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AIBU to expect callers, to leave a voicemail if I am unavailable?

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NeedToTakeTimeToChill · 25/06/2026 12:59

AIBU to think, if you have called me and I didn't answer, LEAVE A VOICEMAIL MESSAGE.

Back in the day, if I called someone up, and they didn't answer, I responded to their answer machine message with "Hi this is NeedToTake, please give me a call back on XXXXX XXXXXX", or maybe a bit more detailed if a work call.

Why do people no longer do this? Why do I have to play the - who has called me game? or call the number and say "someone from this number called me" only to be told they haven't a clue what I am talking about.

So, I had a hospital appointment last week and had to have a biopsy. I'm waiting for the results. So last night at 6.30pm I got a call from a hospital I've never been to (not the one I went to, so it is a bit mysterious). It went to voicemail but left no message. So I called the number back and no one had a clue what I was talking about.

And so, I spent the whole of last night stressed out. Why are they calling me up? Is it about my results?

This morning I called it again and no one has a clue. So I have to play the waiting game again and I have spent the whole morning with my phone in my pocket at work.

AIBU to think this is what voicemail is for, and leaving a basic voicemail message if you have called someone is just basic manners.

OP posts:
catslovehairties · 25/06/2026 13:13

Most hospitals can't leave voicemails as it's considered a potential privacy breach. Annoying though!

Ablondiebutagoody · 25/06/2026 13:11

NHS is generally pretty dysfunctional, not only regarding voicemails

mondaytosunday · 25/06/2026 13:11

@nocoolnamesleftyou may have a point but as most hospitals calling have ‘no caller id’ many may not pick it up. You could just say ‘this is for Jane Doe. Please call Mary Smith on ….’ You don’t have to say Dr or where you are calling from.

NeedToTakeTimeToChill · 25/06/2026 13:07

OK, I see the point then.

Still stressed out though!

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purplecorkheart · 25/06/2026 13:05

I think a lot has to do with GDPR. They do not know who might pick up the voicemail. I can understand why you are annoyed though.

BruceAndNosh · 25/06/2026 13:03

I get a fair number of spam calls and I never answer a call from someone not in my contacts. That means that I can miss a valid call. My voicemail message states that I will only return missed calls if the caller leaves me a message

nocoolnamesleft · 25/06/2026 13:00

I work in a hospital. We are instructed never to leave a voicemail, as we don’t know who might pick it up, potentially breaching confidentiality.

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