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To have not backed down on this shit of a man on the train?

109 replies

Chefpig · 25/06/2026 08:02

I went to the toilet on a busy commuter train. Came back and the person I was sat next to has his feet on the seat I had vacated. I said excuse me please to him and he begrudgingly moved his feet and sat down. Hes way over my seat with his body anyway with the way he's sat but when I sat down he said 'for fucks sake'. When I asked if there was an issue and not to say for fucks sake to my simple request, he said I was sitting on his knee. I am absolutely not touching him. I told him so and that the way he is sitting means he is taking up some of my seat and that hes very rude, including putting his skanky feet on the seat. He shut up then, but its time after time of men (and a few women, but mostly men) who have their bags on the seats or are just shit fellow commuters with their incessant sniffing and just being unpleasant when asked to move their belongings to free up a seat. AIBU?

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IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 25/06/2026 08:32

He shut up then, but its time after time of men (and a few women, but mostly men) who have their bags on the seats or are just shit fellow commuters

Have to disagree. Both DP and I commute to London a couple of days each week and it's mostly women we see with bags on seats. With feet on seats, or pretending to be asleep using two seats we see more young women doing this than we used to but it's more often young men.

Regardless of gender, it is/they are bloody annoying, rude and selfish.

AnonymityAnonymity · 25/06/2026 08:18

Good for you OP for sticking up for yourself.

I don't travel much by train but I travel regularly on the bus and a lot of passengers behave appallingly on them. I must say though the bad behaviour is across all ages and genders. People taking up a double seat, not giving up the dedicated seats for the elderly and infirm to people who need them etc etc. Putting filthy feet on seats is my particular pet hate. That is mainly young people who do tbat. It's so selfish .

rwalker · 25/06/2026 08:18

Well done for speaking up
take pleasure in the fact he’ll be sulking about this for the rest of the day

zobeit · 25/06/2026 08:15

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Chefpig · 25/06/2026 08:14

The absolute clown still hasn't moved his arse over and is pretending to be asleep. What a twat.

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Rubyslipperswitch · 25/06/2026 08:13

Well done for standing up to this rude man!

I wonder if he would have behaved in the same way if you were a man built like a rugby player...

This type of little bullies think they can do anything and women won't object.

LasVegass · 25/06/2026 08:10

I just have to move carriages when there’s any sniffing. I hate it.

Stella1366 · 25/06/2026 08:07

Well done OP. These people need to be called out. Unfortunately very few do.

MegMortimer · 25/06/2026 08:05

You're not being U of course. Good for you for speaking up, although I would have worried that he would turn violent.