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AIBU for refusing to reschedule my interview again for my mum?

110 replies

TooLateToChange · 25/06/2026 09:47

I have a second interview next month for a job I am really interested in. It was originally for the week before but I had to reschedule it as my child (young adult) had a medical appointment that she wanted me to attend with her.

My mum now has a hospital appointment on the same day as the rescheduled interview that she’s asked me to take her to. I’ve said I won’t be able to take her to it as I don’t want to reschedule the interview again. She is saying that if I can reschedule it for my child, I should be willing to do it for her. I don’t think that’s the same and also this would mean rescheduling for a second time which doesn’t look good. The hospital appointment isn’t for anything overly serious but she is worried about it. I’ve asked her to ask my brother or a friend to go with her. It’s nothing personal so they would be just as much help as I could be.

AIBU to not reschedule the interview again?

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Dearg · 25/06/2026 09:57

Call me ageist ( I am 65 if that helps) , but my own experience of elderly parents & in-laws is that they honestly believe their needs trump everything else.

Your mum is being very selfish, tell her to ask someone else.

Good luck with the interview!

Poppingby · 25/06/2026 09:57

Don't reschedule. Your mum is being ridiculous. That you think she might not be suggests she is always like this unfortunately. Of course your child gets more of you than your parent does. The relationship is supposed to be parent supports/scaffolds/helps child and honestly not equally the other way round. This is presumably partly what she didn't understand when she was bringing you up!

99bottlesofkombucha · 25/06/2026 09:57

I wouldn’t reschedule a second time. I get your daughter the first time, but I’d think flaky if you came back to reschedule again for a different reason. It’s hard to line people up for interviews

WhatAMarvelousTune · 25/06/2026 09:53

She is saying that if I can reschedule it for my child, I should be willing to do it for her

She’s wrong. To be unpleasantly blunt, child trumps parent for most people surely?

Also she’s not asking for the same thing that you did for your child. For your child you rearranged an interview. Your mum is asking you to rearrange it again, which would look a lot worse.

You have a brother, so she can go and guilt trip him!

Lomonald · 25/06/2026 09:53

It is fine to ask your brother or someone else, ignore her go to the interview don't even engage with her anymore about it.

VividDeer · 25/06/2026 09:51

I don't think I would of rescheduled once if I wanted the job

Nopenousername · 25/06/2026 09:50

I agree with you, you shouldn’t reschedule for the second time. Your mum will have to go with someone else or in a taxi and you can go to hers in the evening to discuss the appointment

OrangeTrees7 · 25/06/2026 09:50

I think you might find you miss out on the opportunity. Whenever I’ve hosted interviews there’s been set days, rooms booked out etc. if you can’t fit into any of the dates offered the likelihood is we couldn’t interview you. I’d also question a potentially flaky individual given numerous rebooking. You really need to explain it cannot be rescheduled, lie if need be and say it’s that slot or nothing. She has others she can rely on for the appointment

MissMoneyFairy · 25/06/2026 09:49

She can take your brother or a friend, if you reschedule again you may not get another opportunity

Fizzypop88 · 25/06/2026 09:49

Dont reschedule, that’s ridiculous! Your mum is being very self centred