AIBU to say no to my teenage daughter?

She'll be absolutely fine as long as she is mature enough to remember and put plenty of cream on and drink enough. Most 15 year olds are perfectly capable.

I would say go, withe proviso of heat/health/safety issues being followed. Better she goes and you know where she is, than if you say no and she goes anyway! I was going all over the place at 14 and I think it is a shame young people do not have the freedoms we had. She’s got to grow up one day

How does Life 360 help? Genuine question, by the way. I just don’t understand what good it would do.

If she and her friends are sensible, let them go. I was taking two trains and bus on a 3 hour trip to Alton Towers with friends at her age.

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Doing the day trip would not be my issue. It is the sun and heat, that is the issue for me. No matter how much I taught my children about burning, the first holiday on their own as adults they burnt themselves badly.

I live near the beach and it’s been 37° here, it’s unbearable for me in the sun with the heat of the pebbles and glare of the sea. But obviously when you’re in and out of the sea it’s much cooler as the sea is very cold and even a paddle is enough to cool you down. I think sunburn from spf washing off and potential train delays would be the only issues for me

Is it a beach they’re used to? Are they sensible? I’d probably say yes if so.

Well you couldn’t think of a reason so I pointed out one reason. The train gets cancelled then the DD is stuck an hour and 15 minutes away from home. Which then inconveniences the parent if they have to go get them. It’s nothing to do with neurosis, it’s just it’s too hot to be put out like that

Ah it really is a shame op, it could have been a good opportunity for her to show you that she can be responsible for things like water intake/sun cream and keeping herself safe. I'd try and make an effort to say yes next time just so she doesn't start hiding stuff from you. And I'm not saying you should say yes to everything just because she might hide things, but if she really is the only one that isn't going she will probably be extremely annoyed/upset about it and might just sneak off next time without telling you.

I live.on the south coast and am astonished by this thread. I would consider it completely normal behaviour for a teen to go to the beach with friends. Our very long local beach is covered in groups of teenagers from about 12 up really.

As for the miserable people saying kids should stay indoors or do homework....give over. ..let them live a little ! They are in school bloody hours every day this is a rare treat.

Yes I'd absolutely let her go, there'd be a few of conditions (sun cream, hat, at least one bottle of water, no swimming in the sea) but there's not a chance I'd stop her.

Think you've made the right decision OP. Your job is to keep her as safe as possible (without wrapping her in cotton wool of course).
Of course she would say that all of her friends are going but without checking you can't be sure.
Her friends will say they had a fantastic time even if they were miserable in this heat. Bet the hot train journey alone will be uncomfortable to say the least. Point out to her how hot it is indoors and on a beach without any shade in the direct sun, it will be even hotter. If she'd gone and come back with serious sunburn, you'd never have forgiven yourself.
She'll get over it.

Well done OP, very sensible decision. I don’t know what her friend’s parents are thinking to let them go.

All comes down to how sensible she (and her friends) are. At 16 I was on holiday with a big bunch of girls by the sea for a week on our own and at 17 I interrailed solo. Allowing some independence is a good thing.

Only it’s not is it. A 1 hour 15 min journey on a stifling train that is not guaranteed to run due to the extreme heat. Outside all day in extreme heat that we’ve been advised to stay away from, that we’re not used to. Then a possibility of not getting back home on said stifling train, because actually, the extreme weather has caused massive issues and disruption 🤔

So a 15-year-old can't put on sunscreen or a hat? 🙄 So much catastrophising on this thread. It's normal beach weather.

Yes it feels cooler at the beach, but you burn just the same, suffer sunstroke just the same .. then may not be able to get your train back because it’s cancelled due to the heat. The red weather warning is there for a reason. Schools closed for a reason. Essential rail travel only for a reason.

I think it's such a shame for your daughter. At 10 degrees cooler the sea in England is freezing, plus it's always windy at the beach, so feels much cooler than in the city. I think you made the wrong call.

Is she a good swimmer or avoid the water altogether? I’d let her go.
My DD is 17, she’s very behind, wouldn’t go into the water, she went with friends yesterday. I was on my nerves about her, not her but other people as her friends are geeky too, easy targets. She was fine, no trouble on the beach.

Absolutely! My DD is off school today, she came home on the train from school yesterday very ill from the heat. You’ve done the right thing keeping her at home and away from the beach today.

We’ve closed all blinds to keep the sun out and put on the AC unit. It’s lovely. It would be mad to spend all day in the sun today - I hope your DD friends are wearing hats at least!

Are most MNers not aware of the warning against non-essential rail travel, or do they just not give a shit?

You've done the right thing OP. It's an exceptional circumstance today, and there will be other beac trips fot DD.

I think you have done exactly the right thing