has been essential travel only especially by train.

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NoTeaForMe · 25/06/2026 22:20

My main concern really is the heat….and the sea. It’s set to be 37 degrees here.

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PollyBell · 25/06/2026 22:19

I cant think of a reason to say no

catslovehairties · 25/06/2026 22:19

Of course they should go!

troothfairy · 25/06/2026 22:19

Safety in numbers. I don’t think I’d have a problem with this as long as it was clear they all stayed together the whole day.

LavenderSweetPea · 25/06/2026 22:19

No way. No issue with the distance or her age (I think a trip to the beach would be fine if it wasn't a heatwave), it's just A) We're meant to only be using the trains for essential purposes and B) it'll be scorching at the beach, I don't think it's sensible to be outside all day

Batties · 25/06/2026 22:18

I would say yes

Fatiguedwithlife · 25/06/2026 22:18

I don’t understand people saying no… why on earth not? They’re 15 not 11!

Strawberriesandcaviar · 25/06/2026 22:17

Motherearthisbusy · 25/06/2026 22:17

Hell no. Unless you go and stay nearby.

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